And, I've had a couple of girlfriends that wouldn't care but the majority would have been willing to burn me alive and not waste the piss to put me out, whether I was up front or lied.
If she's aware and cool its not cheating but if she's unaware and you wouldn't tell her then you're cheating/a cheat, or at least if that's the implied rule for both of you. I am not on my high horse or judging, after all when young I'd been to a few and it seemed like harmless fun. At least until I started finding out the proportion of these women(once young girls) that were and possibly still are abused, this took all the fun out of it and I was happy to never be a part of that again.
Tbh I couldn't give a fuck either way, not my life, relationship or outcome but I don't get why so many people lie to themselves. Usually its the same ones that won't shut the fuck up that the "bitch" left them and except no responsibility for their part in it. Over here they generally lose more then half and are left with the kids knowing what's happened and despise them for it along with an ex that just wants to inflict twice the pain back by any means possible.
I'm not judging the going to the strippers but it bothers me that adults refuse to except the truth and then outcomes of their own actions. Caring for someone includes not wanting to hurt them, if this means sacrificing something you want to do so you don't hurt them that's the price of their affection and how good you feel when with them.
Before you do something that you know will hurt your partner imagine that your partner will catch you while doing (whatever) and see the look of pain, betrayal, disgust (whatever) in her eyes, that's the trick to being a better person. Empathy, actually feeling how the other person feels/would feel and altering your needs/wants because of it.
Anyway I'm off to bed so take it easy and take this with a grain of salt as I'm probably 5'1, bald, fat and never touched a woman besides my mother.
