A cousin of mine recently passed away and it's out of state about 1200 miles away. I feel bad because I love the guy and he was a good man, vietnam veteran purple hart tank driver he is getting the full military deal with the 21 guns salute and the band playing and all that stuff. I told my mom i wont be able to make it because its just not a good time for me to be traveling out of state right now with all that I have on my plate. t would be very epensive for me to fly there right now and I would have to buy a set of clothes because I dont have any black funeral apporpriate clothes and i would either have to find someplace to stay or find a hotel, also expensive. I said if it was grandma or one of my uncles I would for sure go but honestly the last time I saw this cousin he didnt remember who I was I dont think (he was 70) and I know a lot of people probably wouldnt come to my funeral being several states away, and I wouldnt blame them for that either.