1. We are currently experiencing technical difficulties. For those experiencing login issues, a temporary solution is to clear your cache and cookies on your web browser. We sincerely apologize for the inconvenience.
  2. The official Sherdog Store is back! Check it out! » Discuss it here! »

Out of state family funerals which ones do you go to?

Discussion in 'Mayberry Lounge' started by Drain Bamage, Feb 6, 2020.

  1. Drain Bamage Banned Banned

    Joined:
    Jun 26, 2017
    Messages:
    19,497
    Likes Received:
    7,487
    Location:
    USA
    A cousin of mine recently passed away and it's out of state about 1200 miles away. I feel bad because I love the guy and he was a good man, vietnam veteran purple hart tank driver he is getting the full military deal with the 21 guns salute and the band playing and all that stuff. I told my mom i wont be able to make it because its just not a good time for me to be traveling out of state right now with all that I have on my plate. t would be very epensive for me to fly there right now and I would have to buy a set of clothes because I dont have any black funeral apporpriate clothes and i would either have to find someplace to stay or find a hotel, also expensive. I said if it was grandma or one of my uncles I would for sure go but honestly the last time I saw this cousin he didnt remember who I was I dont think (he was 70) and I know a lot of people probably wouldnt come to my funeral being several states away, and I wouldnt blame them for that either.
     
  2. PlayswellwithLawnDarts Banned Banned

    Joined:
    Dec 5, 2017
    Messages:
    14,374
    Likes Received:
    1,133
    Location:
    Yeller Brick Rooads
    This is when flowers are sent or a donation is made in the persons honor
     
  3. Blayt7hh Steel Belt

    Joined:
    Jun 24, 2006
    Messages:
    33,782
    Likes Received:
    5,614
    Location:
    Colorado
    Distance wouldn’t really affect my decision. Being busy might though
     
  4. puppybird the wasteland champ

    Joined:
    Jan 1, 2015
    Messages:
    6,243
    Likes Received:
    1,728
    Depends what the card is like
     
  5. hiphopnazi Banned Banned

    Joined:
    Jan 13, 2006
    Messages:
    4,076
    Likes Received:
    595
    Shoot some rounds off at home and make it a 22 gun salute.
     
  6. usmctanker242 Red Belt

    Joined:
    Jan 5, 2008
    Messages:
    9,768
    Likes Received:
    400
    Location:
    Jacksonville, NC
    I don't go to funerals...so that solves the problem. Funerals are just a way for society to squeeze more money out of a person one last time. I have effectively "sequestered" myself to mourn for a day or two over the years for good friends (lost a few solid military buddies), but I won't spend my time going to an expensive funeral. As you stated the travel time, time off work, potential cost of clothes / general travel expenses...it gets to be too much. Nobody I know would want to put me through that kind of hardship just so I could go to their funeral, and the reverse is also true.

    Either way sorry to hear about your cousin dying...sounds like he was a tough SOB and my respects to a fellow Tanker.
     
  7. TSO Pink Belt

    Joined:
    Dec 31, 2009
    Messages:
    15,061
    Likes Received:
    227
    Location:
    Kings Landing
    I don't do funerals. The person who died doesn't care, they're dead. Everyone else is there to get attention and to "out-sad" the others.
     
  8. Merlotte's Gold Belt

    Joined:
    Aug 31, 2009
    Messages:
    16,511
    Likes Received:
    7,254
    Location:
    Clap shack
    I don’t think any family has ever had a funeral out of state.
     
  9. Fuzzybabyducks Duck/pricechopper

    Joined:
    Sep 15, 2015
    Messages:
    17,216
    Likes Received:
    5,725
    Location:
    Pond
    Grandparents , brother, sister, parents would be the only ones . Although when I was in college my grandparents in Ireland died and I didn’t go ... but that’s another country . Still out of state I guess .
     
  10. Jesus X Hunter eyes

    Joined:
    Apr 4, 2005
    Messages:
    28,390
    Likes Received:
    5,482
    when my cousin died of liver failure I didn't go to his funeral it was just too depressing. I avoid funerals when I can.
     
  11. dc007 mr. white belt

    Joined:
    Apr 18, 2006
    Messages:
    30,825
    Likes Received:
    4,961
    Location:
    NYC
    Only have gone when they were in NJ just across the river. Any others, forget it.
     
  12. MMA since 1993 ____________ Banned

    Joined:
    Oct 3, 2007
    Messages:
    16,901
    Likes Received:
    2
    Location:
    Texas
    None.

    Just like destination weddings. Not gonna be able to make it.
     
  13. Doughbelly αlpha-nerdette, action scientist

    Joined:
    Oct 12, 2003
    Messages:
    15,831
    Likes Received:
    37
    Location:
    2nd Star to the Right & straight on til morning.
    Who's more important to you, the deceased or their family?
     

Share This Page

  1. This site uses cookies to help personalise content, tailor your experience and to keep you logged in if you register.
    By continuing to use this site, you are consenting to our use of cookies.