Out of state family funerals which ones do you go to?

[Drain Bamage]

A cousin of mine recently passed away and it's out of state about 1200 miles away. I feel bad because I love the guy and he was a good man, vietnam veteran purple hart tank driver he is getting the full military deal with the 21 guns salute and the band playing and all that stuff. I told my mom i wont be able to make it because its just not a good time for me to be traveling out of state right now with all that I have on my plate. t would be very epensive for me to fly there right now and I would have to buy a set of clothes because I dont have any black funeral apporpriate clothes and i would either have to find someplace to stay or find a hotel, also expensive. I said if it was grandma or one of my uncles I would for sure go but honestly the last time I saw this cousin he didnt remember who I was I dont think (he was 70) and I know a lot of people probably wouldnt come to my funeral being several states away, and I wouldnt blame them for that either.

 

[PlayswellwithLawnDarts]

This is when flowers are sent or a donation is made in the persons honor

 

[Blayt7hh]

Distance wouldn’t really affect my decision. Being busy might though

 

[puppybird]

Depends what the card is like

 

[hiphopnazi]

Shoot some rounds off at home and make it a 22 gun salute.

 

[usmctanker242]

I don't go to funerals...so that solves the problem. Funerals are just a way for society to squeeze more money out of a person one last time. I have effectively "sequestered" myself to mourn for a day or two over the years for good friends (lost a few solid military buddies), but I won't spend my time going to an expensive funeral. As you stated the travel time, time off work, potential cost of clothes / general travel expenses...it gets to be too much. Nobody I know would want to put me through that kind of hardship just so I could go to their funeral, and the reverse is also true.

Either way sorry to hear about your cousin dying...sounds like he was a tough SOB and my respects to a fellow Tanker.

 

[TSO]

I don't do funerals. The person who died doesn't care, they're dead. Everyone else is there to get attention and to "out-sad" the others.

 

[Merlotte's]

I don’t think any family has ever had a funeral out of state.

 

[Fuzzybabyducks]

Grandparents , brother, sister, parents would be the only ones . Although when I was in college my grandparents in Ireland died and I didn’t go ... but that’s another country . Still out of state I guess .

 

[Jesus X]

when my cousin died of liver failure I didn't go to his funeral it was just too depressing. I avoid funerals when I can.

 

[dc007]

Only have gone when they were in NJ just across the river. Any others, forget it.

 

[MMA since 1993]

None.

Just like destination weddings. Not gonna be able to make it.

 

[Doughbelly]

Who's more important to you, the deceased or their family?