I kind of see where he's coming from: she's certainly pretty but without BJJ she wouldn't stand out from the masses of other good-looking women out there. Not that I expect anybody to believe me (nor do I care if anybody does), but I've dated women who I would say looked at least as good as her and I am not particularly good looking myself (hint: your sense of humor will get you EVERYWHERE.) So it's not like she's some sort of unobtainable beauty; she's just an attractive, very fit woman who happens to share a passion that we all enjoy.