Just spend $230 for a date - WASTE OF TIME!

[PRIDEWASBETTER]

Just hit the OP with teh Ban Stormbreaker and put him out of everyone's misery

Nah, we're going to let him become the equivalent of Comic Captain Marvel.

 

[MUSTKILL]

Let me start from the top, but please bare with me because I am fuming right now so I might not write perfectly. THIS IS NOT TLR FRIENDLY

I know a girl (let's call her Clara) who I met in my Operations Management class back in college a few years back. Not going to post a picture, but she is stunning. Long black hair with light brown eyes, slim figure and about 5'4, light skin w/ freckles. Back then, we were paired up in 4 people teams for our class final group project (where we had to design a workflow for a specific product/service).

I was in charge of the powerpoint, she was in charge of admin work, and the other two people were data focused. I remember there was a study night where we all were together practicing in the library and the other two left, with just her and I left. She said "I know we will do great", which struck me as odd because she didn't say "Our team" she said "we" while looking at me. I would always do silly things to talk to her like forget my pen(she would always laugh cause i would always forget my pen, but she didn't realize I was doing it on purpose)

Anyways, fast forward to present time. About 2 weeks ago I ran into her at Kroger (grocery store) , she was waiting on the self checkout line (it was quite full cause it was a sunday) She was still beautiful as ever, with even more curves. I asked her how she has been after graduating and she said she did an internship and was in the process of looking for a new position. She does accounting like me and I told her I have been doing well and work as a full time. A position opened up at my job that is a junior role. I told her that I have been working out a lot more and that I go to the gym almost every other day. I also told her I recently been collecting Medieval weapons/armors and she told me she went to Medieval times (which I joked and told her that's for kids) , so we had this natural click and I could feel the attraction. She asked if we could talk more over coffee and gave me her number (she had just finished packing her bags and I was talking to her)

Now let's get something straight. When women want to talk about business, they don't give you their number, they give you their e-mail address and/or linkedin. ALSO, when she said it she said it in a higher pitch than usual and it's been documented that women will speak in a higher pitch when speaking to a guy they like (I am prefacing this because people give me shit about it).

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Part 2: So I told my friend I got her number and he gave me the "oh shit" emoji. Told me that it makes no sense to take a girl out to cffee since that's cheap, so he told me to take her out to a pretty famous mexican restaurant (she is spanish). So I messaged her and told her to do food instead and she responded "Okay, that sound's great." and we arranged to meet for a lunch.

So when we met I made reservations and she looked drop dead gorgeous as usual, she cracked a joke that she felt underdressed (I was wearing a suit) and I told her it was part of my company policy (it really isnt i just look great in one). We got the table and I immediately ordered the lobster appetizer (which honestly wasnt that good, it was super small and cost like $28) We talked about a lot of things, Trump, the job, medieval weapons (I showed her photos of my maces). She even mentioned she had a brother named Jose so I told her "is it pronounced Joe Say or Hoe Say" and told her how people always mispronounced Jose Aldo's name. She didnt know Aldo so I then showed her Jose Aldo's finish of Jeremy Stephens and then his loss to Conor McGregor, she said she knew who McGregor was which I thought was super hot (shes gorgeous and watches MMA!!, PLUS)

Throughout the whole meal the bill totalleed up to like $150, I went to reach for her hand to touch on top of it while smiling at her and she kind of pulled her hand back which was insulting to me. So when we were leaving she said she had to take a call from her brother (I joked and said "Joe Say?") and I waited for her to walk her back (I think it's rude not to walk women back to their cars, plus I had a surprise)

So I walk her back and told her to wait because I had to get something from my car, I had bought her Richard Donnelly Chocolates which are an extremely expensive brand (Cost me $70) and told her I noticed she bought some chocolate at Kroger so I knew she was a sweet tooth, she said thank you and gave me a hug (she smelled so good).

Anyway, I reached in for a kiss and she did the whole head turning thing and I figured I might have been too forward (I have alot of confidence and can sometimes think light of things like that) so I told her I'd call her later. She never fucking picked up. I texted her and it took THREE fucking days to get a response. and she basically told me she was happy to see me but that she had a boyfriend - yeah fucking bullshit, if you had a boyfriend you would never have shown up, or you would have told me when we kissed (well almost kissed) .

I told her I thought it was bullshit that she led me on and told her that the chocolates i fucking spent were very rare brand and all I get is a fucking hug and no call? What kind of bulllshit is that? I swear it's shit like that makes me think dating is a fucking waste of time, why bother spending so much when you can easily pay equal amts for way more attractive women or just watch porn.

Its insane, anyways

TLDR: I went on a date with a girl, spent a lot of gifts and shit only for her to tell me AFTER that she had a man.

Shouldn't have listened to your friend.
If she asked for a coffee date, and you change it to an expensive lunch with rare chocolates, you should only be mad at yourself.
Girl told you what she wanted to do and you flipped the script to turn it into a super serious date.
Prob thought you were being clingy af and decided not to continue seeing you after that FIRST date.
Your reaction to her delayed response only confirms her suspicion of your clingyness.
Anyone that throws gifts, money, and expensive meals for a first date screams "Please let me buy your affection for my lack of personality"
The result is what it is.

 

[BEER]

It doesn't seem like she gave you any signals at all. You could have gone for coffee and caught up, but YOU made the decision to go all out and spend a bunch of money.

She pulled her hand away when you tried to touch her. That was your first hint. Then you tried to kiss her after she didn't show any affection whatsoever. She accepted your gift, but what else is she going to do? Say "can't accept your chocolate, maybe get a refund"?

This is one of the most ridiculous "nice guy" post I've ever seen. You could have gone for coffee, she would have rejected you, and you would have spent less than 10 bucks. Instead you were presumptuous, dumped a bunch of money, and expected something in return for something she never asked for.

This is on you TS, do better.

 

[gonads20]

You came off as a little desperate to me. She wanted to have coffee but you wanted to blow your load all in one shot by taking her to a fancy dinner. First dates are meant to see if you are compatable and enjoy each others company. Second she didnt ask you to bring her chocolates so dont get mad at her with how much they cost. Also, alot of girls have more than one guy they keep around until they find what they feel as their number one. You were auditioning for her to make you her number one dude and you didnt pass the audition. The guy she was dating has better looks, more money, funnier, "insert quality" than you. I can write another 3 paragraphs about how this date wasnt going well for you. Starting with you trying to impress a girl with your "medieval weapons collection" but ill stop now. Dont worry about it though there are 3.5 billion girls on this planet.

 

[chickenlip]

Now that I think about it. It's kind of weird that TS threw out the job opportunity there and then tried to bang her also. Why would you try to work with someone your just starting a relationship with that just sounds like a bad idea.

I was making a joke about the hiring thing but obviously she was looking for him to do something for her, which in his situation was kind of a shitty move. Don’t go out to an expensive place trying to get a job and don’t lead someone on with the possibility of a job. If they were both up front this wouldn’t have happened. I hope he gets a piece though just for having him spend so much

 

[SamSchmidt]

Yeah I spent like 300 bucks on a girl at the casino the other night. But I got hella drunk and she was like, "I can't be with heavy drinkers, goodbye."

What a waste

 

[Mixedfights]

Dude she wanted to talk over coffee and you went all out right away. You fucked it up coming off very desperate.

Lesson for next time. Dont try so hard.

 

[Deleted member 220895]

International women's day is not the day to be making this complaint, you dirty man.

 

[Ken Fresno]

 

[Stargazer Rex]

I didn't read all that. Did you ask her if she was seeing anybody before you took her out?

 

[Ogata]

You should have done the coffee but regardless it would have been pointless. She was there for the simple reason of networking. Regardless if she has a boyfriend or not, her intent from the beginning was about self-serving. Also when you knew her few years ago, she said during the project " We work well together" this could have been manipulation because she saw you as a resource.

But if we want to look at it from an optimistic way, she could have been interested in you despite having a boyfriend and was trying to monkey branch to a better relationship but for whatever reason the cost analysis in her head saw it that you are not a significant improvement. So in that case, if she does it with you, she would do it to you so bullet dodged anyways.

 

[SCTrojans]

TLDR: I went on a date with a girl, spent a lot of gifts and shit only for her to tell me AFTER that she had a man.[/QUOTE]

Only read the bottom, not reading all that shit. You're a dumbass. You spent 200+ only for her to go home and get beast fucked by her bf lmao.

 

[PRIDEWASBETTER]

I didn't read all that. Did you ask her if she was seeing anybody before you took her out?

 

[HomeCheese]

First date is better on the cheap, like coffee or a walk. Sometimes I'll go for a meal on the first meeting but generally not anyplace too expensive. It's possible she actually does not have a boyfriend and simply told you that to try to not hurt your feelings.

 

[Morning Star]

Lunch date in a fancy suit, showing her your medieval weapons collection, showing her MMA knockouts, and buying her $200+ in food/chocolates. That's some shitty fanfic you got here buddy. I mean this is Sherdog so I can't dismiss that there is a decent probability that you're on the spectrum, but either way, do better.

 

[Hogey]

You are a fucking loser if you talking to a woman about some medieval weapons you collect.

I bet you it’s all cheap garbage too

Bet you called her m lady a bunch of time and thought you where being cute

 

[jericksen5]

Here’s where you fucked up:
-You notice things about her and related them back to yourself and talked about yourself.
-You talked to her about your workout routines.
-You talked to her about mid evil weapons (for real?)
-You bought her expensive chocolates on a first date.
-You went in for a kiss, apparently not realizing the above was a total crash and burn. That’s not how you save a bad date.

 

[44nutman]

I have been out of the dating scene for a while, but will give you some tips.
1. First date at an expensive restaurant is dumb. Do the coffee, which you can get out for less than 12 bucks if she never calls you back. Happy Hour also works, because if the date is going south, you can get drunk. Save the expensive date for like date 4 or 5. First couple should be casual.
2. Keep the mace talk to yourself until you know the chick is into you. Listen I would love to talk maces with you, but I don't want to bang you and you don't want to bang me. Well you might want to bang me, but since you took a chick out, I am going to assume you are straight. I am a comic book and Star Wars nerd, I did not bring that shit up to the wife until after the first month.

 

[PRIDEWASBETTER]

Here’s where you fucked up:
-You notice things about her and related them back to yourself and talked about yourself.
-You talked to her about your workout routines.
-You talked to her about mid evil weapons (for real?)
-You bought her expensive chocolates on a first date.
-You went in for a kiss, apparently not realizing the above was a total crash and burn. That’s not how you save a bad date.

Sounds like he was at a job interview.

 

[Te Huna Matata]

I don’t reckon showing a girl MMA knockouts is a great strategy on a first “date”

Or talking about your medieval mace collection you fucking dork.