I've created a monster

thinly veiled fit shaming thread
 
I'm curious if your suggestion that she join the gym with you is a tip of the iceberg statement. In reality, did you start telling her she was fat and unattractive? Sorry, I don't mean to accuse you, as I don't know you, but often people make themselves sound better when explaining their side of a situation, so you have to explore what the possible underlying meaning of their seemingly innocuous statements are.
 
Being a vegan brainwashed is a pretty hard thing to get away from since it is really like a religion or even cult. I suggest visiting a pro who specializes in cults and getting ppl out of them.
 
smellmyfarts said:
We live together, so breaking up will be harder. I would like to fix the problem, but it's not looking good at this point, as she all about this lifestyle change.

The problem also goes beyond not finding her attractive now. We also can't go out to eat anywhere now too. It's a total pain in the ass. It just seems odd how fast this relationship has turned to shit over a stupid diet craze.
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Start stocking the fridge with food you know she likes that will make her fatter.
 
Yeah, I very briefly dated a chick with messed up body image and an eating disorder. She was an obsessive runner. Looked gaunt at a weight she was happy with, looked nice at what she thought was big.

You've got 3 options that I see:

1) Wait a little and hope her enthusiasm wanes.
2) If her friends and family think she looks as terrible as you think, you could stage a mini- or full blown intervention. She may need psychiatric eating disorder help.
3) Get out

Oh, yeah - this being Sherdog: 4) Hire someone to break both her legs, then only serve her meaty, sugary, fatty food while she's laid up.
 
bigbangspiritbomb said:
The nit picking usually is female logic when she spots a new cawk she wants to jump or worse multiple cawk. This is woman 101. It's not Disney or a romance flick. It's real life.

Call her out. She brings up drinking you call her on weed. If it's tick for tack it won't work.

Best advice? Set boundaries. Download way of the superior man by David Deida. She has something. She is about the gym. You are about her. A woman is not your purpose and if you make her so nothing will dry up the pussy faster. Worse you plant the thought that she can do no wrong. That she can contemplate indulging else where. Begin course correction now. Begin to find some passion about life that isn't about your woman. Go travel or start a business. Women come and go. Love or like it makes no difference. If a woman is unpleasant to be around its time for her to go. It's the pleasure that comes with no live in gf.
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^This guy's advice is underrated imo.
 
smellmyfarts said:
She actually eats a tone of avacado, but since she doesn't eat cooked food anymore, the only oil she'll eat is olive oil on her sallads.

I've done a little research on it, and she's definitely not eating enough seeds, nuts, or legumes. From what I'm reading, that's what's causing the pale skin. She's not getting enough protien. Add to this the fact that she spends over an hour a day on the treadmill. It's breaking her body down for sure.
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She is lacking in a lot more than just protein. There are tons of micronutrients that she's not getting too. Seriously, I give it 6 months before she needs medical attention. By the way, welcome to the world of anorexia nervosa. That's what you are describing if she's still trying to lose weight after crashing down 40 pounds.

Jesus Freak said:
Another classic example of why you DON'T move in together unless you're ready to make an everlasting commitment!
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I'm all for your intent, but I seriously believe that this is a bad idea. People should absolutely spend some time living with one another to make sure that they are compatible. Even if there were no sex involved, two people should spend some time learning to see if the other person's little habits and flaws are things that they can each live with. If I had lived with my ex-wife before we had gotten married, I probably never would have married her. There was just a lot of important stuff that I missed. I am about to move in with my girlfriend, and I couldn't be more excited. I absolutely feel like she's the love of my life, and I want to spend every minute with her. I'm totally ready to commit to her, and I'm viewing this move-in as an opportunity to grow together.
 
sub_thug said:
She is lacking in a lot more than just protein. There are tons of micronutrients that she's not getting too. Seriously, I give it 6 months before she needs medical attention. By the way, welcome to the world of anorexia nervosa. That's what you are describing if she's still trying to lose weight after crashing down 40 pounds.


I'm all for your intent, but I seriously believe that this is a bad idea. People should absolutely spend some time living with one another to make sure that they are compatible. Even if there were no sex involved, two people should spend some time learning to see if the other person's little habits and flaws are things that they can each live with. If I had lived with my ex-wife before we had gotten married, I probably never would have married her. There was just a lot of important stuff that I missed. I am about to move in with my girlfriend, and I couldn't be more excited. I absolutely feel like she's the love of my life, and I want to spend every minute with her. I'm totally ready to commit to her, and I'm viewing this move-in as an opportunity to grow together.
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Problem is, people are seriously blinded by their lust and infatuation for one another when they begin dating...

If you take a step back and analize things with the right "head", you can pick up on a lot of stuff early on.

The small stuff that sorta bugs you during your first year together will BUG THE @&$% OUT OF YOU down the road!
 
Jesus Freak said:
Problem is, people are seriously blinded by their lust and infatuation for one another when they begin dating...

If you take a step back and analize things with the right "head", you can pick up on a lot of stuff early on.

The small stuff that sorta bugs you during your first year together will BUG THE @&$% OUT OF YOU down the road!
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I totally agree with you that people are blinded by puppy love. If you live with someone, it forces you to deal with those issues. It's so much easier to see them when you literally have nowhere else to go. When you are crawling into bed with that person every night, you can kiss personal space goodbye.
 
Sounds a little bit eating disordery.

Not easy. Try to encourage healthy veganism or at least healthier. Do your research and help her back from the edge.

Or say you want relationship counselling because it bothers you so much and you want help to resolve it one way or another.
 
Every time I see the title of this thread I sing to myself "I've created a monster that's under my bed, get along with the voices inside of my head..."
 
sub_thug said:
I totally agree with you that people are blinded by puppy love. If you live with someone, it forces you to deal with those issues. It's so much easier to see them when you literally have nowhere else to go. When you are crawling into bed with that person every night, you can kiss personal space goodbye.
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Nah, then you end up in the same place as OP...you're wanting to break up, but are too invested...someone finally snaps and a messy break-up ensues. This can go on relationship after relationship...

How do I know? Happened to me...several times!
 
Jesus Freak said:
Nah, then you end up in the same place as OP...you're wanting to break up, but are too invested...someone finally snaps and a messy break-up ensues. This can go on relationship after relationship...

How do I know? Happened to me...several times!
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Bro, I totally feel what you are saying. But just imagine that you had to replace the word "break-up" with "divorce" in your statement. Yikes! That would hurt badly. As crappy as a bad break-up is, it's nothing compared to a divorce. My suggestion to anyone is to get married once and only once. Be prepared to love that person to the end of your days and beyond because you are stuck with them forever. It better be someone that you really want to be with.
 
smellmyfarts said:
We live together, so breaking up will be harder. I would like to fix the problem, but it's not looking good at this point, as she all about this lifestyle change.

The problem also goes beyond not finding her attractive now. We also can't go out to eat anywhere now too. It's a total pain in the ass. It just seems odd how fast this relationship has turned to shit over a stupid diet craze.
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I think if you wait it out, this may pass. She sounded like a pretty normal girl, no way she keeps it up.
 
smellmyfarts said:
So my GF of 4 years decided to drop some weight and get in shape at the first of the year after I suggested that she started going to the gym with me. She wasn't really what you would call fat, but she was starting to get soft arms, big legs/butt etc. When we met, she had a pretty nice figure, but between a desk job and hitting 30 She's packed on about 20lbs over the last few years. She's 5' 10" and I want to say she was around 170lbs before she decided to lose weight About 4 months ago.

Long story short, she is now running about 50 miles a week and has gone to a raw vegan diet. At first I thought she looked great after losing about 15lbs the first month, but now she's like 130lbs and looks like she's on drugs. I've even had several people ask me if she's doing drugs. Honestly, she looked better before, as she literally has no curves now.

I'm OK with the exercise, but this diet she's on is madness, and like a lot of vegans, it's almost like a religion to her at this point. I've tried to talk to her about it, but she goes ape shit if I tell her her new diet is too much, and that she looks sick now.

can this be fixed, or am I stuck with a stick figure GF that I don't even want to sleep with now?
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sub_thug said:
Bro, I totally feel what you are saying. But just imagine that you had to replace the word "break-up" with "divorce" in your statement. Yikes! That would hurt badly. As crappy as a bad break-up is, it's nothing compared to a divorce. My suggestion to anyone is to get married once and only once. Be prepared to love that person to the end of your days and beyond because you are stuck with them forever. It better be someone that you really want to be with.
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Not sure about any of you guys, but when I said "for better, for worse...till death do us part", I meant it.
 
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