Is losing interest in things that once shaped your life normal?

[smellmyfarts]

I just got back from a rock concert, and I have to say that I was bored out of my mind. A friend of mine that recorded a few albums for one of my bands back in the day called me and asked if I wanted a VIP ticket to the show. Long story short, I met up with him at the concert, and sat in a VIP seat, while we drank from a private bar all evening, yet all I did was get annoyed with all the people around me and hate on all the bands.

I spent literally 20 years of my life devoted to playing guitar and singing; however, I left this show questioning if I even was into music anymore. I have thousands of dollars in guitars and amps in my basement that just collect dust these days. I haven'r done an open mic in almost 2 years, and I haven't been in a band in almost 4 years.

It just seems weird that I spent a good part of my late teens and 20's so devoted to being a professional rock/metal musician, but I find myself these days listening to nothing but classic radio rock and outlaw 70's country, which is way before my time (I'm in my 30's). I'm unsure if music really sucks this bad, or I'm just old.

Another this that bothered me is the fact that I caught myself getting all racist tonight. We went out to eat after the show at one of the old hangouts, and there were cops everywhere. When I asked one of the waitresses what the deal was, they pointed to a new club across the street, and talked about the recent surge in violence. I looked over and all I saw was a large number of athletic and explosive kids hanging outside some club with a bunch of fat white chicks with hip hop blasting. While I've never been the racist type, I found myself engaged in conversation about how this place should be shut down, and bitched the whole way home about how much my town is starting to suck because of the demographics. WTF is wrong with me? Is this just what happens>

 

[odog]

Yes.

Except the racist part.

That's just you.

 

[SSgt Dickweed]

I could relate, I am pretty much changing my entire personality and interests while closing in on 30.

 

[M3t4tr0n]

People change for a lot of different reasons. I feel like every 5 years or so I go thru a change of sorts. The person I am now is totally different from the teenage version of me. It's like two different people. Things I used to like and love change and sometimes change back.

 

[IIIIIIII]

yes, it's normal. we all leave and enter different stages in life. it's kind of sad to me when you come across people who have never, "evolved" past a certain stage.

 

[Jesus X]

Yup ,I'm attending classical music concerts and riding catamarans. 20 year old me was drinking mad dog 20/20 and playing xbox.

 

[koolinkunming]

You're getting old. Welcome to middle age.

 

[AgentSmecker]

Where's your head at brah? Losing interest in things you previously enjoyed is a major sign of depression. Not saying that's the case with yourself but, you know, just something to be aware of.

 

[smellmyfarts]

Except the racist part.

That's just you.

Yeah, but it wasn't me 5 years ago. While I've never been a fan of violence, I never would have singled out a particular group, and said that's the problem in regards to race. I just feel like I generalize more when it comes to people these days. I find myself with a guilty until proven innocent attitude instead of an innocent until proven guilty attitude. I'm just so much less understanding when it comes to people being shitheads.

 

[smellmyfarts]

Where's your head at brah? Losing interest in things you previously enjoyed is a major sign of depression. Not saying that's the case with yourself but, you know, just something to be aware of.

I don't know if I would say I'm depressed, but I do feel like life just isn't as fun or interesting as it used to be. I've lost a lot of friends in the last few years. I've had to remove a lot of people from my life because they're just too much drama, but sometimes I think I kind of miss that drama.

I don't know if that really makes sense.....

 

[Plutoburn]

Isn't this why young people start left wing, and end up right wing when they get old?

Statistically anyways.

 

[Eyepokesftw]

Sounds like you had the dream of making it big as a musician but that just didn't work out for you... and now you're bitter about it.

Deep down inside you were jealous of those bands on the stage.

 

[AgentSmecker]

I don't know if I would say I'm depressed, but I do feel like life just isn't as fun or interesting as it used to be. I've lost a lot of friends in the last few years. I've had to remove a lot of people from my life because they're just too much drama, but sometimes I think I kind of miss that drama.

I don't know if that really makes sense.....

Depression can be a very insidious thing that slowly sucks all the joy out of your life and grinds you down. Many people go through life and do not even know they are suffering from depression or in many cases most likely they don't want to acknowledge the fact that they may be depressed. with so much social stigma still attached to mental health issues it can be a tough thing to own up to for some. Perhaps you should investigate the possibility further.

 

[ehtheist]

I think so. Housman wrote a stirring poem with questionable mathematics in it about changing values, so there must be something going on there.



When first my way to fair I took
Few pence in purse had I,
And long I used to stand and look
At things I could not buy.

Now times are altered: if I care
To buy a thing, I can;
The pence are here and here's the fair,
But where's the lost young man?

--- To think that two and two are four
And neither five nor three
The heart of man has long been sore
And long 'tis like to be.

 

[Thai Otoshi]

At least you admit to being racist.

It's refreshing, in a scumbag kind of way.

 

[Screwtape]

Everything turns to ashes in your mouth. Except black people. That isn't normal.

 

[Flemmy Stardust]

When one door closes, another opens up.

Bye bye metal, hello racism.

 

[RetiredSlave]

I guess, youre starting to go into get off my lawn mode. Its a little early for it but every human male eventually becomes the same cranky old coot.

 

[BajaMaliKnindza]

Ive been a racist bigot my whole life so i cant relate on that note. Having said that, i think a change of interests, and priorities is normal as you get older

 

[Skip Reming]

When I asked one of the waitresses what the deal was, they pointed to a new club across the street, and talked about the recent surge in violence. I looked over and all I saw was a large number of athletic and explosive kids hanging outside some club with a bunch of fat white chicks with hip hop blasting. While I've never been the racist type, I found myself engaged in conversation about how this place should be shut down, and bitched the whole way home about how much my town is starting to suck because of the demographics. WTF is wrong with me? Is this just what happens>

Well, in a way you have some facts. 1) that there are cops because there are more violence at a club across the street. 2) black guys and fat white girls are at that club
You think if you get rid of #2 that #1 will also go away

So is this racist or just acknowledging fact? I say facts can't be racist. If you ignore it because they are black that is racist. If nothing is bothering you except the fact they are black then you are racist, but the fact that you are bitching about the extra cops and violence would mean this is probably not the case.