Is it important to you that your son is cool?

[lion paw]

I'd rather have my son be quiet cool with a side of weird. I hope my son is the quiet guy who'll whoop your ass if you aggravate him. I got aggravated on certain occasions and held it all in. I hope those cats from back then try and re-start shit soon. It ain't gone go the way they want it.

 

[Brampton_Boy]

Cool? No

Loved and Happy? Emphatic Yes

I would only become concerned about my child's social standing if he or she felt ostracized or lonely.

 

[ithinktheymad]

More important that he's a kind person and most important that he doesn't let the opinions of a bunch of future nobodies stop him from being friends with whomever he wants.

 

[Jermei]

The cool kids with the nice clothes and bad attitudes didn't think me or my friends were cool but we were the ones laughing all the time and getting along with various people. I'd rather my kids be socially balanced and be with good people than the "cool kids" which were usually assholes. When I was a teenager...

 

[fbgn]

wouldn't give much a shit

 

[Bukowski82]

My Dad was like this with me and my brother... Still is in many respects. I've had him tell me I should break up with a girl before simply because she wasn't attractive enough, essentially call me a loser whenever I got even second place at a sporting event and tell me that if I ever received a C, that I shouldn't even bother coming home. We were expected to be the best at everything, which really sucked for me because I'm not naturally good at much. lol. It was really hard growing up like that. But today, my brother is the most exceptional and successful person I know in just about any category I can think of. And while far less successful than him, I do alright for myself.

He's also the only person that ever fully believed in me regardless of what I wanted to do and supported it even if it seemed crazy, so I know it wasn't just solely a superficial thing with him. Without his pushing us, I don't think I would have the confidence or grit that I think I do. While it was hard dealing with it when I was younger, I'm thankful for it now.

 

[armbarforhire]

More important he's not gay.

Which these days, might make him cool oddly enough.

Whats cool is really random, could be the guys doing drugs, the guys dressing in skinny jeans, the jocks, comic book characthers are cool now.

So would be more about teaching the ins and outs of social interaction so he doenst becomes a total nerd, ie avoid falling in to the friendzone of a queen bee, bullied, etc.

 

[Corin7hian]

I want my son to be happy and if he is then all that matters is that his friends are cool and not in a popular way but as people.

 

[Lethal_Striker]

Let him be who he's going to be. Being cool doesn't mean shit once you get out of high school.

 

[Higus]

It's ok if he likes nerdy things and hangs out with nerdy friends, but I hope he at least has the confidence to stand up to bullies and approach women he's interested in.

 

[DM1982]

No, but it's important my daughter is hot!

 

[Phlog]

If he's doing what he wants to do, why the fuck would you care? Also why a son specifically you sexist?

Discuss.

 

[Bebop]

if you measure anything by "cool"ness as an adult, you yourself don't even have the social comprehension of a college kid.

 

[mushishi]

I would teach him how to put lemonade in a water cup at Subway, and the fine art of dabbing a slice of pizza with 10 napkins. Then he will be cool.

 

[mushishi]

I have a 9 year old son. Its more important to me that he is respectful and nice to others. Its more important that the world is a better place because of him. Its more important that he is happy and lives his life, on his terms.

I don't know who you are, but I like your post. Get an av so I can put a face to your name. haha

 

[FinalFight]

I'd be happy with my kid being a nerd. Better than conforming to peer pressure.

 

[kahiljabroni]

No id rather my son never consider the concept of cool and just do him. Id hope he could see school for what it is...a game and a stepping stone.
A game in the sense that he realizes that most of what he is being taught has no practical application in the real world. Yet still realizes that how he performs will determine his lot in life.

 

[SammyPops]

have a daughter, but still no

 

[VroomyJeeps]

it's important to me that my son is spool, as in a spool of thread, woven in to the fabric that is society. humankind has not woven the web of life, we are but one thread within it. whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves. all things are bound together. all things connect.

 

[Simian Raticus]

I hope his friends are good people and that he's happy. That's it.

I wish I'd cared less about what people thought of me at that age. You don't realise at the time that it doesn't matter in the least.