I dont have kids but my sister has a daughter shes 17 years old and when I visited my mom and she started telling me about the struggles that my niece and her mom (my sister) are going though it was like the universe made it so clear that she and I share the same gene
My niece goes to one of those schools for super smart people, shes on a complete scholarship, my sister doesnt pay anything, but my sister is always fighting with her because she says my niece doesnt put all her effort in her studies, she always puts just 50% because she knows 50% is just enough to not lose her scholarship and pass. When my mom told me this I was like OMG WOW... this is EXACTLY how I felt and what I did during my entire school education
My mom asked me "what can your sister do?" I laughed and I said ABSOLUTELY FUCKING NOTHING! my niece already knows shes smarter than everybody else in that classroom, and she knows she can fuck around all afternoon and just putting a little effort will be enough to be above everybody else. Why would she kill herself studying when doing other stuff is more interesting to her.
All this conversation and discovery about my niece started because a few months ago my niece and I had to share an activity together for her school. I noticed she followed instructions extremely well and she figured out things very quickly. A week later I went to my moms house and just talking around I mentioned to her "hey mom my niece is very intelligent".... my mom looked at me suprised and laughed and said "your niece was here a couple days ago you know what she said? - hey grandma my uncle is very intelligent" lol...I swear thats what happened and shit like this can not be coincidental!