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Im gonna give it to you straight, no beating around the bush

and most importantly can you bench teh 275?
 
Who was the first love of your life? (mother, father, grandmother, etc.) And what was their greatest struggle in life?
 
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What would you like to know?
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Are you happy? Really happy? Like lyrics to the piano song at the end of Bo Burnham happy?

If so why? If not why not?

And if not, how can we help?
 
FierceRedBelt said:
Who was the first love of your life? (mother, father, grandmother, etc.) And what was their greatest struggle in life?
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Deep son.

It was definitely my mother, I was very close to my mom when I was growing up (till about 11 years old). Her biggest struggle was drug addiction. She had a grade 8 education, not a very good relationship with ether of her parents and was the scape goat of the family. She has 3 sisters and 1 brother, who are all very successful. It is kind of weird how she ended so far off the path. She is 53 now, and 2 years clean and sober and finally rebuilding relationships with her family. She is doing good these days.
 
These Two Hands said:
Are you happy? Really happy? Like lyrics to the piano song at the end of Bo Burnham happy?

If so why? If not why not?

And if not, how can we help?
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Right now I am about 8.5/10 happy. Dating a great girl since three years, living in a nice place, stable job with great beneifts, speak two languages (this is new, been in Quebec for 5 years now) and overall mental health is A1. I would be this happy without all those things anyways. I am rarely depressed, my father taught me some excellent life skills (I guess you could call it) when it comes to mental health.
 
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Deep son.

It was definitely my mother, I was very close to my mom when I was growing up (till about 11 years old). Her biggest struggle was drug addiction. She had a grade 8 education, not a very good relationship with ether of her parents and was the scape goat of the family. She has 3 sisters and 1 brother, who are all very successful. It is kind of weird how she ended so far off the path. She is 53 now, and 2 years clean and sober and finally rebuilding relationships with her family. She is doing good these days.
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Do you feel like you failed in anyway by not being able to help her get clean earlier? If so, do you feel like your childhood was somewhat defined by that failure?
 
NewGuardBjj said:
Is Canadian healthcare legit?
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I think it is legit. But here is the thing, I am in the military and we have full health benefits. We have a hospital on base that we can go to at any time (only for military). If they can't do something for us (surgeries, specialists, physio etc) they will book us at a place that can closest to where we live in a very timely manner. Dentists, doctors, physio etc 100% free for me. I have been spolied so I don't know what it is like if you work a regular job with no benefits.. seems shitty. Wait times are long in hospitals and Canada is having a problem with Doctors opening private clinics and giving priority to people who can pay. My GF isn't on my insurance yet, and her doctor is 3 hours away in Montreal because she can't get one in QC ..
 
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Right now I am about 8.5/10 happy. Dating a great girl since three years, living in a nice place, stable job with great beneifts, speak two languages (this is new, been in Quebec for 5 years now) and overall mental health is A1. I would be this happy without all those things anyways. I am rarely depressed, my father taught me some excellent life skills (I guess you could call it) when it comes to mental health.
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I'm glad to hear it. I hope the coming year unfolds to bring you many good things. Slainte!
 
FierceRedBelt said:
Do you feel like you failed in anyway by not being able to help her get clean earlier? If so, do you feel like your childhood was somewhat defined by that failure?
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No, I don't think I have failed in anyway. If I would of stayed in Western Canada after highschool and lived near her I would of been able to help her alot, and I would of let her live with me for free. She was homeless when I got out of highschool and my sisters weren't in any position to help her as they were also struggling as single moms with their own families and barely making it by themselves. Because I lived with my dad throughout highschool he really kept my head on my shoulders for me and did his best to raise me. None of my three sisters graduated highschool. They are all half sisters of mine (same mom). At the end of the day even if my mom would have moved in with me then, I don't think it would of helped her.. I don't think she would of been ready to get clean yet. I don't know, but I don't blame myself. I blame her immediate family (mom, sisters, dad etc).

My childhood was very good considering. My mom did her best to make sure I had a good lifestyle but it was a little fucked up at times but not as bad as some peoples stories growing up with drug addicted parents.
 
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No, I don't think I have failed in anyway. If I would of stayed in Western Canada after highschool and lived near her I would of been able to help her alot, and I would of let her live with me for free. She was homeless when I got out of highschool and my sisters weren't in any position to help her as they were also struggling as single moms with their own families and barely making it by themselves. Because I lived with my dad throughout highschool he really kept my head on my shoulders for me and did his best to raise me. None of my three sisters graduated highschool. They are all half sisters of mine (same mom). At the end of the day even if my mom would have moved in with me then, I don't think it would of helped her.. I don't think she would of been ready to get clean yet. I don't know, but I don't blame myself. I blame her immediate family (mom, sisters, dad etc).

My childhood was very good considering. My mom did her best to make sure I had a good lifestyle but it was a little fucked up at times but not as bad as some peoples stories growing up with drug addicted parents.
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That's really good to hear; I'm glad everyone figured it out in the long run before it was too late. I wanted so much to help my mother as a child, it haunts me but addiction plus depression is really a lethal duo.

Have you dated anyone with dependency issues? Or any strong traits you can link back to who your mother was during your childhood.
 
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