I am trans (MtF). Ask me anything.

[Doughbelly]

As a child I used to always want to dress up like my sister. I was a dumb kid.

As an adult I still have a bit of a fetish... and on the occasional Halloween try to throw a dress on.l

I have never been in the wrong body. It was all dress up and and for me.

So explain why you are a girl. Clothes mean literally NOTHING.

That is an astute point and this is an interesting topic and train of thought. One that occurs to many, if not most older transitioners, the question of whether they are just crossdressers/transvestites (deprecated term here in the US) or truly transgendered. I personally think it's a spectrum.

Clothes can mean something, especially before puberty and the development of secondary sex characteristics. Clothes, along with hair length, are often the only visible markers of a prepubescent child's sex and gender. So clothing is one of the first ways a transgendered kid starts expressing his or her gender preferences because it's the only way they can. Which isn't to say that every kid who liked wearing big sister's clothes is transgendered, but it's usually the first sign in transgendered pre-pubescents.

The following is the experience I had that you didn't.

As puberty hit, I started hating everything about the way my body was changing. Thick body and armpit hair. Yuck. I started plucking, waxing and depilating my leg hairs when I was still in high school. Couldn't stand it. I remember one day realizing that I was developing brow ridges and thinking that if I pushed in on them hard enough every day, they wouldn't grow. I started shaving my arms in secret around that time, too.

So no, I didn't necessarily know I was in the wrong body until my body started changing during adolescence, but I knew as I was dressing girly that I didn't just want to dress that way, but I wanted to BE a girl, to be a woman. Maybe that is the feeling that you didn't get and don't get when you are crossdressing. If so, you're not a transgendered person, but a someone who fetishizes women's clothing and gets enjoyment out of it. No big deal. Lots of dudes do that. (You would't believe the number of men who have confided in me that they love wearing women's panties - lots. Lots and lots.)

Hope that answers your question.

 

[Doughbelly]

More or less a lurker (I post mainly in the SMD), though not even that. But I've always liked your posts. I wish (at 33 now) I had the breadth of your life experience. Nice work with this thread and I do hope it continues to be as positive as its been thus far.

Questions, even though you don't know me, but I hope you answer:

1) How do you feel about depictions of the transgender community and transgender individuals in film/TV/literature? Is it something you pay attention to? Could you point out depictions you prefer/dislike?

2) There's clearly mistreatment of transgenders in a number of societies, and a lack of understanding of what you have to go through, and how genuinely incredible it is to come out and live life on your own terms. Could you recommend things to read to be better informed about what what it's like? Well-written first person accounts? Papers and meta-analyses that would clarify the biological aspect of things?

3) Conversely, do you ever find those that want to be supportive patronising?

4) Non MtF question: have you been to India? If so, what was your experience like?

5) Another non-MtF question: you've been through what seems like a lot. Are there core beliefs you hold on to? Truths about life that have helped you soldier on or enjoy it more? Like your jump from being a professor to globe-trotting? Was there a philosophical underpinning to how you've been to so many places and ended up seeing so much? Translation: HOW CAN I BE MORE LIKE YOU?

I have more but I'll stick with these for now.

Cheers. You're impressive.

Remind me to answer your questions more in depth later. It's getting late and I've already written a lot of long posts.

I'll answer #3 right now because I want to make a special shoutout. Yes, some attempts can be patronizing but most are not. I accept that people can be clumsy about the topic because most people aren't used to dealing with it.

Special shoutout to @Strychnine , who was one of the first Sherdoggers I chose to come out to in private. Couldn't have found someone more supportive in the all the right way. And BTW, Strychnine is a religious family man whose denomination doesn't necessarily approve of people like me. I hope to meet him some day and to call him my friend.

Don't visit sherdog for a month and when I come back the smartest guy in the Mayberry has come out as a woman. Didn't see that coming.

One thing I don't follow is you've mentioned sexual encounters with men but then in another post stated you were not sexually attracted to men prior to switching genders, which seems a little odd. I doubt taking hormones suddenly switches one's sexual preference, doesn't seem particularly plausible. Sexual preference is surely hardwired at a deeper level than can be simply influenced by hormone exposure as an adult.

Likewise, remind me to respond to this later. I want to answer this but it might get lost in pages of stuff tomorrow.

 

[Doughbelly]

Duly noted.

But still why are the dongs so big?

Because the ones you've seen are in porn and that's just the way that industry goes. Plus Viagra.

 

[BEER]

You got upset about me calling you "bro", maybe a few months ago, because I was supposed to know you're trans. Thought you were trolling.

Now I know. Congrats on the thread. It seems to be successful other than a few hateful people, but isn't that always the case?

Anyway, no questions. If you ever need an ear to bend, feel free to PM me.

 

[Leagon]

I know and remember you as an intelligent poster, Leagon.

I never engaged in any drugs until well into adulthood. First time I touched weed was pretty far into college (I didn't want any issues for a clearance when I commissioned into the Army). First time I did serious mind altering drugs was well into my 30s.

Yep, completely XY, standard test and estro levels. I guess I have one of those faces that can pass for a decent looking man or a woman (I think) and I have very fine bone structure (thinner ankles and wrists and hands than most women) but nope. Totally dude.

Yeah, I don't like getting bro'd, man'd, dude'd, etc. It doesn't offend me when people do it out of habit and mean no offense. It does get me a little rustled when people emphasize it, like a particularly emphasized "SIR." I've gotten that from people who clearly don't like having to serve me at cahsiers, counters or car washes or gas stations or whatever.

Sorry, didnt mean to offend with the bro thing or imply you always looked feminine, haha.

I just wanted to rule those out because those are, from what I've seen, two of the most common reasons for transgender people. They either had a biological...misdiagnosis, in a sense, from the beginning, or they abused steroids and molly so much that their brain and body is just a mess.

You occupy a place that I think is the most confusing and/or interesting for people in that you are 100% biologically male. This presumes that you also have a male brain. I hope its not offensive to wonder, then, where any female feelings would come from.

I assume you've thought on this. If its not in the body or in the brain, does this make you believe in the supernatural (or simply scientifically undiscovered--if you didn't already)? Does this, in your opinion, lend credence to the idea of a soul or essence or non-biological observer?

 

[BAM]

I've known trans people all my life. Some of whom I love as friends and family.

but, I feel I have to lie to them to avoid hurting their feelings and refer to them by their pronoun choice. But truth is, I don't see them as male or female because they don't really belong in either world. They are trans, their own unique group. As much as they lie to themselves, they're never what they claim to be. Which I feel sorry for. Probably why the suicide rate is so high even after their transitions to their new form.

A male can claim to feel like a female but he isn't female so he wouldn't know. He just doesn't feel male, something else. Just as I can hang out with black people, marry a black person, devote my life to trying to bridge that gap, I will never be black, so I won't know what it's like to be black.

that said, I support Doughbelly and anyone else trying to make themselves happy. Though there is a concern that me indulging in this isn't actually helping my friends, until some medical science provides me with clearer path, I'll just keep doing it because it's what they say they need to hear.

 

[ShinkanPo]

Remind me to answer your questions more in depth later. It's getting late and I've already written a lot of long posts.

I'll answer #3 right now because I want to make a special shout out. Yes, some attempts can be patronizing but most are not. I accept that people can be clumsy about the topic because most people aren't used to dealing with it.

Special shoutout to @Strychnine , who was one of the first Sherdoggers I chose to come out to in private. Couldn't have found someone more supportive in the all the right way. And BTW, Strychnine is a religious family man whose denomination doesn't necessarily approve of people like me. I hope to meet him some day and to call him my friend.



Likewise, remind me to respond to this later. I want to answer this but it might get lost in pages of stuff tomorrow.

@Strychnine is one of the few posters here who truly embodies the Christian concept of forgiveness,acceptance and humility.

As for the Op I just have a rude question, do you still fap to or even have sexual relations with Women?

P.S @Doughbelly it is good to know you are dealing with your trans issues in a positive way and happy about it I support this I would say I have a soft spot for the LGBT community LGBT only not the Queer!! I don't know whats the queer or how they are different from the gays lol.

 

[robotsonic]

I have a theory that our societies extreme individualism cultivates massively narcissistic behavior. I'm always highly suspicious of many flamboyantly gay and transgender/transvestite people as I believe that many of them are doing it to get attention, the level of narcissism encouraged by our society is now so great people are willing to mutilate themselves to get front and centre.

How much of that do you think is true in both your own personal experience and the wider case? Am I being unfair?

As an aside I should probably say my suspicion of their motives doesn't mean I hate or am disgusted by them to any degree. Life is too short to hate people who've never wronged you.

 

[I Am Legion]

That's a really good movie, great acting and a superb story.

But even with the tent scenes, I wouldn't consider Jack Twist or Ennis Del Mar gay, they were not gay men who liked other men, they just loved each other.

Once a dick goes in your ass, you passed the gay test.

 

[I Am Legion]

that shit was weak

Not all jokes work. Kind of like your manhood.

 

[ocean size]

BAM sounds like you are describing a third-gender, which is something polynesian cultures have recognized and accepted for a long time.

TS How is you cock working? Have the hormones made it harder to achieve orgasm? Does stimulation work differently? With the hormones have you been feeling 'female' in any other intangible sort of ways?

 

[Akabignasty]

Whats your political position on the bathroom situation. Personally, I'm all for live and let live and support anybody thats not doing harm to others, but I found the push on the bathrooms a little ...hasty?
Am I way off base?



And where the fuck is @Akabignasty?

 

[Just Creed]

I'm glad that retard got banned from trying to de rail the thread. I don't understand the hatred for the trans community - whether it's fear of the unknown or trying to bottle down a deep seeded attraction. At the end of the way we're all human and just want to lead a normal life.

There's a lot of ignorance (unintentional also) when it comes to transgender people so thanks for sharing and I wish you the best of luck in your life

 

[BAM]

BAM sounds like you are describing a third-gender, which is something polynesian cultures have recognized and accepted for a long time.

TS How is you cock working? Have the hormones made it harder to achieve orgasm? Does stimulation work differently? With the hormones have you been feeling 'female' in any other intangible sort of ways?

tbf, it'll probably wind up getting ruled a mental health disorder again, but if "third gender" keeps the peace in the interim while the science is developed, so be it, I'll compromise and "acknowledge" a third gender. But really, I don't buy the claims of trans people that they really are the new gender they claim to be.

it's not borne out of some hatred or disgust or moral code. it just doesn't really flow logically for me that someone can claim to be something biologically based on their perception of what they think that thing is. Whether it be age, race, gender, or species, etc.

 

[PolishHeadlock]

tbf, it'll probably wind up getting ruled a mental health disorder again, but if "third gender" keeps the peace in the interim while the science is developed, so be it, I'll compromise and "acknowledge" a third gender. But really, I don't buy the claims of trans people that they really are the new gender they claim to be.

it's not borne out of some hatred or disgust or moral code. it just doesn't really flow logically for me that someone can claim to be something based on their perception of what they think that thing is. Whether it be age, race, gender, species.

I've read that men and women have different brain structures and the theory is that trans people might have the brain structure of the gender the identify with as opposed to the one that lines up with their genitalia.

If that's the case it's a game changer for the trans argument and also would dispel the whole notion that gender is a social construct imo.

But I'm no doctor.

 

[Kais11]

I have no problems with Trans people. The same way i don't have issues with someone suffering from a Mental illness.

I do believe that trans people suffer from a mental illness.

 

[Merlotte's]

Do you get jealous when other trans MtF individuals are prettier than you? Or envious? Indifferent?

 

[ocean size]

it's not borne out of some hatred or disgust or moral code. it just doesn't really flow logically for me that someone can claim to be something based on their perception of what they think that thing is. Whether it be age, race, gender, or species, etc.

I see what you are saying, let's say you feel are different, but you are from a binary gender culture. What are you supposed to use as a model of what you are?

It is kind of like western gays, there's nothing in the DNA that says they are going to talk with a overprounced lispy voice, but many do because of cultural reasons - that's what they know of what other people do that have the same inclinations they do.

The polynesian mahu/fa'afafine was well accepted and recognized as sort of its own thing, where biological males would take on varying aspects of what would be considered feminine.

 

[BAM]

I've read that men and women have different brain structures and the theory is that trans people might have the brain structure of the gender the identify with as opposed to the one that lines up with their genitalia.

If that's the case it's a game changer for the trans argument and also would dispel the whole notion that gender is a social construct imo.

But I'm no doctor.

I dunno, I'm not doctor either but my view presently is that being a man or woman is less about brain structure and more about socialization formed into you from the time you are a baby, like language. You learn it so much that it isn't a skill or something you identify as. it is as a part of you as your skin that you don't even think about it. You just are.

I've been around female to male transgenders. It's mimicry on their end. Like an American pretending to be French. The trans friend doesn't know enough to know 'he' doesn't know what being a man is. The natural things of how we interact that you don't really notice until you are around someone constantly playing pretend. That includes gay and straight males.

 

[thebluerider]

holy fucking shit