How to Win Friends and Influence People

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In that book, it says to show genuine interest in other people.

But my problem is I'm not interested in most people. I'm mostly interested in my family and attractive women.

How can I get genuinely interested in people?

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You mean the book doesn't say?

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Oooooh..

I get it..

You're not interested in most people..
You are interested in other people...
 
Hang out with more interesting people
 
$uperman said:
In that book, it says to show genuine interest in other people.

But my problem is I'm not interested in most people. I'm mostly interested in my family and attractive women.

How can I get genuinely interested in people?

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I feel ya'. About all that stuck with me was to use "and" more and "but" less.
 
If you have to win them, they're not your friends, they're conquests.
 
Remember what the goal is...you're 'befriending' them for your own benefit.
You need to look genuinely interested . You do that by showing interest in what they say, ask questions, compliment,and remember small details about them.

The point isn't for you to enjoy the conversation...it's for them to enjoy conversing with you, which leads to you being able to get what you want out of them
 
SmilinDesperado said:
Remember what the goal is...you're 'befriending' them for your own benefit.
You need to look genuinely interested . You do that by showing interest in what they say, ask questions, compliment,and remember small details about them.

The point isn't for you to enjoy the conversation...it's for them to enjoy conversing with you, which leads to you being able to get what you want out of them
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That's sounds fake.

I want to genuinely be interested in people.

I want to enjoy conversations.
 
Being able to converse with people you hate is a valuable life skill. Trust me.
 
$uperman said:
In that book, it says to show genuine interest in other people.

But my problem is I'm not interested in most people. I'm mostly interested in my family and attractive women.

How can I get genuinely interested in people?

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I don't get why you would like to be more interested in people you're not interested in. There's nothing wrong with you. You're not interested in them for good reason. Just let things develop naturally, and if they don't you don't have to force anything. Family and beautiful women sounds like a nice plate of food anyway. But if you want more buddies then you have to get out there and be passionate about stuff, like taking BJJ lessons or building homes for Habitat for Humanity or whatever. Then you'll meet people who share your passion, and you're more likely to bond with a like-minded person.
 
I have a similar problem. It probably means you're only interested in what they have to offer you, which means it's not genuine interest in them. You can try asking them questions and listen to them.
 
I've always liked the notion that there's not a single person you interact with that can't teach you something. In some cases it's in the positive- they actually demonstrate a skill or showcase an ability or inspire you to take on some sort of role or goal- or in the negative- they showcase what not to do essentially, but either way you're learning something.

The key is to try to operate with the notion that every interaction could be productive in some way. It doesn't have to be, but there is potential for it to be.
 
It's not at all difficult to become interested in others, once you refrain from being so incredibly interested in yourself.
 
It can be difficult for some people to talk about themselves, when you show genuine interest in them, because it's something most people are probably not used to, and they'll appreciate it.

Even if you're only faking it, it means a lot to make the other person feel valued and important in the conversation.
 
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