i get why everyone is saying "mind your own business" to ts...but look at it form this point of view. i can relate to ts.
i have a friend who is gay; i accidentally found proof and close friends and family all know it too. but he is scared to come out... it's really sad that he feels he can't be who he truly is; i mean, the rest of us don't have to think twice to really express ourselves. he is always putting on a front, talking/commenting about women whom he doesn't really care about, all for the benefit of the likes of me and those around him. i've also been in situations where if a bunch of us guys go out and some girl thinks my boy is cute and wants to talk, guys in the group who don't know him too well will start giving him shit for not showing interest. that's always uncomfortable because you can't defend him by saying, "guys, he's gay, he's not interested" because he hasn't come out yet and you don't want to bust him out like that. so what do you say? i've resorted to saying, yeah, she's pretty ugly, i wouldn't be interested either.
but my biggest fear is that because he's hiding everything....i don't know why, perhaps out of fear of disappointing us or hurting us, he might get himself into trouble. what i mean is, when people hide something as big and uncontrollable as their sexuality, it can lead to fulfilling those natural desires in unhealthy and dangerous ways. i don't want to find out someday that he got involved in something "underground" and is hurt or his life is in jeopardy. something like one of the end scenes in "second skin". if he can be open and honest with those who love him, he will be less inclined to participate or seek out relationships that are possibly a danger to him.
