i dont know your athletic abilities but, if your athletic, capable of fighting, want to fight, and have been training for a year and never sparred once, doesnt sound like much of a fighters gym to me. For comparison, as a kid, the boxing gym that I started at, made my spar the very first day I joined but it was a boxing/fighters gym not a commercial cardio/MT/mma/kickbox/bjj gym
this sounds so much to me like the "watering down of MT in america" you see it everywhere. 40 students for one instructor? and you guys all partner up and hold pads for eachother, he shows a move, you guys practice and he walks around and corrects ppl right? This is pretty standard at just about every gym you go to now a days.
The attention or training your paying for your not getting I would agree with that, but most gyms now, the monthly fee isnt for private lessons etc, its more or less just to use the facility and have access to the classes.
to get one on one with the coach, your either going to have to fight for the gym, or pay for privates on top of your monthly membership I would guess.
where are you located and what gym are you training at?
from what you have stated, if I was in your shoes, I would look elsewhere, although looking elsewhere more likely than not will result in the same thing...different gym unfortunately.