Girls cheat because they love their husbands and want to save their relationships

[Midnighter]

I mean.

Like nothing is black and white.

I think the reason guys have so much trouble relating to American women is because we put 0 effort really trying to think from their perspective.

Guys, generally, are doers. We like to be doing things, or at least watching something like an action movie. I constantly bring this up with my gf, so she can see things from my perspective, too. I'll watch her shows, but we also have to do my shows on the weekends. And, ill sit through hers, but I'll "joke" about how terrible they are sometimes, but I'll also bring her shows up when I think about something that happened in them because I know she watches them in large part, to have something to socialize about.

And, like things suck because there's all the excuses in the world to ignore your partners present state of mind because people are working and doing chores. And, I'll point this out, also. But, we just take one day at a time, and try to feel and think towards a copasetic duality with our partners. It's not black and white, I'm this, she's that. Were constantly evolving, and I take more responsibility for how the relationship flows because I'm in a better position to because I have more energy to apply toward problem solving.

Cheating is usually a symptom, not the underlying problem. And, some people would rather cheat on the down low, but I wouldn't kid yourself into thinking that makes a stronger relationship, lol.

Guys have trouble relating to women because they are largely driven by emotions and are contradictory with regards to their own logic.

 

[MikeMcMann]

You make a lot of great points.

Men become complacent because they got the woman and material possessions, and all they want to do is coast. In turn, it makes men soft, weak, and manageable, which in essence causes a reversal in gender roles, since she has to pick up the slack.

You will not believe how many wives and girlfriends try to set something up with me on the low. It doesn't even take much to turn them on. They got this look of desperation and sexual frustration in their eyes. It's ridiculous.

Then they try to shame you when you don't want to get involved in their drama.

There are not enough good strong men out there.

No doubt. Men and women get complacent in marriage. Men, moreso, most times.

Men's biggest problem is viewing their wives like they do their best guy friends.

Guys do that thinking it is a compliment. Our best male friends are very important to us. But what guys do not have to do with our best guy friends is TRY HARD to maintain the relationship. We just accept each other without a lot of need to get into deep and meaningful chats, without regular contact, etc.

So the guy thinks it is great he can just come home, flop on the couch and tune out and still love his wife and he thinks she should be thrilled that he wants to simply be around her, with neither needing to put in effort.

That is the opposite of what most women need or think. Most women will think 'no effort' means 'does not care'. 'No flattery' means 'is not attracted to me'.

So that is why i always say that while it may seem I am overly critical of women,I can also be so of men. And i don't think it is being critical to acknowledge reality. It is, what it is.

 

[General_Speckz]

Guys have trouble relating to women because they are largely driven by emotions and are contradictory with regards to their own logic.

Not all of them, theres perfectly logical, attractive women, those ones just get locked down in a marriage faster.

But, there's also a coldness to logic which can be too much so that a person just isn't nice..

It's highly contextual. But, most people recognize sooner or later they exaggerate their own worth in the marketplace. An average male has to learn to deal with the an average female, if he wants one. Or put more accurately he has to be realistic about his value and settle down, accordingly.

 

[sissypunch]

They are saying that It's like when I beat my wife to make me a better husband, so I understand.

 

[faustian]

If bitches really wanted to save their relationships they’d be more into pegging and they wouldn’t call you a fggt afterwards