Girlfriends : Is this it?

[highkicknomore]

Complete fucking bullshit. Basically you are saying, go play the lotto and you will win. The fact is you have to put yourself in situations where there is a chance to meet someone. When I'm myself, and relaxed, I'm at home and I'm surfing or playing games or whatever. If I don't go on a dating site, or just go out in general, or have activities that involve the opposite sex, I'm not going to meet anyone, EVER.
And what if "yourself" is a fucking socially inept asshole? How is that going to land you the "one"?
Most people don't meet the "one" anyway. They meet "ms good enough", or ms "right now".

Get ready to rumble!!

 

[Bolshevik***]

even if they're not as crazy as the girls you've had experiences with, they'll get that way eventually.

 

[Blackdanger***]

care to elaborate on why things fell apart?

Well during many conversations that we had she would tell me that she's a very independant girl, and that she needed a man that had his own things going on, his own hobbies, his own life seperate of his coupled life. I was super happy because that was exactly me! And also exactly what i want in a woman.

She only had time to see me once or twice per week which was great for me because i love starting relationships slow like that. Some girls, if they like you, just want to see you everyday from the day they first meet you.

My work is related to the NHL so in the beginning of January, when the hockey lockout ended, i was in a huge rush at work, i was doing 80 hour weeks to kickstart the machine.

We saw each other one night, slept over had a great time, then i didn't message or call her over a 60 hour period because i just didnt have the time, and the time i had, i spent it sleeping.

Well she flipped out, told me she wanted something serious and not just a fling, and for a few days didnt reply to my calls or my texts. So i stopped messaging, and she hasnt contacted me since.

 

[Blackdanger***]

I think too many people are TRYING to find something. trying is the first step to failure in this case. I wasn't trying, at all, to find anything.. and things couldn't have worked out better for me.
it helps when you relax, be yourself, and just let things happen.

Well i'm not trying desperatly to find the mother of my children if thats what you're implying. But i do love women, and i love having them around. So most of the time since i've become a man, i've had a woman some way or another in my life.

 

[Sexy]

Well during many conversations that we had she would tell me that she's a very independant girl, and that she needed a man that had his own things going on, his own hobbies, his own life seperate of his coupled life. I was super happy because that was exactly me! And also exactly what i want in a woman.

She only had time to see me once or twice per week which was great for me because i love starting relationships slow like that. Some girls, if they like you, just want to see you everyday from the day they first meet you.

My work is related to the NHL so in the beginning of January, when the hockey lockout ended, i was in a huge rush at work, i was doing 80 hour weeks to kickstart the machine.

We saw each other one night, slept over had a great time, then i didn't message or call her over a 60 hour period because i just didnt have the time, and the time i had, i spent it sleeping.

Well she flipped out, told me she wanted something serious and not just a fling, and for a few days didnt reply to my calls or my texts. So i stopped messaging, and she hasnt contacted me since.

You got sonned.

 

[Sexy]

If I don't go on a dating site, or just go out in general, or have activities that involve the opposite sex, I'm not going to meet anyone, EVER.
And what if "yourself" is a fucking socially inept asshole? How is that going to land you the "one"?
Most people don't meet the "one" anyway. They meet "ms good enough", or ms "right now".

Yes.

 

[Blackdanger***]

Who you are will never grant you want you deserve. What you deserve is a product of what you do. There's a responsibility you must enforce within yourself, otherwise all your compromises will be bitter and emasculating.

I'd love for you to elaborate on this.

 

[IIIIIIII]

Well during many conversations that we had she would tell me that she's a very independant girl, and that she needed a man that had his own things going on, his own hobbies, his own life seperate of his coupled life. I was super happy because that was exactly me! And also exactly what i want in a woman.

She only had time to see me once or twice per week which was great for me because i love starting relationships slow like that. Some girls, if they like you, just want to see you everyday from the day they first meet you.

My work is related to the NHL so in the beginning of January, when the hockey lockout ended, i was in a huge rush at work, i was doing 80 hour weeks to kickstart the machine.

We saw each other one night, slept over had a great time, then i didn't message or call her over a 60 hour period because i just didnt have the time, and the time i had, i spent it sleeping.

Well she flipped out, told me she wanted something serious and not just a fling, and for a few days didnt reply to my calls or my texts. So i stopped messaging, and she hasnt contacted me since.

it sounds like she fell hard for you.

lol @ getting upset over not being contacted within three days. if this girl is going to act this way from the beginning, it's probably best to remove yourself from the situation entirely.

 

[minute bull]

I'd love for you to elaborate on this.

I'd love to expound until you're bleeding our of your eyes, ears, and anus. What would you like to know?

 

[Blackdanger***]

I'd love to expound until you're bleeding our of your eyes, ears, and anus. What would you like to know?

Well, you talk about my own responsibility in meeting a woman that i would deserve. I stated that i'm respectful, sincere and down to earth because these are things very important to me, and important to find in a partner. I don't tolerate disrespect coming from my partner, or dishonesty, or girls who live in their own twisted reality. What does that say about me?

 

[Blackdanger***]

it sounds like she fell hard for you.

lol @ getting upset over not being contacted within three days. if this girl is going to act this way from the beginning, it's probably best to remove yourself from the situation entirely.

Well after she flipped out i gave her a couple of days to calm down, i gave called her to patch things up, no answer. Texted the next day, and the one after that. No replys so i moved on. If she would call me back today i'd tell her to gtfo.

 

[bcordova]

I woke up today to a yelling gf because I stayed out late with a friend. I often ask myself these questions. Then I realized that every girl is pretty messed up and you will never find an unscrewed up chick. So yes, guys settle.

 

[minute bull]

Well, you talk about my own responsibility in meeting a woman that i would deserve. I stated that i'm respectful, sincere and down to earth because these are things very important to me, and important to find in a partner. I don't tolerate disrespect coming from my partner, or dishonesty, or girls who live in their own twisted reality. What does that say about me?

Chances are there is a disconnect between who you think you are and what you actually do. Don't take that the wrong way. As an example, a friend once asked me if the word "please" can ever be implicit. I had to tell her no, because the word is the most important part of it. YOU HAVE TO SAY IT. It doesn't mean she is impolite or rude when she doesn't say it, but she can't kid herself into thinking etiquette goes without saying. Manners count.

My main question is if you don't tolerate disrespect, how do you go about expressing your intolerance? People react to what they are given, and if you're getting static from your woman I would investigate the root of her acrimony. What has triggered this occasion? Was it something you said or did?

Regardless.

However it started, it is incumbent upon all of us to squash beef as quickly as possible. If you feel like you're not the one who should eat a little shit, then maybe you're not a respectful as you may think. Respecting someone who does everything you want is easy -- so easy maybe we can't even call it respect anymore.

I'm not saying respect must come after trial and tribulation, but respect DOES mean you need to understand other people have a different way of handling their lives and business. Sometimes those ways punch you right in the stomach. But I look at it like this: what if this was your child? What would you do if your child went against everything you wanted? Would you abandon your child?

Our significant others are not our children, but sometimes they act like kids. This is good because it means they are comfortable in our environment, enough to be themselves. They've deigned to spend time with us, and we incriminate them if they don't heel to our whims. Is that respectful, is that tolerant? Or is that just our lazy sense of entitlement getting upset over something we never even had in the first place?

If you want to be treated better, you can condition your significant other to treat you that way. It just takes effort. You have to work your life or else your life works you.

Was this what you wanted to hear?

 

[Sexy]

I woke up today to a yelling gf because I stayed out late with a friend. I often ask myself these questions. Then I realized that every girl is pretty messed up and you will never find an unscrewed up chick. So yes, guys settle.

Yes.

 

[JinKazama]

keep lookin, shes out there

 

[highkicknomore]

keep lookin, hes out there

Fixed for TS

 

[Blackdanger***]

Chances are there is a disconnect between who you think you are and what you actually do. Don't take that the wrong way. As an example, a friend once asked me if the word "please" can ever be implicit. I had to tell her no, because the word is the most important part of it. YOU HAVE TO SAY IT. It doesn't mean she is impolite or rude when she doesn't say it, but she can't kid herself into thinking etiquette goes without saying. Manners count.

My main question is if you don't tolerate disrespect, how do you go about expressing your intolerance? People react to what they are given, and if you're getting static from your woman I would investigate the root of her acrimony. What has triggered this occasion? Was it something you said or did?

Regardless.

However it started, it is incumbent upon all of us to squash beef as quickly as possible. If you feel like you're not the one who should eat a little shit, then maybe you're not a respectful as you may think. Respecting someone who does everything you want is easy -- so easy maybe we can't even call it respect anymore.

I'm not saying respect must come after trial and tribulation, but respect DOES mean you need to understand other people have a different way of handling their lives and business. Sometimes those ways punch you right in the stomach. But I look at it like this: what if this was your child? What would you do if your child went against everything you wanted? Would you abandon your child?

Our significant others are not our children, but sometimes they act like kids. This is good because it means they are comfortable in our environment, enough to be themselves. They've deigned to spend time with us, and we incriminate them if they don't heel to our whims. Is that respectful, is that tolerant? Or is that just our lazy sense of entitlement getting upset over something we never even had in the first place?

If you want to be treated better, you can condition your significant other to treat you that way. It just takes effort. You have to work your life or else your life works you.

Was this what you wanted to hear?

Yes thanks.

This makes a lot of sense. But at the same time, i think you've made me out (maybe because of the way i wrote things, english is my 3rd language.) to be a very intolerant person.

I accept people, with their flaws and strengths. Although, i do think its my right, and everyone has this right, to chose what behavior i accept and don't accept in my life, and in my partner with whom we share our lives together.

Do i take the moral highground at the 1st sign of what i consider to be disrespect? No. Do i tolerate it very long? No.

I think i voice my opinions in a proper way most of the time. I'm of the thinking that anything can be said if its said the right way, and i pay a very particular attention to this, as i need to apply this in my work aswell.

So i would say that i voice out my concerns in a proper way, and i listen when my gf wants me to make adjustments on my own behavior.

 

[Blackdanger***]

Fixed for TS

thanks man!

 

[Stokanator]

I was engaged to a girl after being together for 3 years about 6 years ago who I felt I was settling for if I hd married her, not as far as her looks but her overall personality. At first I just assumed you'll never find someone perfect. It can be hard to know where to draw the line or if you're being to critical. I knew I did the right thing when I met my wife, our relationship is a lot healthier and if I knew relationships could be this easy I never would have dated my ex.

 

[highkicknomore]

I was engaged to a girl after being together for 3 years about 6 years ago who I felt I was settling for if I hd married her, not as far as her looks but her overall personality. At first I just assumed you'll never find someone perfect. It can be hard to know where to draw the line or if you're being to critical. I knew I did the right thing when I met my wife, our relationship is a lot healthier and if I knew relationships could be this easy I never would have dated my ex.

Can you give example on the way your ex was treating you? This is good for reference. Thanks.