Girlfriend going crazy about me going on a stag

[amplus]

Been with my girlfriend for 8 years now. She is pretty much perfect really in that she is good looking, smart, cooks, cleans, doesn't party, etc. However I'm going on a pal's stag in a few weeks to Prague. She was cool about it to an extent until she found out we were going to a strip club. Because of that she started throwing things, swearing, calling me scum, threatening to top her self. Just not rational.

Now she never ever has been like this really she is honestly a great girl who worships me. It's the whole stripper thing that has set her off. Another issue is that she has anxiety issues which she has been seeing someone about. I've told her I won't go to the strip club if they do go but still she isn't cool, thinks my friends are scum, and I'm honestly worried about what she will do to herself when I'm away.

Usually I'd walk away or suggest that to someone else. However other then this she is the perfect girlfriend. So don't know what to do, say or what to think?? Was tempted not to go as it's not a close friend but then i don't see my friends much anyway these days so was a chance to catch up.

 

[Law Talkin’ Guy]

How did she find out you were going to a strip club?

You done fucked up, son.

 

[HwoarangStyle]

tell her to stick a tampon in it and go get get fucked up with your buddies. it'll all blow over eventually. trust me.

 

[PEB]

You been with her for 8 years did you know she was having emotional issues first question second no I would not go and explain to them that you don't want to create problems with your relationship. Don't explain to them why just don't go.

 

[OverCoronavirus Pressure]

So don't go, and make clear you're happy to sacrifice it because you care about how she feels.

 

[Horse Style]

It's understandable that she'd be uneasy with you going to a strip club but her behavior is crazy. I assume threatening to "top her self" means threatening to hurt herself.

If she's becoming violent just because you are thinking about going to a strip club then she has some serious issues.

 

[OverCoronavirus Pressure]

tell her to stick a tampon in it and go get get fucked up with your buddies. it'll all blow over eventually. trust me.

You don't want to open the Pandora's Box of secret resentment, trust me

 

[amplus]

How did she find out you were going to a strip club?

You done fucked up, son.

Was in a WhatsApp group for the stag, my friends wife read his phone then told my missus the bitch.

 

[amplus]

You been with her for 8 years did you know she was having emotional issues first question second no I would not go and explain to them that you don't want to create problems with your relationship. Don't explain to them why just don't go.

I already told my mates she found out. Problem is don't see my mates much now due to work so was a chance to catch up with everyone.

 

[Clippys Mom]

So don't go, and make clear you're happy to sacrifice it because you care about how she feels.

That's a pretty solid advice in one sentence, but I would be concerned with her perceiving she can get her way by throwing tantrums and threatening violence as a effective way of getting what she wants. That would have to be discussed before resolution, and made clear it is not at all an acceptable tool for negotiation in the relationship.

 

[Was Exiled]

The strip clubs in Prague are more like brothels than titty bars by the way

 

[Concrete]

Are people ITT really saying he shouldn't go on the stag? Are you crazy?

TS, talk to her, give her your word you won't do anything she wouldn't like. If that's not good enough for her, something is eventually gonna snap between the two of you.

 

[Law Talkin’ Guy]

Was in a WhatsApp group for the stag, my friends wife read his phone then told my missus the bitch.

Wow, your friend done fucked up. Why the hell would he let his wife use his phone? It's 2016, everyone has their own phone. There is no good reason for letting anyone else handle your phone.

 

[lsa]

You don't want to open the Pandora's Box of secret resentment, trust me

he speaks like a ma.. boy that never had a serious relationship..
"Blow over"..... LOL....!!

 

[lsa]

Was in a WhatsApp group for the stag, my friends wife read his phone then told my missus the bitch.

Thats a weird nickname for your missus.

 

[Clippys Mom]

For social and political reasons, I would downplay the incident to your friends. People tend to latch on, and meme the negative in irrational and careless ways.
You are going to be with her 90% of your life, as compared to your friends. Its self harming, and unnecessary to air out your problems in public in most cases.

 

[OverCoronavirus Pressure]

he speaks like a ma.. boy that never had a serious relationship..
"Blow over"..... LOL....!!

Heh.
It'll blow over~>secret resentment ~> hostility you don't know the source of ~> she justifies cheating ~> wtf happened to our relationship

 

[Unknown Pleasures]

Tell her you will skip out on going to the strip club.

Then go anyways. Strip clubs don't allow photos so there will be no evidence you where there.

It's a good white lie.

 

[shanegotu11]

I wouldn't go. Its been a 8 year relationship. Fuck what your friends say or call you. They all pussies who if had a steady relationship would back out on you. Unless they don't have a steady relationship or in a open one.

Lol if its a brothel then say NO.

Fuck what shertards say. They are like posion ivy. Or leeches or a dildo.

If just a normal strip club, its not a huge deal if u went. If she is so against it, why ruin a good thing?

 

[CatchOmega]

Tell her you're going because YOLO.