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Relationships Girl is still my friend..in the friendzone. What now

the problem with the friend zone is men and women value friendships differently.

I am guessing you are very close and personal with her. You share parts of your life with her, feelings and stuff, probably more than you should... you want to get some but you are apprehensive so you think you can smooth her over like that.

The tough part of a friendzone relationship from a male perspective is you have given away all of your freedoms to her already.

I mean she is a single mom with kids, a woman in that situation is not going to be loyal to any man before herself and her kids, and a vulnerable man in your position can not afford to be around someone who isn't going to reciprocate your loyalty to her

If she is a good honest woman she will respect your friendship and not put out with the hope that you and her will be friends for life.

If she does put out she may be reeling you in, the sex is going to be mind blowing Porno shit, she will have you eating out the palm of her hand and before you know it your paycheck will be split between you, her and the kids if it is not already.

My advice is to go fishing in another pond and turn your focus away from her, show her that your needs come before hers and push yourself out of the friendzone.
She's either going to fall for you even harder and come on to you and you will have the upper hand again or she will show her true colors and move along with her life.

As far as church is concerned, just wait until the basket gets passed around and you don't put anything into it. Things with church folk start to reveal when you are taking and not "giving" back to your congregation
 
Rob Edwards said:
the problem with the friend zone is men and women value friendships differently.

I am guessing you are very close and personal with her. You share parts of your life with her, feelings and stuff, probably more than you should... you want to get some but you are apprehensive so you think you can smooth her over like that.

The tough part of a friendzone relationship from a male perspective is you have given away all of your freedoms to her already.

I mean she is a single mom with kids, a woman in that situation is not going to be loyal to any man before herself and her kids, and a vulnerable man in your position can not afford to be around someone who isn't going to reciprocate your loyalty to her

If she is a good honest woman she will respect your friendship and not put out with the hope that you and her will be friends for life.

If she does put out she may be reeling you in, the sex is going to be mind blowing Porno shit, she will have you eating out the palm of her hand and before you know it your paycheck will be split between you, her and the kids if it is not already.

My advice is to go fishing in another pond and turn your focus away from her, show her that your needs come before hers and push yourself out of the friendzone.
She's either going to fall for you even harder and come on to you and you will have the upper hand again or she will show her true colors and move along with her life.

As far as church is concerned, just wait until the basket gets passed around and you don't put anything into it. Things with church folk start to reveal when you are taking and not "giving" back to your congregation
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SamSchmidt said:
Yep. I need to move out of it and into the fuckzone still. Dunno what to do at this point. Talking regularly. She ain't fucking another dude but I ain't getting none either.

I started going to church with her. Even with her kids there. She is a foul mouthed potty mouth as bad as I am. But still goes its weird. She is a right winger. So am I. We have the Same tastes.

I still want her. It's weird. Yes I can move on. I dont want to so fuck off with your douchebag "fuck other bitches " speeches bro. I know I can. I don't want to.

As a side note to atheists on this board. I went to Church with her. It was fun. They talked about happiness and avoiding depression and Jesus and stuff. Sang some songs.

Then I had a doughnut and left. It wasn't fucking brainwashing. They didnt tell me to go kill infidels. Then I left.

I had more brainwashing watching Full Metal Jacket in Bootcamp
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Here's some advice, show her this thread. It will be showing her the truest you possible. If she still wants to be your friend then we'll talk.
 
How long has it been?

Seems like you're resolved to stay the course, I would come up with a time period by which you decide you will move on.

Then at that time have a heart to heart with her about it be honest and then move on of nothing transpires.
 
SamSchmidt said:
Yep. I need to move out of it and into the fuckzone still. Dunno what to do at this point. Talking regularly. She ain't fucking another dude but I ain't getting none either.

I started going to church with her. Even with her kids there. She is a foul mouthed potty mouth as bad as I am. But still goes its weird. She is a right winger. So am I. We have the Same tastes.

I still want her. It's weird. Yes I can move on. I dont want to so fuck off with your douchebag "fuck other bitches " speeches bro. I know I can. I don't want to.

As a side note to atheists on this board. I went to Church with her. It was fun. They talked about happiness and avoiding depression and Jesus and stuff. Sang some songs.

Then I had a doughnut and left. It wasn't fucking brainwashing. They didnt tell me to go kill infidels. Then I left.

I had more brainwashing watching Full Metal Jacket in Bootcamp
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So I'm guessing you've never told her. Tell her. See what happens.
 
SamSchmidt said:
I've made my intentions clear. She knows. She wants to wait. It's fine with me at this point. I've been in enough loveless relationships to not give a shit and move on but I dont want that this time. I want this one and I will fucking fight for it. That's why I'm asking for advice. I'm aware I should move on but I dont want to. Not yet. I do love her. Fuck it. I said it.
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oh christ...
 
There's a difference between being in the friendzone and her being interested and just wanting to take it slow. Good luck, there is nothing wrong with taking it slow. When I started seeing my now wife I must have had blue balls for six months.
 
SamSchmidt said:
Yep. I need to move out of it and into the fuckzone still. Dunno what to do at this point. Talking regularly. She ain't fucking another dude but I ain't getting none either.

I started going to church with her. Even with her kids there. She is a foul mouthed potty mouth as bad as I am. But still goes its weird. She is a right winger. So am I. We have the Same tastes.

I still want her. It's weird. Yes I can move on. I dont want to so fuck off with your douchebag "fuck other bitches " speeches bro. I know I can. I don't want to.

As a side note to atheists on this board. I went to Church with her. It was fun. They talked about happiness and avoiding depression and Jesus and stuff. Sang some songs.

Then I had a doughnut and left. It wasn't fucking brainwashing. They didnt tell me to go kill infidels. Then I left.

I had more brainwashing watching Full Metal Jacket in Bootcamp
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So, this woman you have been hung up on is a 40+ year old single mother?? She is not a high value woman.

You are beyond saving, dude.
 
I feel like this is gonna lead to a murder suicide, or suicide at the very least
 
SamSchmidt said:
Yep. I need to move out of it and into the fuckzone still. Dunno what to do at this point. Talking regularly. She ain't fucking another dude but I ain't getting none either.

I started going to church with her. Even with her kids there. She is a foul mouthed potty mouth as bad as I am. But still goes its weird. She is a right winger. So am I. We have the Same tastes.

I still want her. It's weird. Yes I can move on. I dont want to so fuck off with your douchebag "fuck other bitches " speeches bro. I know I can. I don't want to.

As a side note to atheists on this board. I went to Church with her. It was fun. They talked about happiness and avoiding depression and Jesus and stuff. Sang some songs.

Then I had a doughnut and left. It wasn't fucking brainwashing. They didnt tell me to go kill infidels. Then I left.

I had more brainwashing watching Full Metal Jacket in Bootcamp
Click to expand...
If you are going to church and singing songs about Jesus, you should be waiting till marriage to fuck her.

Quick note. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. You are not allowed to have an opinion on other minor sins like homosexuality if you casually commit other sins just as high in the hierarchy of sins.
 
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