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Drifting out of your prime..

Once I get the dominant position be it in weightlifting, comedy, career etc.. I hold that shit with a vice grip.

Pretty much this for me. I don’t compete any longer but I can still out lift 95% of the younger guys at the gym and that’s good enough for me. When I see one of them starting to make progress I pour on more steam. Sounds dumb, but it’s how I keep my motivation.
 
My prime was 28-37, then I broke/shit my body out of itself in a nasty weighlifting injury at 38.

Now at 43, I do notice a steep loss of intensity about halfway through my heavier workouts and I have to really grind them out some days. Jiu-jitsu nights have become very hard to recover from now. But no issues with motivation.

Got my T levels checked back in July and total was 483. Inching closer to getting on dat TRT.
 
Mine came natural and then quickly.
I noticed by my body changing, and then noticed when I went back to jiujitsu. I couldn't make my way to the top of the chain anymore. Whenever I got close, injuries, responsibility would keep me from it.

Then I was diagnosed with a tumor in my brain that after surgery, I am 30% weaker, can't exert too much, or I may need to go to the e.r.

Sometimes I want to feel bad about myself, but I can't, because I got a family i need to take care of.
 
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I could write a wall of text.. But let me start carefully with : how do did you deal with the feeling of moving away from your prime?

Be it training, making music, chasing women, or whatever.

I dont think this is a mid life crisis thread. But i am not sure. Haha
Buying a shiny red Porsche and dating younger women?

At least that's the usual cliche...
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Honest answer here... I have put quite a lot of thought into wondering if I am in the middle of one currently.

I guess it looks different for everyone. It seems that mine presents as overwhelming apathy, introversion and a lack of any real desire to leave my house when not working.

If my friends didn't drag my antisocial ass out occasionally, I'd probably never leave.
 
I few people have mentioned it, but for everybody else - what did you consider your prime? (or if you are in your prime, when do you think it will end?)
 
I could write a wall of text.. But let me start carefully with : how do did you deal with the feeling of moving away from your prime?

Be it training, making music, chasing women, or whatever.

I dont think this is a mid life crisis thread. But i am not sure. Haha
Prime is a mental state of perception, you are never out of your prime if you believe this. Dont worry bro, believe you are in your prime and you'll feel it.
 
It is very Al Bundy to think about your prime just continue to evolve, adapt and overcome.
 
I few people have mentioned it, but for everybody else - what did you consider your prime? (or if you are in your prime, when do you think it will end?)

Thats really a good question. I guess it kinda boils down to your athletic level and your mental "spark"..

If your mind are as curious and playful as before.

If your body still listen to what you tell it to do.

I may sound sad in my words. But i am not. Its hard to do a discussion in written text only.. And not even in my 1st language.

I dont go around being sad or bitter. Actually most things are far better then i thought it would be, pushing 50.

My body move like it did in my 30s. Look like it too. My face and hair look like my age. But thats fine.

The mental part of this.. Thats where it gets harder to answer. If i really try to think hard about how my mental side are, its mostly good. I got way more skills, experience, and confidence then in my young days. The martial arts and training have really helped me big time.

Having kids that are still small, also kinda forces your mind and body to stay young and playful. They are 10 and 8 years old.

So yeah. I am sure all people have different ways of feeling this. But the word prime is kinda wrong anyway.

You goes trough different phases trough life.
 
Physically I still feel the same whether it's true or not. However mentally, it becomes harder wanting to learn new things. I'm pretty much checked out doing stuff at work. Just doing enough to get by
 
I'm way ahead of where I was in my 20s in a variety of ways. Sa'll good. Worshipping youth is a pointless endeavor. I still rock and roll, still move, still learn. The physical prime is a small portion of one's life.

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I'm 47, I've been doing kickboxing or American football for 20 years, skateboarding before that.

I've done it by choosing less speed based contact sport as time passes moving from kickboxing to football, moving from speed to strength. Now I'm moving from football to Buhurt where I can use all of that but cardio is so much more important. Also the people that do it, a lot are nerds and it costs a lot so it's a smaller pool of participants making them proportionally easier opponents. They're also usually a bit older due to cost effect.

I will continue to find competitive arenas with my contemporaries, with more technical aspects and less quick fire aspects which allow for me to remain competitive.

I've been thinking about arm wrestling eventually so am including some movements in training.

Competition is key for me. I think getting stuck in a sport is a problem with coaching as the only way and I'm not a coach, I care about my own movement too much. I'm still in it.
 
I notice this in senior hockey. Even though I’m in the best shape I’ve been in for over a decade and I’m as light as I’ve been since I was 21, I am sore as hell after every game now and feel lots of aches and pains for days. I’m past it and it’s a young man’s game.

I’m proud to still be able to contribute on a score sheet and my fighting ability is as good as it’s ever been but I feel my age now. At least my hairline is holding up
 
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I notice this in senior hockey. Even though I’m in the best shape I’ve been in for over a decade and I’m as light as I’ve been since I was 21, I am sore as hell after every game now and feel lots of aches and pains for days. I’m past it and it’s a young man’s game.

I’m proud to still be able to contribute on a score sheet and my fighting ability is as good as it’s ever been but I feel my age now. At least my hairline is holding up
43 yo here. I did this weakling weight workout a couple days ago where I only squatted 135lbs as well as a few other light weights (compared to my old numbers) and I am so dang sore it's crazy. Granted, I am coming off an injury so I only just started working out again, but I can't believe how sore I am from a baby weight workout. Might as well have been using little pink dumbbells.
 
I could write a wall of text.. But let me start carefully with : how do did you deal with the feeling of moving away from your prime?

Be it training, making music, chasing women, or whatever.

I dont think this is a mid life crisis thread. But i am not sure. Haha

Well I'm 44 but actually never been in better shape in my life (boxing training). That said I'm a boring married cunt, real shame I never got fit in my 20s, would have pulled a few more women I'd say.
 
Yeah we will die. Do our souls go somewhere ? I called my dad just now, actually my mom and told her to show me dad and he said a grand of like 5 words. Or 3. And that was it. He is 82. So yep we all die. I guess God loves us and we should love each other while we are here. Then we die and perhaps something cool happens. Like astral soul travel or so forth. Amen.

As for prime. I am 38 and think about it all the time. But we all do. Besides young people sub 33.
 
I think you just have to remember you're still in your prime in some areas.

I'm 50 and been out of my prime for a good 12-15 years now from a physical point of view. I mean, I'm still pretty strong but I just don't recover well enough to be able to train enough to maintain anymore. So I have this slow down turn going on. It's not real noticeable but every now and then I do something and I notice it takes more effort than it used to. I get sore and stay sore longer than I used to. I don't think my reaction time and reflexes are as quick either. But I can still farmers carry 100lbs in each hand and I'm only 5'5, so my grip is still good. Can still squeeze like 165lbs.

Cardio wise, I can't go as hard as I used to. It's normal as you age for that to happen, heart rate lowers as you get old. My max heart rate is about 15-20 beats lower than it was in my 30's.

But mind wise at 50 I'm what I would say I'm just reaching my peak. I feel like I have way more knowledge, experience, and wisdom than I did when I as in my 20's-30's. There are so many things I know how to do now that I didn't used know how to do. So from that stand point I'm still in my prime.

I don't worry about it too much. Not really much I can do other than try to stay fit and not vegetate in front of a screen all day.
 
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