Do you think this text is too harsh?

[Drenalin]

Another thing to consider is if both are yours.

A Vietnamese couple were urged by family to have their twins genetically tested because the looked so different. A hospital mix up was suspected. DNA showed that the wife was the mother of both but they had different fathers.



https://www.washingtonpost.com/news...ietnam-have-different-fathers-scientist-says/

They're identical twin girls. Also one twin isn't expected to survive. She's already having heart failure

 

[Drenalin]

Depending on the hospital, the results can be back in hours or a day or so. I still think you should get a paternity test before the birth if she wants your support at all. You need to tell her that her actions have caused you to not trust anything she tells you.

I told her I can't trust a word she says, but she says she doesn't care if I trust her or what I think about her.

And the doctors already have a sample that can tested for paternity right now, even before the babies are born. But she told I can wait until after they're born. She's trying to be a bitch because of the text in my OP

 

[DoomPatrol]

I told her I can't trust a word she says, but she says she doesn't care if I trust her or what I think about her.

And the doctors already have a sample that can tested for paternity right now, even before the babies are born. But she told I can wait until after they're born. She's trying to be a bitch because of the text in my OP

You need to tell her that if she doesn't care then you don't care and will cut off any and all support. Then actually do it. See if she starts caring then.

Just think about what she's saying. They have a testable sample, but she doesn't want it done until afterwards? Why? Maybe she was already fucking the other guy before you knew it.

 

[Drenalin]

You need to tell her that if she doesn't care then you don't care and will cut off any and all support. Then actually do it. See if she starts caring then.

She would like that. She doesn't want anything to do with me. Her wish would be for me to disappear so her & her boyfriend can raise the babies together without the hassle of me being involved.

 

[DespicablePeep]

So some on here remember my story. I'll sum it real fast with cliffs

-gf asks me to have kids with her
- she gets pregnant & instantly leaves
-tells me she was also trying to have kids with her ex at the same time, but she's certain I'm the father based on estimated conception date
-it's a high risk twin pregnancy & one baby isn't growing & is expected to pass any day now

So I sent her this message & now she says I'm not allowed at the doctors appointments anymore. Shitty part is I was planning on asking the doctors about a prenatal paternity test right now before I buy a house & a new truck, which I need before the babies are born. She says she's tired of my nasty remarks. Honestly I think I'm being rather nice considering what she did to me.

"I didn't say anything that wasn't true. You might not wanna admit that you're selfish & immature but you've proven otherwise. Mature people don't try to have kids with 2 guys at the same time & then leave the one they think is the father. You're also with a guy who cheats on you & has kids with other women. Not to mention he prays on your parents to manipulate you. That's a clear sign that you have mental health issues. You might not wanna accept that but it's a fact. And don't worry I'll pay for that paternity test even though it's your fault that I need one. You probably can't afford it anyway"

this had to be a joke.

I would change my phone number the minute she said she was trying to have a child with another guy as well. I would feel bad for the kid but I would not ruin my life. And seriously why did you agree to have kids with her, you could not see how demented she was? Or you are as demented as her?

wtf

She must be incredibly hot at least give us pictures of the stupid slut

 

[DoomPatrol]

She would like that. She doesn't want anything to do with me. Her wish would be for me to disappear so her & her boyfriend can raise the babies together without the hassle of me being involved.

Right, but you can still take it to the courts and demand a paternity test and rights to the child if that happens. Until then, she's leeching your money. I know you want to do the right thing by the child and I admire that, but you need to be smart in this situation.

 

[Drenalin]

this had to be a joke.

I would change my phone number the minute she said she was trying to have a child with another guy as well. I would feel bad for the kid but I would not ruin my life. And seriously why did you agree to have kids with her, you could not see how demented she was? Or you are as demented as her?

wtf

She must be incredibly hot at least give us pictures of the stupid slut

There's one picture posted somewhere in this thread. It's the only one I could upload that wasn't too large

 

[DespicablePeep]

Right, but you can still take it to the courts and demand a paternity test and rights to the child if that happens. Until then, she's leeching your money. I know you want to do the right thing by the child and I admire that, but you need to be smart in this situation.

She could just be riding his money, knowing its not his child. You can´t be so gullible TS. Say you give her some money for the test now, if the kids not yours just don´t give the money afterwards.

this shit can´t be real

 

[Drenalin]

Right, but you can still take it to the courts and demand a paternity test and rights to the child if that happens. Until then, she's leeching your money. I know you want to do the right thing by the child and I admire that, but you need to be smart in this situation.

I haven't given her a penny. All the appointments are paid for by her insurance. I'm making sure I put all the effort I can into being involved, so that way it looks good on me when we go to court

She is ignoring me now & says she's done with me until the babies get here

 

[DoomPatrol]

She could just be riding his money, knowing its not his child. You can´t be so gullible TS. Say you give her some money for the test now, if the kids not yours just don´t give the money afterwards.

this shit can´t be real

That's my idea of what's going on, which is why she might not be willing to do a paternity test until the child is delivered. She enjoys OPs support and help, but knows it really probably isn't his and doesn't want to deal with it until the baby is born. If she can wiggle her way into financial support long term, I think she will.

 

[DoomPatrol]

I haven't given her a penny. All the appointments are paid for by her insurance. I'm making sure I put all the effort I can into being involved, so that way it looks good on me when we go to court

She is ignoring me now & says she's done with me until the babies get here

I say good riddance then. Don't do shit for her until you see a paternity test. If that makes her happy, then fine. If it pisses her off, then fine. You're not on her program. You're on your own program.

 

[Drenalin]

She could just be riding his money, knowing its not his child. You can´t be so gullible TS. Say you give her some money for the test now, if the kids not yours just don´t give the money afterwards.

this shit can´t be real

None of this is about money. She hasn't & wont get anything from me.

And every bit of this is real. Welcome to my world

 

[Drenalin]

That's my idea of what's going on, which is why she might not be willing to do a paternity test until the child is delivered. She enjoys OPs support and help, but knows it really probably isn't his and doesn't want to deal with it until the baby is born. If she can wiggle her way into financial support long term, I think she will.

She honestly doesn't want any support from me. If she had it her way, I'd be completely out of the picture. And now I am out of the picture until the babies are born.

It pisses me off that she won't agree to doing the prenatal paternity test right now when the sample is already there & just needs to be tested

 

[cobrinski]

She isn't worth of your time.One second.Start living your life again.You'll be a good father,no matter...Leave it behind,go on man

 

[pinger]

We agreed to have kids together & if she wasn't at work, she was at home getting cream pied by me. The estimated conception date is right after we started trying to have kids. Once again I'm most likely the father. And I wish I wasn't, but I most likely am. It benefits me to be involved through the whole process. I'm not signing the birth certificate until the paternity test confirms I'm the father. Paternity tests do confirm who the father is. Guys find out they're not the father all the time. It's not only about the gov not paying for the child.

Jesus dude, get the paternity test done.

You are taking the word of a girl who has admitted cheating on you. Who is to say he was the only other one? How can you trust anything this girl tells you?

 

[DoomPatrol]

She honestly doesn't want any support from me. If she had it her way, I'd be completely out of the picture. And now I am out of the picture until the babies are born.

It pisses me off that she won't agree to doing the prenatal paternity test right now when the sample is already there & just needs to be tested

All that tells me is the kid isn't yours and she doesn't want to admit it. It's your life, I can only give you the advice from an outside neutral perspective. You need to choose what you're willing to put up with. I wouldn't put up with that insufferable cunt's bullshit for one more second, but you're not me.

Girls do fucked up things once they get baby fever man. My own sister pulled some shit I never thought she'd do once she got closer to baby fever age. You can't trust her word on anything.

 

[Drenalin]

Jesus dude, get the paternity test done.

You are taking the word of a girl who has admitted cheating on you. Who is to say he was the only other one? How can you trust anything this girl tells you?

She was with me every second of her free time around the time she got pregnant. Also she hates me & if she didn't think I was the father, she would've cut ties with me along time ago. I'm trying to have a prenatal paternity test done now but she says no

 

[Drenalin]

All that tells me is the kid isn't yours and she doesn't want to admit it. It's your life, I can only give you the advice from an outside neutral perspective. You need to choose what you're willing to put up with. I wouldn't put up with that insufferable cunt's bullshit for one more second, but you're not me.

Girls do fucked up things once they get baby fever man. My own sister pulled some shit I never thought she'd do once she got closer to baby fever age. You can't trust her word on anything.

Trust me, it's all but certain I'm the father. If she wasn't at work, she was at home with me. We lived together. She tried to leave me to go back her ex boyfriend & have kids with him, but at that point she was already 3 weeks pregnant but didn't know it yet. That lasted 3 days & they broke up.

I'd love to think I'm not the dad & I hope I'm not. But realisticly when when I'm trying to get her pregnant 3-4 times a day, everyday for a month straight, odds are I'm the father. The etstimated conception date is during when we were trying non stop

 

[DoomPatrol]

Trust me, it's all but certain I'm the father. If she wasn't at work, she was at home with me. We lived together. She tried to leave me to go back her ex boyfriend & have kids with him, but at that point she was already 3 weeks pregnant but didn't know it yet. That lasted 3 days & they broke up.

I'd love to think I'm not the dad & I hope I'm not. But realisticly when when I'm trying to get her pregnant 3-4 times a day, everyday for a month straight, odds are I'm the father. The etstimated conception date is during when we were trying non stop

I know you say that, but you're not the first person to think that. What's stopping her from dropping by or meeting him during working hours or at lunch? You don't track her every second of her life. She told you it lasted 3 days. Could have lasted 3 months. Could have never stopped. You just can't trust what she tells you. She clearly doesn't care about your feelings, nor does she have your best interests in her heart.

 

[DoomPatrol]

And here's a picture of the bitch. Uploading pics on here is borderline impossible.

View attachment 239003

You might want to be careful with that. I don't know if you're allowed to post private photos of people like that.