Do you think this text is too harsh?

[iWinYouLose]

I never said you were wrong, but I'm certainly gonna fight for 50/50 custody regardless of what anyone says. The truth about her will come out in court & she'll seem very immature. Also I've heard the courts always want whats best for the kids & I believe that's me being the primary parent.

Well you sure are being pretty stubborn about it. I'm just trying to help you. I talk to my buddy about his cases all the time. The story never changes. Vagina always wins. Every time.

Doesn't mean you'll get it. Because you wont. Not unless you do what I said.

She will be on her best behavior in court and most likely will let her lawyer do 99% of her talking for her, so that is a non factor.

If you really want your kids to have the best life circumstances with you, you need to be taking my advice.

"The truth" about her is a nonfactor. The courts don't care. Because vagina. They don't care about the truth, whats just, whats right or what's fair. Because vagina. All they care about is cuck-ass social justice and the politics involved. Like I said before, she could burn down a church on video and still get the courts sympathy and decision because vagina. If the courts ruled in your favor for anything less than drug addiction or her beating the kids senseless on tape, the femnazi media would have a field day over her vagina rights.

 

[iWinYouLose]

No that's actually personal experience mixed in with every family member of mine/friends/family members of friends who've been divorced but k.

What broad statistical evidence are you referring to?

Your experience means nothing.

Google it.

And my friend is a huge divorce/custody attorney. I speak with him about his cases all the time. Story never changes - vagina wins via flying knee. Because vagina. Every time.

 

[Eazy123]

Your experience means nothing.

Google it.

And my friend is a huge divorce/custody attorney. I speak with him about his cases all the time. Story never changes - vagina wins via flying knee. Because vagina. Every time.

My evidence according to the state I'm in's visitation guidelines (of which there are no set rules by default, but this is what's often ordered):

The child visits the non-custodial parent:

Every other weekend
One evening or overnight each week

The holiday schedule usually has the parents alternate the school and legal holidays and gives each parent half of spring break.

The summer break schedule may give the non-custodial parent 4-6 weeks.

Your evidence:

Talking to some guy.

 

[Almighty Angus]

You should kill the boyfriend and then battle for custody.

 

[iWinYouLose]

My evidence according to the state I'm in's visitation guidelines (of which there are no set rules by default, but this is what's often ordered):

The child visits the non-custodial parent:

Every other weekend
One evening or overnight each week

The holiday schedule usually has the parents alternate the school and legal holidays and gives each parent half of spring break.

The summer break schedule may give the non-custodial parent 4-6 weeks.

Your evidence:

Talking to some guy.

Your Google search is basically regurgitating what I've already said, seeing as how they don't follow that like it's set in stone. If there was just one guideline and they did what you just said, there'd be no reason to go to court. They'd just write the order.

When you go to court, vagina holds more weight because vagina. So these guidelines you copy and pasted slowly but surely start leaning into her favor and the more time she gets.

My evidence comes from "some guy" who is one of the biggest divorce/custody lawyers in the nation who is 10x smarter than you and your entire family ever thought about being.

Nice bullshit sherdog argument attempt though.

 

[minute bull]

Your experience means nothing.

You're taking on a seriously arch stance, but there is sense to your approach.

Going to court is like any other negotiation: You go after a much bigger fish than you actually want and you put on a big show to intimidate. Even if you don't go through with it, you have to go big.

A lot of left-behind men and women will want to play fair, or worse play nice, because of "old times" -- but you want to go as big as you can. (Without fabricating evidence, please.) Dem halcyon days are over. It sucks and no one wants to be the asshole -- but that's why you gotta be ice-cold.

 

[iWinYouLose]

You're taking on a seriously arch stance, but there is sense to your approach.

Going to court is like any other negotiation: You go after a much bigger fish than you actually want and you put on a big show to intimidate. Even if you don't go through with it, you have to go big.

A lot of left-behind men and women will want to play fair, or worse play nice, because of "old times" -- but you want to go as big as you can. (Without fabricating evidence, please.) Dem halcyon days are over. It sucks and no one wants to be the asshole -- but that's why you gotta be ice-cold.

Plant crack.

 

[minute bull]

The word is "sprinkle!"

 

[Drenalin]

You should kill the boyfriend and then battle for custody.

Not worth going to prison. They will break up again anyway. They always have been off & on. That won't change now that she has kids by another man. I'm sure right now he's hoping the babies are his.

I was with her at the hospital after her emergency surgery to save the babies. She asked me to leave so her boyfriend could stay with her. I said I want to meet him. She told no he doesn't want to speak to me because his feelings are hurt that he's not the father lol

 

[TheNinja]

Are you stupid?

He is the potential father. He can show up. He may not be able to be in the actual exam room because of patient confidentiality, but he can come to the center, be there, and ask to see the results.

You're a fucking retard.

I know the law, rookie.

You know the law......weren't you the one earlier telling him to BREAK THE LAW by planting drugs at her place or in her car?? Ya, I'm sure a "law expert" would suggest something like that. That's illegal man. He's doing everything he can by the books to come across as a stable reasonable human being. You are telling him to become a criminal. Not sure I'd take advice from you....no offense.

 

[chrisdiaz]

Ts is hoping for this reaction....Sorry to hear that story man.

 

[Drenalin]

Ts is hoping for this reaction....Sorry to hear that story man.

I picture it going down like when the Mexican dude in half baked tells everyone fuck you

 

[Philo-Publius]

So some on here remember my story. I'll sum it real fast with cliffs

-gf asks me to have kids with her
- she gets pregnant & instantly leaves
-tells me she was also trying to have kids with her ex at the same time, but she's certain I'm the father based on estimated conception date
-it's a high risk twin pregnancy & one baby isn't growing & is expected to pass any day now

So I sent her this message & now she says I'm not allowed at the doctors appointments anymore. Shitty part is I was planning on asking the doctors about a prenatal paternity test right now before I buy a house & a new truck, which I need before the babies are born. She says she's tired of my nasty remarks. Honestly I think I'm being rather nice considering what she did to me.

"I didn't say anything that wasn't true. You might not wanna admit that you're selfish & immature but you've proven otherwise. Mature people don't try to have kids with 2 guys at the same time & then leave the one they think is the father. You're also with a guy who cheats on you & has kids with other women. Not to mention he prays on your parents to manipulate you. That's a clear sign that you have mental health issues. You might not wanna accept that but it's a fact. And don't worry I'll pay for that paternity test even though it's your fault that I need one. You probably can't afford it anyway"

You never should have gotten her pregnant. She is keeping you at an arms length and is going to try to hit you up for child support. Make sure you get that paternity test and if you are the father go for custody so that she can pay you child support instead.

 

[Drenalin]

You never should have gotten her pregnant. She is keeping you at an arms length and is going to try to hit you up for child support. Make sure you get that paternity test and if you are the father go for custody so that she can pay you child support instead.

That's my exact plan. I know I shouldn't have gotten her pregnant, but that's all water under the bridge at this point.

 

[chrisdiaz]

In all honesty, it sounds like she wanted kids and didnt really care who the father was, IE sleeping with both of you. Was abortion not an option? It sounds like you want to be part of the kids life if they are yours.

A messed up story but my brother had a kid with some mexican chick and raised it as his till almost 2 just to find out it wasnt his. Killed him inside and still effects him today. Please make sure to get a paternity test ASAP.

 

[Horse Style]

I picture it going down like when the Mexican dude in half baked tells everyone fuck you

 

[Drenalin]

In all honesty, it sounds like she wanted kids and didnt really care who the father was, IE sleeping with both of you. Was abortion not an option? It sounds like you want to be part of the kids life if they are yours.

A messed up story but my brother had a kid with some mexican chick and raised it as his till almost 2 just to find out it wasnt his. Killed him inside and still effects him today. Please make sure to get a paternity test ASAP.

Well her boyfriend cheated on her & got a girl pregnant. So that was a big problem for them. She ended up with me & she told me she wanted kids with me & she was never leaving me. Our whole relationship was based on lies from her.

I guess now she thinks her & her boyfriend are even since they both have kids with someone else. Even though our pregnancy was planned & not an accident like his.

No doubt I'll have a paternity test done right away. I'm actually trying to have a prenatal paternity test right done right now before the babies are even born. I'm getting ready to buy a house & a new truck in preperation for the babies. I'll be so pissed if I do all of that & find out I'm not the father.

Edit: and no abortion isn't an option. I do want kids. Just not under these circumstances

 

[minute bull]

Just not under these circumstances

Oh no?

Quelle surprise.

 

[iWinYouLose]

You know the law......weren't you the one earlier telling him to BREAK THE LAW by planting drugs at her place or in her car?? Ya, I'm sure a "law expert" would suggest something like that. That's illegal man. He's doing everything he can by the books to come across as a stable reasonable human being. You are telling him to become a criminal. Not sure I'd take advice from you....no offense.

Nice attempt at the bullshit sherdog "you have a typo so you're argument doesn't matter" reply but no dice.

It doesn't matter that what I said is illegal, he won't get caught. Period.

Sometimes you have to rig the system in your favor when the system is rigged in the other persons favor. I'm trying to give him a way to get a leg up on the "because vagina" courts. Moron.

Nice guys finish last. Him playing by the rules isn't going to do a damn thing for him and that's a fact. You must have no idea of how courts work in custody battles. Which part of she could burn a church down and still get custody because vagina do you not understand? Should I put it into another language for you? He could be clean cut and straight as a board, and she could come to court belligerent as hell, call the judge a pussy, and have evidence shown about her dui, and she'd STILL get custody. Because vagina rights. What sense does it make for him to do things by the book when the woman could do every possible thing to fuck up and they'd still rule in her favor?

You know nothing.

If TS doesn't take my advice and instead ignorantly goes based on what he THINKS will work, it's his funeral and I hope he has fun going through a living hell for the next two decades.

 

[Halifax]

So some on here remember my story. I'll sum it real fast with cliffs

-gf asks me to have kids with her
- she gets pregnant & instantly leaves
-tells me she was also trying to have kids with her ex at the same time, but she's certain I'm the father based on estimated conception date
-it's a high risk twin pregnancy & one baby isn't growing & is expected to pass any day now

So I sent her this message & now she says I'm not allowed at the doctors appointments anymore. Shitty part is I was planning on asking the doctors about a prenatal paternity test right now before I buy a house & a new truck, which I need before the babies are born. She says she's tired of my nasty remarks. Honestly I think I'm being rather nice considering what she did to me.

"I didn't say anything that wasn't true. You might not wanna admit that you're selfish & immature but you've proven otherwise. Mature people don't try to have kids with 2 guys at the same time & then leave the one they think is the father. You're also with a guy who cheats on you & has kids with other women. Not to mention he prays on your parents to manipulate you. That's a clear sign that you have mental health issues. You might not wanna accept that but it's a fact. And don't worry I'll pay for that paternity test even though it's your fault that I need one. You probably can't afford it anyway"

Harsh?

If anything, you held back.

I hope to hell these kids are NOT yours so you do not have to support this bitch whatsoever