Relationships Do you forgive and let it go or do you still hold grudges?

[Takes Two To Tango]

I use to hold grudges when I was younger and when I get slighted, I even returned the favor so to say.

But now at my age I just let it go and move on to the next moment, chapter of my life.

You live and learn and that's what you do, not worth it to get back at someone.

It's too burdensome to hold a grudge and look for some kind of revenge.

 

[I Am Legion]

Tend to forgive, life is too short to let grudges fester. Unless it's a true betrayal, then just do a write off.

 

[lsa]

Not really.
But I do have a good memory and I might never talk to you again. If you have broken my trust, its hard to win it back.
But wanting revenge and keep thinking about things?
Naw. Life too busy for that shit.

 

[Gutter Chris]

I use to hold grudges when I was younger and when I get slighted, I even returned the favor so to say.

But now at my age I just let it go and move on to the next moment, chapter of my life.

You live and learn and that's what you do, not worth it to get back at someone.

It's too burdensome to hold a grudge and look for some kind of revenge.

Need a third option. I can move on and not be mad forever , but it doesn't mean all is forgiven and well . The relationship can be damaged beyond repair without dwelling hating and seeking vengeance.

 

[Takes Two To Tango]

Need a third option. I can move on and not be mad forever , but it doesn't mean all is forgiven and well . The relationship can be damaged beyond repair without dwelling hating and seeking vengeance.

That's true, I'll add that option.

 

[payton]

I forgive because its illegal to go full Raja mode.

 

[philcrow]

Depends on the circumstances but in general forgive and let go. But regardless, the friendship or relationship is never the same again.

 

[Stoic1]

I'll punch some fuckin people in the face I remember from Junior High. I'm like an angry elephant.

 

[Ornife]

I'll punch some fuckin people in the face I remember from Junior High. I'm like an angry elephant.

But not from your daycare days as a young tike? I call that restraint.

 

[tank666]

I use to hold grudges when I was younger and when I get slighted, I even returned the favor so to say.

But now at my age I just let it go and move on to the next moment, chapter of my life.

You live and learn and that's what you do, not worth it to get back at someone.

It's too burdensome to hold a grudge and look for some kind of revenge.

I used to hold a grudge against you for rejecting my poll idea (poll to choose TTTT best ever poll)
However I'm over it now. No grudge. I haven't forgotten though.

 

[Osculater]

I forgive because its illegal to go full Raja mode.

Going full Raja cleanses the soul

 

[Osculater]

I tend to forgive or say fvck em, and move on

 

[payton]

Going full Raja cleanses the soul

So true.

 

[HUGHPHUG]

Forgiveness is for pdfile priest to administer, but I don't hold grudges, I thought

That said, someone did try to fuck me over recently and I know if I see them at any point it won't be pleasant for them. I'm not carrying a grudge as such, that was someone who showed their true colours and I wouldn't be able to be polite to. So I don't know, does that count as a grudge?

I assume our paths will not cross again, I don't hold any ill will and don't seek penance. I just couldn't not be honest about how much of a cunt they are

 

[chill doggie]

I tend to hold grudges but I have the capacity to forgive.

 

[markantony20]

The Torah teaches to be as vengeful and spiteful as possible and I listen to the book.

Jk

 

[Swamps]

I hold grudges. A dude stole a CD player and some Metallica CDs from me in 9th grade. This was like 27 years ago. Dude tried to add me to Facebook and I denied the request.

Went back home for a funeral and he was at the same gas station I was pumping gas at. Walked up and tried to talk to me. Told him to get away from me and that I had nothing to say to him.

 

[Thepaintbucket]

Depends on the situation. Like if your girlfriend / wife cheated on you, I'm going to hold on to that for the rest of my life.

 

[Spounman]

Forget it and move on, you're the one stressing about it not them

 

[SurferH2O]

I've cut out people who used to be good friends after they showed their true colors. It's almost always because they are selfish to the point of hurting others.

The worst was a friend I grew up with, and stopped others from kicking his ass multiple times in High School and in our early 20s. He talked me into working with his family's company, which did technology for the California State Government. The business was doing well, and I made some big deals that really set them on a great path in a two-year period. Instead of them taking that path, the family internally all fought for the $$$ without the staff knowing it. Huge new homes, nice cars, big vacations, etc, and as I had a newborn looking for a new home in the area, I found out from one of my biggest customers that my "friend" has started a new company behind everyone's back and was soliciting them, because the family company is going to fail/go bankrupt. I am stunned at the news from my customer, because I know of the multi-million $$$ deals I delivered. When I confronted the asshole, he offered to let me come work for him and his new company. GTFO. I told his family of his plan to gut the business, and what did the dummies do? They let me go... with a newborn and tons of success for them. The company proceeded to fail, as did his new start-up. I cut him off for good, and looking back, my not allowing him to get his ass kicked was a disservice. He needed it badly. I may see him again after two decades next month as I travel to NorCal for an event with some mutual friends... and if I do.... I'm going to have to walk away.