In Japan drug stores you can buy a plastic ear pick that's long and has animal face on the end. The picking part is blunt.
My earwax used to be somewhat dry and flakey, but recently, it's like thin motor oil. I have to wash my head pillow case every week sometimes using Palmolive due to oil/sweat. I have microfiber fabric armrest covers and had to use Palmolive and scrub it to get all this caked on oil/dead skin cells off where it was rigid. Nice and soft now.
From Amazon, you can buy a plug and play otoscope which works on your computer as if it's a webcam. The one I got has a light, but no auto focus, just fixed focus. It's interesting to see inside your ear. There were times I could have swore my ear was blocked by a ton of earwax, but not really. It's like the wax builds up on the inner walls and sometimes you see a small lump of crystal looking wax.