How would you distance yourself amicably from someone who's clingy but you don't want to hang out with?
Since last year, I've become "friends" with this woman who for whatever reason, has taken a real liking to me and is willing to go out of her way to hang out with me and talk to me. She's very involved in the local community and knows a lot of my friends and acquaintances. She's been always nice to me and never did anything against me personally, but... the more I get to know her, the more I find her annoying and off putting. If she was a real friend, I would feel comfortable openly telling her what's up, but alas she's not.
Without going into too much detail, she's the type of person who loves to make everything about herself. She takes things personally and makes everything into a woke gender race culture war issue. She also tries to turn people against certain others she doesn't like. She's also clingy and I find her "friendship" to be overbearing.
This is a case of "demoting" someone from friend to acquaintance, except I never considered this person really a friend to begin with.
I'd like a cordial relationship with her without having to spend too much time with her. Because she is very involved in the community, it's very likely I will run into her if I do decide to go out to socialize, and if she perceives my distancing as a slight against her, she might try to turn other people against me. I want to distance myself from her without burning bridges if I don't have to.
I've been distancing myself slowly, still responding to her texts with shorter messages and she still persists, jokingly talking about how she's going to hunt me down to hang out with me. Kind of gives me the creeps.
What would you in this situation?
Just stop talking to her? Tell her straight up that you don't enjoy talking to her?
Since last year, I've become "friends" with this woman who for whatever reason, has taken a real liking to me and is willing to go out of her way to hang out with me and talk to me. She's very involved in the local community and knows a lot of my friends and acquaintances. She's been always nice to me and never did anything against me personally, but... the more I get to know her, the more I find her annoying and off putting. If she was a real friend, I would feel comfortable openly telling her what's up, but alas she's not.
Without going into too much detail, she's the type of person who loves to make everything about herself. She takes things personally and makes everything into a woke gender race culture war issue. She also tries to turn people against certain others she doesn't like. She's also clingy and I find her "friendship" to be overbearing.
This is a case of "demoting" someone from friend to acquaintance, except I never considered this person really a friend to begin with.
I'd like a cordial relationship with her without having to spend too much time with her. Because she is very involved in the community, it's very likely I will run into her if I do decide to go out to socialize, and if she perceives my distancing as a slight against her, she might try to turn other people against me. I want to distance myself from her without burning bridges if I don't have to.
I've been distancing myself slowly, still responding to her texts with shorter messages and she still persists, jokingly talking about how she's going to hunt me down to hang out with me. Kind of gives me the creeps.
What would you in this situation?
Just stop talking to her? Tell her straight up that you don't enjoy talking to her?
