I'd most likely comply to a command I felt was unlawful unless it was to hurt someone else. It's really our job to assess in real time whether a PO's command is lawful, and make compliance decisions based on that assessment. We should comply and use the mechanisms we have to seek redress if the command was not lawful. We've seen a lot of people hurt and killed for not following unlawful commands. In many cases even after they started complying, because now someones blood was up.
You don't have to convince me about women. I wouldn't scream if there were more female PO's. But we need to be careful not to fixate on the ratio. We simply need to do identify the optimal traits. And hire those with the optimal traits, man or woman, without preoccupation about how many are men and women. And there does have to be a balance of skills. It does not matter how good at de-escalating you are if you are completely helpless when things escalate.