Dealing with my kid's friend...

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So my kid is 7 years old, and across the street is an 11 year old. 11 year old kid is always coming over and hanging out with my kid-which is cool gives my kid someone to hang out with. The 11 year old has definitely had a rough up bringing, talked to his dad the other day and his mom lost custody of him due to drugs and everything else and the dad now has full custody.

Recently, it seems like the whole neighborhood is just showing up at my house to hang out with my kid...idk, my kid must be popular or something...he's only 7 so it seems weird.

I really had no qualms or issues about this besides that they're all older, but there kids there probably just bored. The 11 year old doesn't have the greatest of manners but whatever-he's a kid. But the closest one to his age is a 9 year old. So anyway 9 year old today was talking to my kid's mother today and told him that the 11 year old had taken his tablet and was watching porn with it. My kid didn't even know what porn is... as he immediately asked what it was upon hearing the other kid talk about...and obviously I don't want him exposed to that type of stuff especially at such a young age.

My kid's mother pretty much says she doesn't want that 11 year old over at all or my kid hanging out with him worried that he will expose our son to stuff that's inappropriate, which is understandable but it'll be super awkward now as the kid lives like right across the street...and I kinda feel bad for the kid as he's had a rough upbringing, but at the same token I really think my kid should be hanging out with kid's his own age as to avoid be exposed to stuff earlier than he normally would.

What do the sherdog brethren make of this situation?
 
Make your kid watch as much porn as possible how could he not know what that is. What shitty parenting
 
Watch porn with everyone in your neighborhood. That'll show the 11 yr that he ain't special.
 
Tough one man but I'd probably just let him hang out with the 11 year old. Too much awkwardness with him living across the street and his poor manners probably aren't his fault.
 
An 11 year old watching porn ? That's funny. I'd let the kid hangout at the house but maybe with only supervision and no computer or tablet access. Idk if they play video games but you might want to think about restricting access on the Internet.
 
Srsly tho Tell the 11 year old your son is doing homework or something. Fuck the upbringing guilt. My neighborhood has a little fucker like that, and the other neighborhood parents tell him nope can't come over. If he or his parents ask why then you mention the porn thing and you don't appreciate the influence.

You didn't cause his upbringing, so it's a non issue.
 
choke you said:
Tough one man but I'd probably just let him hang out with the 11 year old. Too much awkwardness with him living across the street and his poor manners probably aren't his fault.
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Yeah that's what I said to his mother too...that his manners were probably not his fault.

I was indifferent as to whether or not to hang out with the kid though.
 
just sit and talk with the 11 year old....kid probably needs an adult who listens to him
 
Eazy123 said:
Srsly tho Tell the 11 year old your son is doing homework or something. Fuck the upbringing guilt. My neighborhood has a little fucker like that, and the other neighborhood parents tell him nope can't come over. If he or his parents ask why then you mention the porn thing and you don't appreciate the influence.

You didn't cause his upbringing, so it's a non issue.
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lol this is pretty much my kid's mother style.

I was like idk that's going to be an awkward conversation with the kid or the parents if they ask and she's like i'll go over there and tell his parents no problem...I was like alright, i'll let you handle that.

Perhaps I need to man up a little bit but idk. I see him as 11 and pretty innocent still.
 
His manners ARE his fault. Sure his parents are probably shitheads but the kid is 11, not five. He knows right from wrong.
 
Porn can really hurt a kid's development cycle.

I'd make it clear to the 11 year old that it's not appropriate for him to talk about adult subjects with the 7 year old.
 
If all else fails you could fill the room with uppercuts. Seems to always work for me.
 
Honestly, the spell of naïveté is probably broken and your kid knows and is curious now. Porn is so accessible that he can find it if he wants. I'd just have a candid conversation with him. You got dealt a rough one here, 7 is dang young for that kind of exposure.
 
Run over the 11 year olds cat and stuff it in a garbage bag. Do a chest workout and assault your step father.
 
SFMMA said:
Honestly, the spell of naïveté is probably broken and your kid knows and is curious now. Porn is so accessible that he can find it if he wants. I'd just have a candid conversation with him. You got dealt a rough one here, 7 is dang young for that kind of exposure.
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well for what it's worth my kid (the 7 year old) hasn't been exposed to it that I know of.

The 9 year old brought it up to my kid's mother that the 11 year old took his tablet and watched porn with with my kid there. my kid was then asking, 'what's porn?'...so I'm pretty sure he hasn't been exposed to it. I'll probably just explain to him that's it naked people and gross. I told him that's the reason why he can't watch deadpool and he seemed okay with that.

I think the main concern is that the 11 year old will eventually end up exposing my kid to that type of stuff which I would like to avoid.
 
CatchOmega said:
Run over the 11 year olds cat and stuff it in a garbage bag. Do a chest workout and assault your step father.
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Take him to a movie.
Take him to a movie.
Take him to a movie.
Take him to a movie.
Take him to a movie.
Take him to a movie.
Take him to a movie.
Take him to a movie.
Take him to a movie.
 
Even without this coming up, they should always be heavily monitored.
 
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