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I wonder if I have a penchant for meeting weird people as here is yet another thread about me complaining about a "friend" I have.
A while back one of my best friends met this dude (Let's call him Pete) and couldn't wait to introduce me to him. He claimed Pete is a cool dude and that I would get along with him. When we finally met, I thought my friend was right. Pete seemed cool; dude came off as confident and kind of like a frat-bro. Pete and I got together to drink and hit on girls often afterwards.
The more I hung out with Pete the more I realized that confidence was actually insecurity and his bro-ness was basically a caricature of a bro. He would constantly try to one-up you over the most stupid shit and try to out-alpha you and talk shit. Guys like to talk shit and rag on each-other sure, but it was way over the top and got tiring. He would also nut-tap people and smack them on the head. Being in our 30s this shit seemed both immature and over the line. I once had to smack him in the face and threaten that I'll kick his ass to keep him in line. I felt terrible about it afterwards because I don't like being aggressive but it was needed; he stopped for awhile and he slowly started to do it again. At my age this shit is tiring. To top it off he would also talk shit to people he doesn't know for no reason.
Despite his arrogance, he's kind of a loser without a steady source of income. He complains about having no money and sometimes brags about how his grandmother gave him an allowance. Dude is 30 years old. I don't know why he doesn't, you know, apply for a freaking job. He only recently started working for this agency that I work for because I pushed him to apply. Ever since then he'd try to one-up me every time about how he's a better teacher than me. Mind you this is a freelance gig that people do on the side, and I have two other jobs that is my main source of income, but he treats it like he's playing for the NBA.
With this backdrop, the line for me was when I realized he tried to leech money off people. When we hung out, he tries to make other people pay for it. Like he'll say, "Let's go to the bar and order drinks. You got this." Who fucking tells other people that they're going to pay for it? At first I thought he was just joking and I brushed it off but turns out he was serious. He never offers to get drinks himself unless it's to impress chicks. My friend who introduced also says he ends up spending more money when Pete is around.
My natural response to all of this is to not hang out with this guy anymore. My friend who introduced us is also getting tired of his shit. I told him that if Pete tries to nut tap me again I might swing at him as an instinctive reaction and he said he couldn't blame me. The problem is that he is still in our social circle and knows a lot of people I do so I'm likely run into him again. Turns out I'm the only one either and other people have problems with him too but they deal with him by being friendly, but not too close to Pete. My plan is to do the same; be cordial but keep a distance.
I think this is the best way to deal with Pete but I wonder if there is a better way to deal with this kind of person? And don't suggest that I fill the room with uppercuts because I'm afraid I actually might do that. I want to deal with situations in the most mature and peaceful, and perhaps even compassionate, way possible.
Cliffs:
1. Met a potential new friend
2. Turns out he's an insecure asshole who constantly tries to out-alpha you
3. Doesn't have a real job at 30 years old and gets an allowance from his grandma
4. Plan to keep distance but he hangs with the same social circle
5. Might touch with teh jab and fill the room with uppercuts
A while back one of my best friends met this dude (Let's call him Pete) and couldn't wait to introduce me to him. He claimed Pete is a cool dude and that I would get along with him. When we finally met, I thought my friend was right. Pete seemed cool; dude came off as confident and kind of like a frat-bro. Pete and I got together to drink and hit on girls often afterwards.
The more I hung out with Pete the more I realized that confidence was actually insecurity and his bro-ness was basically a caricature of a bro. He would constantly try to one-up you over the most stupid shit and try to out-alpha you and talk shit. Guys like to talk shit and rag on each-other sure, but it was way over the top and got tiring. He would also nut-tap people and smack them on the head. Being in our 30s this shit seemed both immature and over the line. I once had to smack him in the face and threaten that I'll kick his ass to keep him in line. I felt terrible about it afterwards because I don't like being aggressive but it was needed; he stopped for awhile and he slowly started to do it again. At my age this shit is tiring. To top it off he would also talk shit to people he doesn't know for no reason.
Despite his arrogance, he's kind of a loser without a steady source of income. He complains about having no money and sometimes brags about how his grandmother gave him an allowance. Dude is 30 years old. I don't know why he doesn't, you know, apply for a freaking job. He only recently started working for this agency that I work for because I pushed him to apply. Ever since then he'd try to one-up me every time about how he's a better teacher than me. Mind you this is a freelance gig that people do on the side, and I have two other jobs that is my main source of income, but he treats it like he's playing for the NBA.
With this backdrop, the line for me was when I realized he tried to leech money off people. When we hung out, he tries to make other people pay for it. Like he'll say, "Let's go to the bar and order drinks. You got this." Who fucking tells other people that they're going to pay for it? At first I thought he was just joking and I brushed it off but turns out he was serious. He never offers to get drinks himself unless it's to impress chicks. My friend who introduced also says he ends up spending more money when Pete is around.
My natural response to all of this is to not hang out with this guy anymore. My friend who introduced us is also getting tired of his shit. I told him that if Pete tries to nut tap me again I might swing at him as an instinctive reaction and he said he couldn't blame me. The problem is that he is still in our social circle and knows a lot of people I do so I'm likely run into him again. Turns out I'm the only one either and other people have problems with him too but they deal with him by being friendly, but not too close to Pete. My plan is to do the same; be cordial but keep a distance.
I think this is the best way to deal with Pete but I wonder if there is a better way to deal with this kind of person? And don't suggest that I fill the room with uppercuts because I'm afraid I actually might do that. I want to deal with situations in the most mature and peaceful, and perhaps even compassionate, way possible.
Cliffs:
1. Met a potential new friend
2. Turns out he's an insecure asshole who constantly tries to out-alpha you
3. Doesn't have a real job at 30 years old and gets an allowance from his grandma
4. Plan to keep distance but he hangs with the same social circle
5. Might touch with teh jab and fill the room with uppercuts
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