Dealing with emotions after getting DESTROYED in sparring...

[mmayweather fan**]

I am wondering do you guys go through emotions and I hate to say the "C" word :icon_cry2


For example I always thought of myself a poor mans mayweather and had some decent boxing skills but this new guy just absolutly murderd me where when we where doing the last round of sparring I was backpaddeling and getting caught dropped.



After the sparring I felt so much SHAME!!! that I just felt like a coward and it just was very very humbleing exprience. Thankfuly I didnt show the tears in sparring but after washing my face off my coach told me that its not unsual to get emotional and he said its more common then I think it is.


Now I am wondering have you guys went through it and also how do deal with this.

The very main reason I ask is this is I am trying to be professional not just in skill but in attitude as well and I dont want to act like some douche later down the road if I do get in to competion and if I do lose then I want to be professional enough to stick around and not disrespect anyone after the fight.


I am saying this not because I am trying to be a wimp or learn to become a good loser or some shit like that I say this because its part of being a professional. I would like to be a professional both inside and outside the competion.

 

[Sinister]

It's normal Bro, but if you're back in the Gym the next day wanting to correct everything wrong with you, then you've got the stuff. However, I dare suggest you get with a good trainer who is going to take the time and explain to you why you're just a "poor man"...minus the "Mayweather."

Also, there's a thread around here giving props for tough sparring partners, I suggest you take a look at it. Some of the Natives around here have a reputation for being that special kind of crazy that smiles in the face of an ass-whoopin'. I also made a thread sometime ago about how to get used to getting your ass kicked. Read-up on that.

 

[dr.feelgood]

Same thing happened to me the other week. It was my first day back sparring after recovering from a cut above my eye and I was matched up against the guy who is a stylistic nightmare for me. Got the shit kicked out of me, was dropped multiple times and literally probably only landed 4 or 5 times a round, but man you just gotta keep a sense of humor about it or you'll never last in any combat sport. Its easy to smile and take a beating when you're giving one back, but the hard part is when nothing you throw lands and everything is countered.
Still, even if inside you just feel like throwing off your gloves and walking away, crack a joke or two and make yourself laugh. It'll keep you from punching a hole in the wall.

 

[LOWKICK87]

its ok , happens to everyone u gona get used to taking hits

 

[Flexwave2003]

Well you know there are differents levels of sparring.

If you're Ray Sefo the kind of sparring you're doing should be different than kid joe from Sherdog.com.

Are you training to be a professional? Or are you just wanting to get a fancy looking belt around your waist?

Bottom line to it, no matter if you're in Kims tae kwon do class or Joes boxing gym there will be winners and losers. But if you're a lamb playing with lions, you either learn to be a lion quickly or become dinner every evening at the gym.

 

[SWATCOP]

I was recently training for a charity boxing event (Battle of the Badges), thinking about dusting off the old boxing skills for a good cause one last time. So I got my brother to do some sparring with me. It had been a long time since I did any boxing sparring, so I figured I'd kinda ease into it. Bottom line: he owned me. While he never hurt me, he boxed circles around me, and I bet I didn't connect ten good times the whole session. In that session, plus the four weeks or so of hard training that followed (mostly on my own, its really hard to get people to spar, so most of my training was solo), I realized that whatever I once had that made me good, dare I say, very good, at one time, is now gone.

Oh, and the fight never happened. I trained hard twice a day for four weeks, and a few days prior, I was informed that the organizers couldn't find anyone to fight me. The heavyweights they had signed up didn't want to fight me, or were already slated to fight someone else. That sucked, but maybe it was for the best.

 

[singdawg]

don't be a C*** you pus**.

no, but seriously, there will ALWAYS be someone who beats you. You may think yourself top of your game. but the truth is. you will NEVER be the top of your game. even the top guy, hes got someone above him. and that guy? he's got someone above him! its just how it is.

there is no top.

once you realize this, your objective will be rather than beating the other person, to improve yourself.

the only way to be the best, is to be the best YOU can be. I could be the number 1 ufc champ, the number 1 olympic champ, the number 1 in the world, but you could still be beaten, by ANYBODY. but when you are the best YOU can be, nobody will beat you, no matter how badly you stank.

 

[JAY_roc52001**]

Man Im kinda dealing with the same thing, I was doing some boxing yesterday just for fun. The first guy I did good aganist then I had to be a tough guy and call out this big dude. Shit he worked me over pretty good. He rocked me mutiple times, I landed a few good punches. But I know some of the things I did wrong. But im still undecided if I won or lost haha. He landed more and hurt me at times. But he ended up quiting.

 

[vjvj]

Your coach is right, getting emotional like that is a lot more common than people think. We have a few people on our team that have their emotional days like that. It's not that big of a deal. If you have a good team, they will understand.

As for not being a potential douche after a potential loss, all I can say is try to remember that once the fight/session is over he's not your enemy. He supports the sport just like you do and had the balls to fight you. He deserves respect for that alone, and if he beats you, it's his moment so don't take that away from him. You would like the same.

Guys like Mayweather and Fedor are one in a billion. For us normal guys, there will always be someone better and there will always be bad days where we lose despite being the better guy. Like they say, check your ego at the door...

 

[seoi nage**]

Don't worry man we all have that, as sinister said if you're in the gym the next day trying to fix everything thats wrong with you you're made of the right stuff

Also for some motivation bro, even one of the greatest boxers of all time and by the sounds of it your hero has his bad days in the gym aswell.

 

[Flexwave2003]

Floyd got worked there, nice footage.

 

[1Strike]

That video proves what most of us in here already know: In combat sports every dog has his day. In other words we all end up getting are ass kicked sooner or later.
If you never get outclassed , then it only means you aren't sparring the right people.

When you do take an ass whipping , just use it as motivation to work harder, learn more, improve and do better next time.

 

[Stev3]

It's alright, it happens to everybody. Just take it as a lesson and improve on what you did wrong

 

[mmayweather fan**]

Thanks guy for the response, also when I said poor mans mayweather basicly I meant that I thought highly of myself to think that I have his foundation in terms of defense amongs guys my exprience.


But so yeah this happend on friday and I went back to the gym on saturday to work on my job and getting of the ropes. That damn jab is everything...



Anyway hopefuly one day I can have a solid technique and defensive... like the coach said 90 percent of the game is leg work

 

[ghost scribble]

Before you spar or train, you need to humble yourself a little. Remember, you're there in the first place so you can learn and get better. Getting your ass handed to you is expected.

Maybe I'm weird, but I enjoy fighting so much that even if I lose, and lose bad, I can still smile and congratulate the guy for embarrassing me.

When I lose, I get frustrated and it sucks obviously, but at the same time I'm excited because I see how much better I could become, how much more I have to learn. It just makes me want to work harder.

Become stronger, faster, smarter. Surpass the guy who once shamed you, then find someone above him to beat. You just have to pick yourself up, tell yourself that you're not perfect, and keep working.

When you look back the fighter you used to be a year or two ago, or even just a few months ago, and see how far you've come, it feels good.

 

[ButcherGEIN]

I am wondering do you guys go through emotions and I hate to say the "C" word :icon_cry2


For example I always thought of myself a poor mans mayweather and had some decent boxing skills but this new guy just absolutly murderd me where when we where doing the last round of sparring I was backpaddeling and getting caught dropped.



After the sparring I felt so much SHAME!!! that I just felt like a coward and it just was very very humbleing exprience. Thankfuly I didnt show the tears in sparring but after washing my face off my coach told me that its not unsual to get emotional and he said its more common then I think it is.


Now I am wondering have you guys went through it and also how do deal with this.

The very main reason I ask is this is I am trying to be professional not just in skill but in attitude as well and I dont want to act like some douche later down the road if I do get in to competion and if I do lose then I want to be professional enough to stick around and not disrespect anyone after the fight.


I am saying this not because I am trying to be a wimp or learn to become a good loser or some shit like that I say this because its part of being a professional. I would like to be a professional both inside and outside the competion.

Take it with this piece of advice man. The world wasn't built on a string of successes. When you fail you learn and it's a chance for improvement.

If that guy kicked your ass, train with him and learn where you're going wrong.

 

[Jeff822]

Use those emotions as motivation. Keep pushing through.

 

[NamelessMC]

One guy in my camp said that I had what it takes to be an animal because I got dropped on my first day of sparring. Got my nose broken, bled all over the place, got knocked down. Basically got my ass handed to me after doing fairly well against two of the better known guys there.

Afterwards I was back doing Ju Jitsu and even offered the guy I sparred with to finish the rounds because he was preparing for a fight and I didn't want to short change him.

My coach told me that he has no preference to guys emotional or guys that are back in there, because he said either man can learn from his mistakes.

How you deal with your losses is a personal thing to you that no one else will match or find similarity in. Some guys break down, some guys get mad, other guys hold it in, some guys shrug it off.

The best you can do is let it sink in enough for you to feel like you finished it, and then get back up and remember that they'll respect you more in the gym for coming back after that and continually pairing yourself with the guy who beat you, like I paired myself with mine, just so I could land that one shot on him. That one left straight that wobbles him so that after he collects himself, he looks straight at me and nods his head.

I thrive for that nod. I don't care how badly I get hit, I just wanna hit back and see the nod.

So instead of thinking about how to deal with this loss, play the match back in your head, look for holes in his game, change old habits you built, because trust me, you might think you've evolved and added so many weapons to your assault, but chances are, because this kid was new to the gym, he noticed your habits more than any of the people there that allowed you to hide behind them.

Analyze your game, change a few things and come back the next day and make it a goal to not get beat as badly as before. It's not like the movies where from one day to the next you make another step better. Changes over time are what counts. It's not important how much better you are on Tuesday than you were on Monday. It's more about how much better you are in June since January.

 

[devante]

Before you spar or train, you need to humble yourself a little. Remember, you're there in the first place so you can learn and get better. Getting your ass handed to you is expected.

Maybe I'm weird, but I enjoy fighting so much that even if I lose, and lose bad, I can still smile and congratulate the guy for embarrassing me.

When I lose, I get frustrated and it sucks obviously, but at the same time I'm excited because I see how much better I could become, how much more I have to learn. It just makes me want to work harder.

Become stronger, faster, smarter. Surpass the guy who once shamed you, then find someone above him to beat. You just have to pick yourself up, tell yourself that you're not perfect, and keep working.

When you look back the fighter you used to be a year or two ago, or even just a few months ago, and see how far you've come, it feels good.

i agree w/ur point, i like when im outclassed or dismantled; forces me to think about what im doing, how ive trained, my application conditioning tech selection def and off. Its all part of the game and i find it to be an enjoyable part...doesn't shake me at all.

i have never been the best guy, in fact everytime i sparred or been in a class im usually the worse guy; so getting handled doesn't bother me, given the credentials of the people i have sparred its almost expected. But i like it because it shows me all the holes in my game, also keeps me humble; most importantly it builds confidence cus i know that not everyone is this good, an when i can hold my own or not get run over it builds confidence because if im doing ok w/the best guys the dudes my level lower or a lil higher ain't got nothing for me.

 

[vjvj]

Maybe I'm weird, but I enjoy fighting so much that even if I lose, and lose bad, I can still smile and congratulate the guy for embarrassing me.

This is exactly how I am, too. I'll give the guy props for the stuff he landed on me, and sometimes ask questions on how to counter it or maybe how I was leaving myself open. Usually experienced guys are more than happy to help you out when you ask questions and are being respectful about it.