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2.5 years ago I got hired into my current job. There was already a person doing the job I got hired into, and usually two people aren’t hired to do this job. But the person had been complaining about being overworked, so the company shelled out and hired me to help.

Needless to say, I felt like a threat to my new coworker who was afraid I was there to replace them. But that’s not how it was communicated to me and it certainly wasn’t my plan. I’ve come to learn for that the past 2.5 years that coworker has been secretly undermining me. Eg. Telling people I’m lazy, she does twice the work I do, she is more effective than me etc. Well....it didn’t workout for her. She just got told her contract will not be renewed, but mine will. Anyway, her contract lasts ‘til June, so we are still working side-by-side.

That’s fine, at this point I’m just professional with her. But she did have some supporters who are disheartened and now I’ve learned she’s trying to smear me to my colleagues....what to do?

My tact has been to just be professional. I’m hoping the other adults here see that when I’m not in the room she is spitting crazy venom, but when she’s not in the room, I’m doin’ my job as always with nothing bad to say. I’m hoping they see, that’s why I’m still here. Thoughts?
 
There's no magic pill for this. You obviously can't control the thoughts and actions of other people. If they're intelligent they'll see how smoothly the wheels continue to turn after she's gone. If they don't fuck em' continue to do you. If it ever becomes unhealthy for you, find another job.
 
Do your job and stay very respectful of everyone---especially her. Sometimes one's distaste for another can come out even without one knowing it.
 
There isn’t much you can do. The coworkers who bought into her shit did so because they want to believe her. Nothing is going to change that. You just have to learn to live with it. I’ve been in a similar situation. And believe me, there is no changing the mind of someone who wants to believe a certain thing as opposed to someone who just believes something.

Look at people’s political beliefs, specifically those having to do with economics. Most people know fuck all about economics, yet they are convinced a lower corporate tax rate will be good for middle class Americans, or that government spending is the way to bring back the middle class. Really, they just have a particular worldview, and one of those two theories helps confirm their preconceived notions. So there is no convincing them otherwise.
 
Just do your job, after she is gone you can make your own impact. Do a good job and people will forget about the bitch. If you are a lazy pile of shit and she is telling the truth everyone will know. Don't get into any arguments with her. I would do the best I could not to have any interaction with her till she is gone.
 
NHB7 said:
2.5 years ago I got hired into my current job. There was already a person doing the job I got hired into, and usually two people aren’t hired to do this job. But the person had been complaining about being overworked, so the company shelled out and hired me to help.

Needless to say, I felt like a threat to my new coworker who was afraid I was there to replace them. But that’s not how it was communicated to me and it certainly wasn’t my plan. I’ve come to learn for that the past 2.5 years that coworker has been secretly undermining me. Eg. Telling people I’m lazy, she does twice the work I do, she is more effective than me etc. Well....it didn’t workout for her. She just got told her contract will not be renewed, but mine will. Anyway, her contract lasts ‘til June, so we are still working side-by-side.

That’s fine, at this point I’m just professional with her. But she did have some supporters who are disheartened and now I’ve learned she’s trying to smear me to my colleagues....what to do?

My tact has been to just be professional. I’m hoping the other adults here see that when I’m not in the room she is spitting crazy venom, but when she’s not in the room, I’m doin’ my job as always with nothing bad to say. I’m hoping they see, that’s why I’m still here. Thoughts?
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Fuck her right in the pussy.
qM3LpS
 
That fucking sucks. She has seniority over you which means most will tend to believe her. I guess you could try doing a project which the company would value, and make a big deal out of yourself to make yourself look good? Also, you can fight fire with fire- she smears you? You smear her too.
 
How much annual leave do you have left?

Any chance you can go on a holiday while she completes her last couple of weeks....then you start fresh once you return?
 
NHB7 said:
But she did have some supporters who are disheartened and now I’ve learned she’s trying to smear me to my colleagues....what to do?
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well, based on what you are saying, this tells me everyone you need to know about a person. and this part of her personality is likely a big reason why she's being shit canned and you aren't.

all those people she's shit talking you to are probably gonna be happy as fuck she's gone. and 3-5 months after she's gone nobody will even fuckin remember her.

so i honestly wouldn't worry about it. you made it ahead b/c you are a better worker, less drama and easier to work with. and if someone has a problem with a worker like then they themselves are likely a piece of shit.
 
Sounds like typical workplace fare.

Fill the office with uppercuts
 
NHB7 said:
2.5 years ago I got hired into my current job. There was already a person doing the job I got hired into, and usually two people aren’t hired to do this job. But the person had been complaining about being overworked, so the company shelled out and hired me to help.

Needless to say, I felt like a threat to my new coworker who was afraid I was there to replace them. But that’s not how it was communicated to me and it certainly wasn’t my plan. I’ve come to learn for that the past 2.5 years that coworker has been secretly undermining me. Eg. Telling people I’m lazy, she does twice the work I do, she is more effective than me etc. Well....it didn’t workout for her. She just got told her contract will not be renewed, but mine will. Anyway, her contract lasts ‘til June, so we are still working side-by-side.

That’s fine, at this point I’m just professional with her. But she did have some supporters who are disheartened and now I’ve learned she’s trying to smear me to my colleagues....what to do?

My tact has been to just be professional. I’m hoping the other adults here see that when I’m not in the room she is spitting crazy venom, but when she’s not in the room, I’m doin’ my job as always with nothing bad to say. I’m hoping they see, that’s why I’m still here. Thoughts?
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You won. It's over.

Let her be bitter. Ignore her.
 
Personally I would call her out in front of everyone.

But I'm probably not someone you should take advice from
 
Burn bridges, fuck your bosses wife, and your female (or male, whatever you’re into) coworkers...oh and tldr.
 
Play it like this: you understand that she is melting down because she has to leave. You are sympathetic towards her despite her meltdown against you and you hope she does well in the future, regardless.

BAM-- you're bulletproof now. This attitude is so easy to get along with, you will recruit 80% or more of them and dis-incentivize the ones who don't like you from adding to the fuss (it makes them look REALLY bad from a work perspective). The more she trashes you now, the more it looks like what you are saying is right and the less stable she and her goons look. They will quiet down and this mess will necessarily be forgotten (as long as you don't screw up at work)

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On the other hand, if you act up or try to directly fight back, it looks like YOU are the one with the mental issues/instability problems. Don't do that. Do your best to look level-headed, reasonable and empathetic. That way you'll look even better than if this mess never happened
 
NHB7 said:
2.5 years ago I got hired into my current job. There was already a person doing the job I got hired into, and usually two people aren’t hired to do this job. But the person had been complaining about being overworked, so the company shelled out and hired me to help.

Needless to say, I felt like a threat to my new coworker who was afraid I was there to replace them. But that’s not how it was communicated to me and it certainly wasn’t my plan. I’ve come to learn for that the past 2.5 years that coworker has been secretly undermining me. Eg. Telling people I’m lazy, she does twice the work I do, she is more effective than me etc. Well....it didn’t workout for her. She just got told her contract will not be renewed, but mine will. Anyway, her contract lasts ‘til June, so we are still working side-by-side.

That’s fine, at this point I’m just professional with her. But she did have some supporters who are disheartened and now I’ve learned she’s trying to smear me to my colleagues....what to do?

My tact has been to just be professional. I’m hoping the other adults here see that when I’m not in the room she is spitting crazy venom, but when she’s not in the room, I’m doin’ my job as always with nothing bad to say. I’m hoping they see, that’s why I’m still here. Thoughts?
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You’re doing the right thing. Keep your head down and do your work. Keep crushing it.
 
NHB7 said:
2.5 years ago I got hired into my current job. There was already a person doing the job I got hired into, and usually two people aren’t hired to do this job. But the person had been complaining about being overworked, so the company shelled out and hired me to help.

Needless to say, I felt like a threat to my new coworker who was afraid I was there to replace them. But that’s not how it was communicated to me and it certainly wasn’t my plan. I’ve come to learn for that the past 2.5 years that coworker has been secretly undermining me. Eg. Telling people I’m lazy, she does twice the work I do, she is more effective than me etc. Well....it didn’t workout for her. She just got told her contract will not be renewed, but mine will. Anyway, her contract lasts ‘til June, so we are still working side-by-side.

That’s fine, at this point I’m just professional with her. But she did have some supporters who are disheartened and now I’ve learned she’s trying to smear me to my colleagues....what to do?

My tact has been to just be professional. I’m hoping the other adults here see that when I’m not in the room she is spitting crazy venom, but when she’s not in the room, I’m doin’ my job as always with nothing bad to say. I’m hoping they see, that’s why I’m still here. Thoughts?
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Get ahead of the inevitable and start smearing her on social media calling her a depraved slut and cheating whore. Then when she invariably decides to initiate her #metoo final solution she'll get on social media and see she's been beaten to the punch and that any rape accusations from her will just be perceived as damage control at that point
 
the problem is,your coworker is a woman,they're all mad cunts that create nothing but problems in the work place.
 
neverwas said:
the problem is,your coworker is a woman,they're all mad cunts that create nothing but problems in the work place.
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Unlike you who is just a ray of constant fucking sunshine spreading the good vibes wherever you go, eh pumpkin
 
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