At my wits end with my best friend long rant

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So ive known my best friend since we were little kids, maybe 7-8 years old, we're 30 now.

These past few weeks its really been hard for me to not go crazy on him. Hes has the mental maturity of a 16 year old.

For example ive helped him out so many times with ... Everything. Ive helped him move multiple times, pick stuff up for him when im out etc.. Basically be a good friend.

Last weekend for the first time ever i ask him for a favour and you would think its the end of the world. I ask him to help me pick up a dresser i bought from the store. I go with him to rent a truck and he just starts complaining in the lineup. "Why do we have to do this today?", "Lets go it's too hot out I don't want to do this", "This is going to take forever" etc..

I was honestly embarrassed to be there with him. His non stop complaining made me feel like a parent with his disobedient child, trying to keep him from acting out in public.

We go to pick up the dresser and i tell him its a nice dresser, its regularly $1000 but i got it during a good sale for 70% off. He opens up a drawer when we get it back to my place and it makes a noise. My friend says "I thought you said this was quality it sounds like shit".

I ended up having to take out a drawer and fix a screw to stop the sound.

I tell my friend i fixed the noise it was just a drawer getting caught. He says "Who fucking cares your place is a dump". Im like ...

This guy gets so envious when someone gets something that is better than his that he will lash out and attack you.

Its happened more times than i can count. You can literally see the disgust and hatred in his eyes any time someone shows him something and its better than his. Hes the most materialistic person i know. He grew up in a rich family and now that hes on his own he tries to live beyond his means but hes thousands in debt. He lectures me about how my life is easier because i lived at home for a long time.

Im just tired of it. Hes not always a prick but he is wayyyyy too often. There is so many other things i could bring up but the thread would be 20 pages long.

Hes my best friend but..

How much shit do you take from someone before you call it quits. This thread really doesnt paint the picture, hes an asshole. He would never do something nice for a friend unless he somehow benefited from it.

Part of the reason i havent cut ties yet is that hes my only friend. I know that's a shitty reason to stay friends with someone but i cant make new friends because im anti social.

In also friends with his brother whos nothing like him and if i cut ties i wont get to see him anymore either.

Hes basically my last tie to the outside world and if i end it, thats pretty much it as far as having friends goes. Ill just end up hanging out with myself... Forever... Lol

What would you do in my situation. Sorry if the thread is scatterbrained.
 
Sucks, but in my 30s too, and I don't have time for that. To me it sounds like your friendship has run its course, or can only continue at a superficial level. As in have drinks with the guy, but stop doing him any favors and don't expect him to help you.

I imagine you will hear a bunch of "tell him how you feel" but c'mon, it was a good friendship, lasted longer than most, but it's okay for people to grow apart.
 
I am assuming you are single because he sounds like a guy who'd try to fuck your gf.
 
I've cut off close friends for less than that. You're in your 30s now. Get used to your social circle getting smaller because you don't have time for this shit.
 
I've known people like this. I've never known one to change his stripes, though I suppose it's possible. Some people just can't be happy for other people. I don't know what their deal is, but I don't expose myself to it unnecessarily anymore.
 
You don't need bullshit like that in your life, you are to old for that shit. Cut ties and move on. Join a bjj gym and make friends there or do something where you have to be interactive with people to make friends. You do not need this asshole in your life
 
I'm really pretty damn good at cutting losers out of my life. He doesn't sound like much of a friend.

If you draw us a picture representing what happened I'm sure we'll be able to give you better advice.
 
dc007 said:
I've cut off close friends for less than that. You're in your 30s now. Get used to your social circle getting smaller because you don't have time for this shit.
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+1, my best friends of my past are acquaintances at this point. I picked up new friends instead, other parents around my kids age. My past friends also matured too slow so we deviated. They are in their late 30's, still desperately clubbing, and I'm with 4 kids, maybe a 5th on the way. We dont relate anymore.
 
There's only one feasible option...have sexual intercourse with him.
 
Touch him with the jab and make him say nice things about your dresser.
 
Does this guy need you in his life? Because it sure doesn't seem like you need him in yours.

Also, I am confusing this thread with another from a few weeks back where a guy was complaining about his longtime sad sack friend never wanting to do shit, constantly bitching and spurning attempts to help him with chicks etc.

This better not be the same guy, or There Will Be Uppercuts.
 
DevilsLettuce said:
+1 - You never let another man besmirch your dresser.
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You gotta have one good blow-up session on him. I mean really let him have it and tell him in your passionate, unfiltered, brutal way what a piece of shit he is. Maybe he'll get some perspective and you two can patch it up, or he doesn't and you ditch him. Either way it's a win.
 
Dogstarman said:
You don't need bullshit like that in your life, you are to old for that shit. Cut ties and move on. Join a bjj gym and make friends there or do something where you have to be interactive with people to make friends. You do not need this asshole in your life
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Ive been thinking about joining a workout gym for awhile but its not something that gets me excited. I would only do it to waste time and not get fat. I dont think i would actually enjoy it. Still thinking it though.

I really don't want to meet new people. I try to avoid people as much as i can lol. Friends ask you to go places and do stuff. Like i said, im anti social. If i made a friend and we went out i would probably end up standing by myself not saying anything, i find social gatherings uncomfortable and i shut down.

If i was more social it would be fine but im not. I havent been to a bar or club in 10 years. I haven't gone out anywhere in 10 years. I can barely answer the phone... Sometimes i cant.

Yeah im messed up lol. That's why i know if i cut ties thats it. Ill never make a new friend
 
I've cut a handful of friends off that I known for 20+ years. The headaches aren't worth it. Cut him out of your life and move on.
 
DevilsLettuce said:
I'm really pretty damn good at cutting losers out of my life. He doesn't sound like much of a friend.

If you draw us a picture representing what happened I'm sure we'll be able to give you better advice.
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You always want pictures !:)
 
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