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Ask a Guy in a Mens Group anything

After 20 years it was unavoidable that mixing business and the group was going to happen, so yes we have worked for each other in our specific fields, we have loaned money to one and other. It has always worked out and in some cases has been mutually profitable for all parties involved....

now i can see clearly the benefits of the group :)
 
Seems strange to me.
 
Who is the dominate alpha male? Do the dominate alpha male have to dry dominate hump other members to show his position? :icon_lol:
 
Problems and feeling are definately part of it, but not the only part. As far as WRECKED MEN, look around at any of the people you know, most every person and family at some point has to deal with the unpleasant things that just come along with being human. So yes we have had to support members at different times going through divorces or illness, or addiction.....but that is not the emphasis unless it needs to be. Our oldest member is 72, the youngest me at 48, most of the members are very successful high functioning proffessional guys, this is in no way a requirement it has just worked out that way. Look at the group as a resource, do you how much life experience there is in this group? For me it is a place to go once a week and learn about myself, get support on something if I need it, give support if it's needed and basically stay grounded and healthy, it's been a great thing in my life and I think many others could benefit from it...

I guess by wrecked I meant like, really troubled. Maybe to the point of having stress disorders. I just wasn't sure.

But no, it sounds like a good thing, and if you have been doing it for 20 plus years then good for you. I just wanted to get an idea of how varied the subjects of conversation could be. I mean will any of you discuss say, the super bowl for instance the week after it. Hope you know what I mean. :) I don't know where you are located so maybe the SB is not part of your culture or not.

And I imagine you typing this out with that same look the cat has in your avatar which cracks me up every time I see it.
 
Is it like this?
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I guess by wrecked I meant like, really troubled. Maybe to the point of having stress disorders. I just wasn't sure.

But no, it sounds like a good thing, and if you have been doing it for 20 plus years then good for you. I just wanted to get an idea of how varied the subjects of conversation could be. I mean will any of you discuss say, the super bowl for instance the week after it. Hope you know what I mean. :) I don't know where you are located so maybe the SB is not part of your culture or not.

And I imagine you typing this out with that same look the cat has in your avatar which cracks me up every time I see it.

Nothing to serious, a few members on Anti Depressents maybe, otherwise I would classify everyone as NORMAL CRAZY. Sure we would discuss the Super Bowl a little, we meet between 2 and 3 Hrs so a big sporting event or current event will usually get a few minutes. This past week the Topic was "How you deal with people that annoy you" and how has that changed over the years. Other examples have included writing our own Eulogy. (this type of meeting would be considered experiential). Over the years we have discussed MONEY,SEX, COURAGE, HONESTY, RELIGION, Just about everything and anything you can think of. It is actually very difficult to come up with new topics, we have been at it for so long.
 
Im not gonna make fun of you TS. Seems like you have a good group of friends who care care for and support each other. I dont really see anything gay about it. Unless yall are having kinky group sex during these meetings too.
 
Its funny, I have a friend of 3 years.

We communicate by text.

The other day I told him we should Skype sometime so I could ask him about moving from Canada to the US.

He refused and said he cant chat with even close friends because "that is gay" LOL

hahahhaa, ya, so I think a Mens Group isnt an option for him.

you friend sounds like an insecure douche
 
Nothing to serious, a few members on Anti Depressents maybe, otherwise I would classify everyone as NORMAL CRAZY. Sure we would discuss the Super Bowl a little, we meet between 2 and 3 Hrs so a big sporting event or current event will usually get a few minutes. This past week the Topic was "How you deal with people that annoy you" and how has that changed over the years. Other examples have included writing our own Eulogy. (this type of meeting would be considered experiential). Over the years we have discussed MONEY,SEX, COURAGE, HONESTY, RELIGION, Just about everything and anything you can think of. It is actually very difficult to come up with new topics, we have been at it for so long.

Maybe we should start a list on here of topics and you can pick any you like. :P
 
I have family and a best guy friend in a men's group, they're called The Masons.
 
Do you ever hang out with these men outside of the group meetings?

Not often but yes occasionally, some friendships have been forged outside the group. Generally speaking its best to keep things separate.
 
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