Are you motivated by spite?

[Fedorgasm]

Some parents choose to be encouraging, and tell their kids they can do anything. Most of those kids grow up to be losers.

However,

Jake the snake Roberts wanted to be an architect. But it didn't impress his dad. So Jake wrestled in a local show to make his dad proud (his dad was a pro wrestler). And Jake went up his dad afterwards and said "so what did you think?" his dad said, "I'm ashamed of you. You'll never amount to anything."

Jake's response:

... and I said 'by god, if it's the last thing I do, I'm gonna shove this business up his rear.' And guess what? I did it. And guess what? It didn't matter"

In Jake's case, he was actually motivated by spite, and that took him to the top of his field.

So while it's certainly the meaner path to take, is it actually good for kids to have people that doubt them?

 

[UL]

nope

I'm a lazy shit still

 

[Krixes]

Sometimes... It's fun to prove others wrong.

 

[Zer]

Some parents choose to be encouraging, and tell their kids they can do anything. Most of those kids grow up to be losers.

However,

Jake the snake Roberts wanted to be an architect. But it didn't impress his dad. So Jake wrestled in a local show to make his dad proud (his dad was a pro wrestler). And Jake went up his dad afterwards and said "so what did you think?" his dad said, "I'm ashamed of you. You'll never amount to anything."

Jake's response:

... and I said 'by god, if it's the last thing I do, I'm gonna shove this business up his rear.' And guess what? I did it. And guess what? It didn't matter"

In Jake's case, he was actually motivated by spite, and that took him to the top of his field.

So while it's certainly the meaner path to take, is it actually good for kids to have people that doubt them?

Jake left his mark on the business but the full story isn't exactly rosy bro. Guy was a complete degenerate in his personal life

That said my parents spoilt the shit out of me and supported me in everything I did and I turned into a degenerate fuck as well. There's definitely a balance to be struck

 

[badascan]

One does ones self a disservice by being spiteful... usually the person you are trying to get back at won't realize how they wronged you or how you feel you've returned the favor...

 

[Alphaboy]

This is a type of "representative bias".

I'm willing to bet that for every kid that succeeded from being discouraged are 10 kids that decided to give up.

There are some people that do well with encouragement and there are people who do well by being beat down and trying to prove others wrong. I'd err on the side of the former though.

 

[Peteyandjia]

Spite, anger, negative emotions etc are good short-term motivators, but they burn out quickly, like kindling, and they also eat away a bit at the person carrying them.

Love, the passion of one’s dreams, positive things, etc are like slow-burning logs, they last much longer when tended to, and they also benefit the person carrying them.

Better to look for positive motivators, and let the negative ones go, I think. Life is short enough as it is.

 

[punky brewster]

The best revenge is living well

 

[Khabibs Tiramisu]

i am motivated by burgers

 

[Loiosh]

All I have left is my spite.

It nourishes me.

 

[all caps]

Nope