Anxiety over changing jobs

[Fedorgasm]

Got a good opportunity that I'm going for. Same money but more security and I get to learn new skills.

Haven't even interviewed for it yet and the anxiety is killing me.

All these crazy thoughts swirling in my head.

What if I suck at it? I have a family to support.

What if I get fired?

What if my new boss is a jerk and makes me miserable?

What if my new team sucks and are a bunch of back stabbing ladder climbers?

And watch, I'll suffer through all this worrying and may end up getting rejected anyway.

 

[Tone C]

 

[syct23]

Would be awesome if you got the new job and found out that one of us sherdogers was your new boss!

Good Luck!!

 

[avenue94]

Just remember, you can always say no even if you get the offer. That's helped me in the past focus during interview processes.

 

[ricc505]

Go for it. The most successful people I know have changed jobs and stepped up every so many years. It's like changing schools, make some new friends and make a good impression

 

[Tone C]

Would be awesome if you got the new job and found out that one of us sherdogers was your new boss!

Good Luck!!

Yea, but how many of us actually manage a McDonalds?

 

[Belaya Smert]

We just escorted our hot HR lady out of the building Monday. If she can do it you can do it.
Hope you are a hot black chick.

 

[syct23]

Yea, but how many of us actually manage a McDonalds?

I think you would be rather shocked if a poll were to be added..

 

[Meatspin]

Yea, but how many of us actually manage a McDonalds?

It's important to have aspirations in life.

 

[Tone C]

I think you would be rather shocked if a poll were to be added..

What , none ?


And you and Meatspin made me chuckle, thanks.

 

[syct23]

What , none ?


And you and Meatspin made me chuckle, thanks.

*liked

 

[Fedorgasm]

I've only interviewed once in the last 15 years or so, and I didn't get that job. Gonna need to brush up there a bit.

 

[Tone C]

We just escorted our hot HR lady out of the building Monday. If she can do it you can do it.
Hope you are a hot black chick.

Kristin Cabot ?

 

[FyrFytr998]

If I’m gonna deal with anxiety, I better be at least getting more money for it. Then again, money isn’t everything.

It’s the reason I remain a senior Firefighter instead of testing for an officer position. The money isn’t worth the headache, and since there aren’t many Lt’s with more seniority than me, it’s still essentially “my shift”.

 

[Fedorgasm]

If I’m gonna deal with anxiety, I better be at least getting more money for it. Then again, money isn’t everything.

It’s the reason I remain a senior Firefighter instead of testing for an officer position. The money isn’t worth the headache, and since there aren’t many Lt’s with more seniority than me, it’s still essentially “my shift”.

Yeah more money would be great, but my current job doesn't feel very secure lately. So jumping to a new role that's more secure is worth it to me even if it's the same money.

Plus I get to learn new skills and gain experience in areas where I have none. Also better networking opportunities. So I think all that could lead to higher paying positions down the road.

 

[Aurelian]

I've only interviewed once in the last 15 years or so, and I didn't get that job. Gonna need to brush up there a bit.

Definitely start googling a bunch of various questions you can have solid answers too. The best way to eliminate that nervousness is to be prepared, though you'll still be nervous anyway.

 

[TheNinja]

I've only interviewed once in the last 15 years or so, and I didn't get that job. Gonna need to brush up there a bit.

I've interviewed a LOT over the past 5 years. I have also interviewed a number of people. The key I've found is just making a connection or having a sort of dialogue like you would have with a friend. Don't give the AI/standard answers in general or just tell them what you think they want to hear. They've heard it 100x before. Most people I know hire on personality and how well they like the person vs their actual skills. Sure you need to have the skills but skills can be learned. Liking or disliking someone or finding someone you want to work with is far more important and usually decided in the first 15-30 minutes.

Also, have some decent questions lined up when they ask, don't ask the same boring stuff. I'll usually ask like "I'm interviewing for X department......I'm curious about how the other departments tend to view X department. Is this a big challenge we are going to face?". Then you can jump off on that and say you are a great mediator or whatever. Or I ask what drew them to that company and what keeps them there. I like to start interviewing the interviewer. Turn the tables - Well not completely questioning them, but you want to seem curious and confident. Don't seem desparate or that you need the job and will just accept a low offer.

I know people say the market is tough right now, but there are jobs. I think the employers are putting out the idea the market is tough b/c they want to pay people less.

 

[Kung Fu Kowboy]

 

[Stoic1]

I've only interviewed once in the last 15 years or so, and I didn't get that job. Gonna need to brush up there a bit.

Try a different approach. Don't study. Don't even answer the question. Instead, turn it on them.


"Before I answer would you mind if I asked you something?"

Pause.

"Will my response to this question outweigh the reasons you called me in for this interview? Let me rephrase, if I don't give you the answer you're hoping for will it negate my X number of years in this field? Or a reference directly from X, who you all know from X - who specifically said I would be perfect for this job. And will it outweigh my credentials/cerifications?"

Pause.

"Okay, great. So if I mess this up no harm, no foul? Alright, here's what I think..."


I watched a guy use this strategy. I don't even think he answered the question.

The person who asked the question was on her heels, but wasn't who this person was going to be working for. The department director wrote like 3 words on paper. I asked him a technical question I think but it was like a yes/no whatdoyoudoif thing.

Less than a year later he was running a different department. Fucker managed to disarm a trap before it was set. Im pretty confident that he practiced that delivery for any question that might be tough for him.

 

[Contempt]

Got a good opportunity that I'm going for. Same money but more security and I get to learn new skills.

Haven't even interviewed for it yet and the anxiety is killing me.

All these crazy thoughts swirling in my head.

What if I suck at it? I have a family to support.

What if I get fired?

What if my new boss is a jerk and makes me miserable?

What if my new team sucks and are a bunch of back stabbing ladder climbers?

And watch, I'll suffer through all this worrying and may end up getting rejected anyway.

The only thing that most people use their imagination for in adulthood is to think about all the things that could go wrong...

Don't drive yourself nuts about all the possible downsides if you haven't even been offered the job yet.

Make sure you ask them questions about the workplace while in the interview... you may come to the conclusion that it's not a good fit and decide against it anyway.