And this too shall pass.

[Satur9]

Life is hard sometimes. Life will kick you in the shins, jab you in the eye, and then kick you in the butt as you cry. This will happen at some point, but it won't last.

My youngest is now a man, according to the government, and the last CS payment sent!!!! 15 years of turmoil, now at an end. The air somehow has a fresher scent than yesterday, and the sun shines a bit brighter today as well.

Hang in there, Sherbros. No matter what. Have a great day!

 

[Sonny Qc]

You deserve a few beers at a titty bar imo.

 

[Kung Fu Kowboy]

CHEERS SHERBRO

Chicks seeing that bigger...... back account

 

[Sweater of AV]

15 years of CS payments....

 

[Hellowhosthat]

You deserve a few beers at a titty bar imo.

Last thing he needs is to start more CS payments.

 

[AFanNotAFighter]

Funny how mo money makes one feel better.

 

[PBAC]

dad?

 

[Satur9]

Funny how mo money makes one feel better.

That is nice. I have paid out around 275k in that time, and that is a decent house in some areas of the country. Not many, but still.
I like the freedom more though. No longer having to deal with her at all anymore. Biting my tongue at the little jabs thrown my way. Conceding to things I know are a bad idea just to keep the peace. That cost me far more than money alone.

 

[Zer]

dad?

Let him enjoy his freedom bro. Now you're out of the picture he can finally afford all the cocaine and hookers he wants

 

[Fedorgasm]

Is the kid ok?

When my son turned 18 he certainly wasn't ready to be out on his own that day

 

[AFanNotAFighter]

That is nice. I have paid out around 275k in that time, and that is a decent house in some areas of the country. Not many, but still.
I like the freedom more though. No longer having to deal with her at all anymore. Biting my tongue at the little jabs thrown my way. Conceding to things I know are a bad idea just to keep the peace. That cost me far more than money alone.

I hope you maintained a good relationship with your child/children. Years ago I had a co-worker whose father used to send the child support checks with a note that said(and I'm paraphrasing): 'Because of you kids I can't have a nice house or a Corvette'. Needless to say it didn't make my colleague feel all that good growing up.

 

[Satur9]

Is the kid ok?

When my son turned 18 he certainly wasn't ready to be out on his own that day

No. He is still aimless and jobless. No goals. Mom still babying him. He isn't leaving his mom's house for a good while longer, but she is fine with stopping CS.

I hope you maintained a good relationship with your child/children. Years ago I had a co-worker whose father used to send the child support checks with a note that said(and I'm paraphrasing): 'Because of you kids I can't have a nice house or a Corvette'. Needless to say it didn't make my colleague feel all that good growing up.

Oh absolutely. They are good boys and not the cause of any of my pains.

That is a sad thing to hear about. I am not into punishing others for something they had no part in.

 

[syct23]

Is the kid ok?

When my son turned 18 he certainly wasn't ready to be out on his own that day

Wait until he realizes that these kids never actually leave…

 

[Fedorgasm]

No. He is still aimless and jobless. No goals. Mom still babying him. He isn't leaving his mom's house for a good while longer, but she is fine with stopping CS.

That sucks. I don't think you should kick your kids out unless they're being assholes, but I do believe in progressively requiring them to be more independent.

Like stop paying for their bills. Make them pay for their own gas, car insurance, cell phone, etc. then if they still won't leave then eventually charge them rent. But secretly just put all that rent money into an account and give it all back to them when they need a down payment or security deposit to get their own place.

 

[Satur9]

That sucks. I don't think you should kick your kids out unless they're being assholes, but I do believe in progressively requiring them to be more independent.

Like stop paying for their bills. Make them pay for their own gas, car insurance, cell phone, etc. then if they still won't leave then eventually charge them rent. But secretly just put all that rent money into an account and give it all back to them when they need a down payment or security deposit to get their own place.

Indeed…


She and I both had extremely difficult childhoods, so she decided to go to the extreme opposite end of the spectrum with them and not push them into anything—letting them lounge around all day doing nothing. They did what most people would in that situation and took full advantage of it. I even bought them a lawn mower years ago so they could start making a little money, but she put the kibosh on that as well. I’m not sure whether she was trying to be contrarian to anything I said or did, or if she simply wants them to remain permanently reliant on her. Either way, it’s extremely depressing to deal with.

 

[KBE6EKCTAH_CCP]

Counter Strike payments?