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Judoka1532

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Hello,

Guys before I get into what I'm talking about, I'm posting here because I haven't and can't tell anybody about this. I can only tell people I don't know and who don't know me personally. So even though sometimes I talk a little junk on here I really do have respect for a lot of you guys and It's a pleasure to communicate back and forth about different topics. I'm reaching out for advice.

Just found out Saturday that my wife is pregnant. I've been dying to tell somebody and you guys are my only outlet right now. She's only around 5wks pregnant and so some of you may know we need to wait several more weeks before we make an official announcement to family and friends. It's a wide range of emotions right now from nervousness, excitement, fear, and happiness. So for any of you fathers do you have any advice for me? For both during and after pregnancy? What should I expect from my wife? And how did you deal with the wide range of emotions.

Also, is anybody else expecting their first child? If so, know that you are not alone in being absolutely terrified and excited all in one.
 
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weren't you out of town 5 weeks ago? <23>

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seriously though, congrats, and I hope everything goes well for you both.
 
Just be like Mr. Weidman.

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It's exciting and terrifying that's for sure man, you got it in one. I guess I'd try to prepare for your wife changing a lot, both during the pregnancy and when the little one arrives. Obviously the whole thing is extremely hard and when things get tough you're gonna be the closest thing to take it out on so you might be a punching bag occasionally. I guess you just need to try and keep things on course and try to be around as much as you can.

Also try to keep an eye out for any post natal depression, it's very common amongst women, my wife had it. It can look like just a new mum dealing with the new responsibilities but it's very hard for both of you and the little one.

Oh and prepare to be ignored during the whole birth process. It's not something I'd suggest complaining about because they go through it all and there are mainly women around at the birth hospital as well, but they certainly don't consider what you're going through much. Its rough on us guys but no one will ever acknowledge it because (quite rightly) the women go through the whole birth process, but it's mentally difficult for us.

When my boy was born, it was a C section so the wife was pretty drugged up and unable to hold him. Anyway the midwife said "oh do you want to hold your son" and I said of course I did. Anyway I was holding him, emotional and completely freaked out and one of the nurses said "oh why is he holding him first, it should be his wife, she did all the work!" I was in the wrong state but I wish I could have told her to fuck off really.
 
Mariah Larry said:
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This sums it up. Your child will change your world, but unfortunately, you can't change his/hers.

Congratulations, Brotha!

It's amazing the emotions a child brings to a marriage. You literally want to choke them out one minute, and squeeze them tight and never let go the next!
 
TankAbbott4Eva said:
It's exciting and terrifying that's for sure man, you got it in one. I guess I'd try to prepare for your wife changing a lot, both during the pregnancy and when the little one arrives. Obviously the whole thing is extremely hard and when things get tough you're gonna be the closest thing to take it out on so you might be a punching bag occasionally. I guess you just need to try and keep things on course and try to be around as much as you can.

Also try to keep an eye out for any post natal depression, it's very common amongst women, my wife had it. It can look like just a new mum dealing with the new responsibilities but it's very hard for both of you and the little one.

Oh and prepare to be ignored during the whole birth process. It's not something I'd suggest complaining about because they go through it all and there are mainly women around at the birth hospital as well, but they certainly don't consider what you're going through much. Its rough on us guys but no one will ever acknowledge it because (quite rightly) the women go through the whole birth process, but it's mentally difficult for us.

When my boy was born, it was a C section so the wife was pretty drugged up and unable to hold him. Anyway the midwife said "oh do you want to hold your son" and I said of course I did. Anyway I was holding him, emotional and completely freaked out and one of the nurses said "oh why is he holding him first, it should be his wife, she did all the work!" I was in the wrong state but I wish I could have told her to fuck off really.
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Very insightful, and so true!

However, you left out the fact you can't bang your wife for a few months after the pregnancy! This may actually mean lots of bee-jays and handies, though :D
 
TankAbbott4Eva said:
It's exciting and terrifying that's for sure man, you got it in one. I guess I'd try to prepare for your wife changing a lot, both during the pregnancy and when the little one arrives. Obviously the whole thing is extremely hard and when things get tough you're gonna be the closest thing to take it out on so you might be a punching bag occasionally. I guess you just need to try and keep things on course and try to be around as much as you can.

Also try to keep an eye out for any post natal depression, it's very common amongst women, my wife had it. It can look like just a new mum dealing with the new responsibilities but it's very hard for both of you and the little one.

Oh and prepare to be ignored during the whole birth process. It's not something I'd suggest complaining about because they go through it all and there are mainly women around at the birth hospital as well, but they certainly don't consider what you're going through much. Its rough on us guys but no one will ever acknowledge it because (quite rightly) the women go through the whole birth process, but it's mentally difficult for us.

When my boy was born, it was a C section so the wife was pretty drugged up and unable to hold him. Anyway the midwife said "oh do you want to hold your son" and I said of course I did. Anyway I was holding him, emotional and completely freaked out and one of the nurses said "oh why is he holding him first, it should be his wife, she did all the work!" I was in the wrong state but I wish I could have told her to fuck off really.
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You should go back and kick that nurse's ass.
 
Smok3r said:
Very insightful, and so true!

However, you left out the fact you can't bang your wife for a few months after the pregnancy! This may actually mean lots of bee-jays and handies, though :D
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I was fucking robbed, mine was always too tired and worn out feeling for a while and i didn’t get the bj help.

But during pregnancy being able to just unload with no worries was quite nice
 
Smok3r said:
Very insightful, and so true!

However, you left out the fact you can't bang your wife for a few months after the pregnancy! This may actually mean lots of bee-jays and handies, though :D
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Yeah mate, pretty sure she sucked my dick after every 3am feed she did! (maybe not ha ha)

Midnighter said:
You should go back and kick that nurse's ass.
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I know right. She was young and probably reads mama mia or some shit, i'll give her a pass, she's a product of this third wave shit I think.

I should have also added, be prepared for unsolicited advice. OP asked so i provided my thoughts but many will just tell you how to raise a child without you even asking. Even if they've had only one kid as well, they'll tell you that every child progresses at the same age. "Well after 3 and a half months they'll sleep through the night, around 1 they get a bit restless at night, teething goes for 2 months etc etc". I've only had one but I'm pretty sure all babies are different, huge if true.
 
Judoka1532 said:
Hello,

Guys before I get into what I'm talking about, I'm posting here because I haven't and can't tell anybody about this. I can only tell people I don't know and who don't know me personally. So even though sometimes I talk a little junk on here I really do have respect for a lot of you guys and It's a pleasure to communicate back and forth about different topics. I'm reaching out for advice.

Just found out Saturday that my wife is pregnant. I've been dying to tell somebody and you guys are my only outlet right now. She's only around 5wks pregnant and so some of you may know we need to wait several more weeks before we make an official announcement to family and friends. It's a wide range of emotions right now from nervousness, excitement, fear, and happiness. So for any of you fathers do you have any advice for me? For both during and after pregnancy? What should I expect from my wife? And how did you deal with the wide range of emotions.

Also, is anybody else expecting their first child? If so, know that you are not alone in being absolutely terrified and excited all in one.
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My advice is don't sweat it. Both you and your wife come from a long line of successful parents, you'll be fine.
 
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