I greatly enjoyed the other moral thread and youtube recently suggested me a 2.5 minute video where Jordan Peterson discusses the moral dilemma of infidelity in marriage.
The dilemma: you have cheated on your wife or husband some time ago (a week, month, whatever) and now you have stopped. So is it morally right to tell your spouse and be honest with them or is it morally right for you to bear that burden of shame and not destroy your family.
The answer as Jordan sees it:
You shouldn't tell them. It's your problem, not theirs to deal with. Take it to the grave. To tell them is to inflict suffering.
My reaction: fucking utter shock. I disagree with him. It's a short video so who knows if he addresses the issue of what if they find out later and the compounding harm that would cause. I mean you can not be certain they will never know and it will hurt even worse later, such a betrayal.
BUT then I wondered what my life would have been like... if my dad never told my mom. If they never split up when I was 9. Would my life be better? Would I be happier? Would I be struggling with the same emotional demons and problems? Fuck man... who knows.
What does sherdog think? About the dilemma not my therapy session with youtube.