Seems like his suicide hit the broader generation after mine (who dealt with the early deaths of Cobain, Hoon, Nowell, and Staley, then later Mike Starr, Weiland, and Cornell, to name a few). The late 80's to early 90's kids didn't have that big musician tragedy (that I can think of) where someone they grew up listening to between 5th grade and high school died tragically.
Wow you're so hardcore. It's so metal to lack empathy for othersIt's the same situation as Chris Cornell, they both had young children. I struggled to muster a single fuck about either.
It concers me that cases involving depression have increased 10 fold since, lets say, 50 years ago. Is that just undiagnosed depression , or is the ever changing environment/social pressures causing depression/anxiety amongst the population now?
It shouldn't. He preached what he couldn't handle in real life. Endure what you're going through.
I've taken Chester's suicide a lot worse than that of other famous people and here's why... As someone who has suffered bouts of depression since the age of 15, whilst suicide at any age is unbearable, it truely scares me when people in his age range do it. There's something so reassuring when you see someone in the media who openly talks about having had depression or living with it and you think that yes, they have either beaten it, or, have a solid coping mechanism sorted, therefore there's still hope for me. For Chester to finally succumb to this illness at 41, after six kids and a wife, quite frankly, terrifies me. So I may still go out this way, but I'll just endure it for another decade or two.
I hope someone else can understand why this has got to me the way it has.
The fact that he had 6 kids... that's a whole lot of lifelong pain for them. Good luck to them...
Their music was about struggling to cope with your emotions and have healthy relationships with others. They never "preached" for anyone to do anything. It's a bit silly to tell someone depressed to the point of suicide "just deal with it bro", when you don't have any idea what they're going through.
Everyone's depression is different though. I've been suicidal before, and looking back I was out of my fucking mind at the time. Legitimately insane. I managed to recover from that point, somehow, but not everyone can. I know with a slightly different outcome I wouldn't be here anymore either.But I do have an idea of what they are going through and how hard it is and its why im so mad at both of them. Depression is fucking horrible but its only a fatal disease if you let it be.
ITT a jungle asian observer is perplexed why white successful people off themselves.
It's not something that shouldn't be perplexing. I wholeheartedly recommend skipping analysis if at all possible. It's a nice impulse to maybe want to help, but it's like when a person falls into a river and someone goes to save them. The distance is far and the hero isn't quite the swimmer they may have previously believed, and soon two people are in over their heads.ITT a jungle asian observer is perplexed why white successful people off themselves.
It's not something that shouldn't be perplexing. I wholeheartedly recommend skipping analysis if at all possible. It's a nice impulse to maybe want to help, but it's like when a person falls into a river and someone goes to save them. The distance is far and the hero isn't quite the swimmer they may have previously believed, and soon two people are in over their heads.
It's tough when you want to help a person. Maybe there's a good day, but then the next day your friend's depression requires more and more. When does it end? Resentment sets in because, yeah, it's really easy to think, "Why the fuck don't you snap out of it already? Maybe you WANT to be this way." Sometimes people want to earnestly help, and sometimes they only do it because of how it makes THEMSELVES feel inside. And when they're done, they're done.
Depression endures. Just when you think you've got it licked, or you've traced it back to its root traumatic event, or confirmed its a chemical imbalance -- depression is just as smart as you are, and it's driven in ways you didn't know you could be. It's a struggle between successes and negative impulses. In a moment of poor focus, it's really easy to do permanent damage.
I'm sad and disappointed, but I can't be mad at someone that wasn't in their right mind. I'm pissed, but it's more at the fact that it's even possible to be dysfunctional in this way, and that so many people are suffering and struggling because they got a bad dice roll in life. Meanwhile people that have never had to deal with these problems sit on their high horse and talk about how mentally weak people are, that are sick. That have a sickness they have no control over. It's like getting mad at someone for having cancer.
Aye I know man but all things come through the filter that is us and im a fighter and a strong person and I just assume everyone else is too. I know what its like to crave not to be here and to be filled with hate and anger but I always seem to pull through .... But I also want to and have spent a lifetime learning and honing my techniques . I really do believe that depression only kills if you quit on yourself and I wish I coulda got a call from ol chester Ida told him the what for.
Also makes me mad cuz I got a friend whos mom killed herself and shes been a wreck over it for years and from the other side its a really cruel thing to do to someone and borders on unforgivable.
I know its complicated and Im having a hard time seeing it outside of my own filter and experiences but its a common problem for me. It bugs me that i know he new he was sick and we all know what to do but he didnt and you I both did and I dont think were smarter but we made it .
Suicide fucks with my head bro Ive known too many and it leaves scars on the living that never heal