Well the fact that you're referencing the 80's is a hint. Tastes change over time, and tv has changed drastically since then. Melrose Place, Desperate Housewives, even stuff like Nip/Tuck would be examples of modern twists on the primetime soap format. I'm sure there are other contemporary examples too, but I don't really follow the genre as much as an adult. I'd say part of it is shows are a bit more polarized now.
A guy that wants some drama and story mixed in with action would probably watch something like GOT, TWD, Vikings, SOA, Spartacus, Rome, etc. A lot of drama targeted towards women has switched to Reality TV, bullshit like the kardashians, teen mom, the real housewives etc. I'd say there are less gender neutral primetime dramas than before.