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Anyone ever read this book?
I have been reading it the past few days and I'm almost finished. Quite eye-opening stuff. I don't think the whole book applies to me, but there were definitely a few chapters and pages that resonated.
It's about "Nice Guy syndrome" and how to recover from it and be a more integral man and a man that can assertively get what he desires in love, life and sex.
Lessons I learned from reading:
- Focus on pleasuring yourself and knowing how to make your self happy and content. Don't be a pleaser. People will like you and respect you more if YOU know what YOU want and take it.
- Don't be too attached to perfection. Good enough is good enough.
- "whatever happens, I can handle it" have confidence to take risks knowing that whatever happens, that you will be able to maintain your frame and handle the situation.
- Work on your posture and stretch more.
- Get more rest and stop trying to impress/please people. Women want a man that knows how to please himself and can invite her along for the ride.
- Stop feeling guilty or shameful for wanting sex and having needs as a man.
- Let go of feeling fearful.
There are other things that I learned, but generally a good read, just a few pages to go.
The book from the title suggests that "you shouldn't be nice and should be a jerk", but really it just teaches you to be more like a respectable man and not a pleaser, push over.
The book reminded me of Tyler Durden/the narrator from fight club whilst reading it.
I have been reading it the past few days and I'm almost finished. Quite eye-opening stuff. I don't think the whole book applies to me, but there were definitely a few chapters and pages that resonated.
It's about "Nice Guy syndrome" and how to recover from it and be a more integral man and a man that can assertively get what he desires in love, life and sex.
Lessons I learned from reading:
- Focus on pleasuring yourself and knowing how to make your self happy and content. Don't be a pleaser. People will like you and respect you more if YOU know what YOU want and take it.
- Don't be too attached to perfection. Good enough is good enough.
- "whatever happens, I can handle it" have confidence to take risks knowing that whatever happens, that you will be able to maintain your frame and handle the situation.
- Work on your posture and stretch more.
- Get more rest and stop trying to impress/please people. Women want a man that knows how to please himself and can invite her along for the ride.
- Stop feeling guilty or shameful for wanting sex and having needs as a man.
- Let go of feeling fearful.
There are other things that I learned, but generally a good read, just a few pages to go.
The book from the title suggests that "you shouldn't be nice and should be a jerk", but really it just teaches you to be more like a respectable man and not a pleaser, push over.
The book reminded me of Tyler Durden/the narrator from fight club whilst reading it.