No More Mr Nice Guy (book)

[Goonerview]

Another way of putting it would be knowing how to set boundaries. I've noticed a typical "nice guy" trait is not knowing how to set boundaries and then feeling walked all over. A lot of these guys are seething inside because of being stepped on and emasculated. Applies to women too.
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The author of the book talks a lot about this, too.

 

[Ah Man]

- Focus on pleasuring yourself and knowing how to make your self happy and content. Don't be a pleaser. People will like you and respect you more if YOU know what YOU want and take it.

But what if pleasing others is exactly what I want? What then?

 

[JAEGERX]

sounds right and actually great advice, but i learned this a long time ago with sensei Patrice Oneal, the enlighted one