What’s the oldest age you would consider having kids?

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I feel like the genetic risks increase exponentially after around 45… I do know a couple men who had kids even after their 50s who turned out alright

I’ll say 43. Want to get a better handle on what the data says
 
Fla graplr said:
Never. I like hobbies, free time, money and happiness
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It’s not that I really want children that badly — it’s that I couldn’t marry a woman and not have children

I realized that the other night and it fucked me up. I could be a rolling stone or I could have a family. But being tied down in a marriage AND not having kids? That’s just sad for some reason.

I’m with you though. It’s just my parents are so family oriented that it’s hard for my psyche to fully process the idea that I may never settle down
 
I think 35 should be the max for an average male. If you're taking good care for yourself, you could start in your 40s. No one wants to look like a grandpa when you're with your 10 yr old kid.
 
Flower2dPeople said:
I think 35 should be the max for an average male. If you're taking good care for yourself, you could start in your 40s. No one wants to look like a grandpa when you're with your 10 yr old kid.
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bro what? I’m 33 and I only know like two people my age with kids. And I don’t think you run into real genetic risks until >> 40
 
BroScienceTalkatWork said:
bro what? I’m 33 and I only know like two people my age with kids. And I don’t think you run into real genetic risks until >> 40
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I'm not talking about genetic risks, I'm talking about a quality, healthy father and child relationship where you can do fun shit and your body isn't breaking down.
 
I wanted a family and she wanted a family so we made it work, this was before 25, I wanted to be young enougt so they could enjoy us.

Talk of free time hobbies and all that is stuff I still have, and a family.

Here it is pushing Christmas, they came over and helped put up the tree, Christmas without kids, nay~~~~~~~
 
I'd say latest 37. You're DNA is taking a beating and you really don't want to be dealing with a baby or a toddler in your 40s.
 
I had my 2 kids at 34 and 37. After the first year so of my 2nd child being born I knew I didn't want anymore so I got a vasectomy. Having 3 kids changing a lot of dynamics. If I was super rich and we didn't have to work, then maybe I would have been down to keep going. Even so I would say somewhere in my low 40s would be my limit. A lot of parents at my kids school and even my oldest soccer team have older parents. The kids on the soccer team are 10 and most parents are in their mid 40s and 2 in their 50s. I don't think any of the dad's are in their 30s.
 
boingyman said:
I had my 2 kids at 34 and 37. After the first year so of my 2nd child being born I knew I didn't want anymore so I got a vasectomy. Having 3 kids changing a lot of dynamics. If I was super rich and we didn't have to work, then maybe I would have been down to keep going. Even so I would say somewhere in my low 40s would be my limit. A lot of parents at my kids school and even my oldest soccer team have older parents. The kids on the soccer team are 10 and most parents are in their mid 40s and 2 in their 50s. I don't think any of the dad's are in their 30s.
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Money is no problem for me… but I still think I missed my chance

I’m going to be 33. and im on steroids. So I would have to get off steroids probably like 37 at the latest. This isn’t something I think about a lot.. but it’s probably not gonna happen. The timetable is tight as fuck even IF I made dating my main goal.
 
BroScienceTalkatWork said:
It’s not that I really want children that badly — it’s that I couldn’t marry a woman and not have children

I realized that the other night and it fucked me up. I could be a rolling stone or I could have a family. But being tied down in a marriage AND not having kids? That’s just sad for some reason.

I’m with you though. It’s just my parents are so family oriented that it’s hard for my psyche to fully process the idea that I may never settle down
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What's sad about that? If you find someone you enjoy spending time with and have plenty of free time to do things together and more resources to do stuff then that sounds pretty good tbh.
 
I had my last kid at 35 (I’m 41 now). I have 4 kids and I would have more. Also I take my health very seriously and can’t imagine I won’t be pretty fit and decently athletic in my 50’s still so fuck it why not.

We are at our base a species that is here to reproduce. Everything else we do as a society is to give us a sense of purpose but distilled all the way down we have one job.
 
Hellowhosthat said:
What's sad about that? If you find someone you enjoy spending time with and have plenty of free time to do things together and more resources to do stuff then that sounds pretty good tbh.
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I guess from my perspective.. if I’m sleeping around.. vibing.. living an adventurous life.. that freedom feels like I’m in my natural element

And every once in a while.. I’m confronted with the thought “damn that’s kinda sad I don’t have kids”

BUT.. if I’m in a “child free relationship”.. Ima get sick of her and it’s the same thing over and over.. no growth or change. Straight to empty nesting

I’m still undecided on having kids.. but the whole “child free relationship” thing I feel pretty strongly about
 
BroScienceTalkatWork said:
I guess from my perspective.. if I’m sleeping around.. vibing.. living an adventurous life.. that freedom feels like I’m in my natural element

And every once in a while.. I’m confronted with the thought “damn that’s kinda sad I don’t have kids”

BUT.. if I’m in a “child free relationship”.. Ima get sick of her and it’s the same thing over and over.. no growth or change. Straight to empty nesting

I’m still undecided on having kids.. but the whole “child free relationship” thing I feel pretty strongly about
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If I'm being brutally honest with you that sounds like you're setting yourself up for being stuck in an unhappy relationship which you're only sticking out for the kids where you cheat on your wife.
 
Hellowhosthat said:
If I'm being brutally honest with you that sounds like you're setting yourself up for being stuck in an unhappy relationship which you're only sticking out for the kids where you cheat on your wife.
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I was never gonna have kids. I basically hit puberty at like age 25… slept around a lot until 29… became a fat drug addict for 3 years.. got on steroids..

And now I finally have momentum.. and I’m supposed to clean up the mess I made in my 20s? Get off the drugs while simultaneously looking for a serious relationship?


I mean maybe I could PCT (get off test) at age 35. I’ll probably end up talking to a fertility doctor about this at some point.
 
I am already past that point.

Thinking of getting a vasectomy so I don't have to worry about it.
 
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