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So I lost a pretty good job six months ago and to be honest I'm in a much happier place in life.
Here is my story, sorry it's long and boring. I'm a self employed electrician and a father, in July of 2011 I lost my daughter to medical negligence. I threw myself back into work, I know now that I had a nervous breakdown and developed a pretty bad addiction to pain killers. I developed pretty severe ulcerative colitis because of the stress. I'm only now starting to get over it.
I worked for a company earning pretty awesome money, it demanded pretty much total dedication, as in 80 hour weeks wasn't uncommon. I was a stranger to my son and partner. I thought the money made up for not seeing my son some days.
Things started to unravel for me when the boss of the company made his son an apprentice. An absolute spoilt little bastard who thought he was it because his dad was a millionaire.
Our first run in was when decided to try and make fun of me because I got a cancer scare of me because of my colitis and I needed a colonoscopy.
The second and final run in was when he made fun of my daughter dying. I choked him out. Needless to say I lost my job. To top it off I have around six firms that I usually get work from. The boss rang them all so none of them will employ me again. The funniest part was the guy tried to send "heavies" to beat me up.

I found myself unemployed for the first time in my life. I ended up working with my brother who is also an electrician. We have set up our own little company. I've taken a few extra courses, I now have the time to train which I didn't with my previous work load. I now spend alot more time with my son and partner. At the moment the business is just getting off its feet so there are days where I have no work. The most revealing thing for me is I earn about half what I used to at the moment but all the bills still get paid and my son eats well. I just waste less.
So has anyone else taken a step back/ sideways in there career and enjoyed the result?
 
Your awesome for choking out that asshole, sorry to about your daughter.
 
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Im glad things are working out for you man. Im so sorry about your daughter though. Things can only go up from here...
 
Sorry to hear about that TS...

That guy was a scumbag like no other, good to hear that you're doing well now.
 
You sound like a very tough person. Sad to hear that about your daughter. I wish you the best of luck as well and I think it's been a good choice for you to screw half the money and get a life back in return. I seriously think more people should consider just doing their own thing. Sometimes it's not so bad at all.

And if I were you, I would personally visit with the guys that used to employ you through that guy with the stupid son and tell them, look, I'm not here to beg and if you feel like you want to be loyal to a guy that's worked well for your business, then that's cool. Nothing negative will come out of this visit, don't worry. If you can count on xyz in getting your business done, then by all means continue to get it done like that. I never had an issue with the man myself. This is not about him, it's about me or more specifically my own reputation. I just wanted to let you know that personally got paid well for the work I did for xyz, work which he got from you.

I still came here today to tell you what really happened, like how I really got fired. My daughter died at the time and the new apprentice of my old employer is also his son. Well, his son made fun of my resulting medical condition and that was bad enough and I really didn't like it, but I kept it together. Then he finally made fun of my daughter's death, so I choked him out. That's the story. I'm a man, so I stick up for myself. I also stick up for my family and he crossed a line there. I think any man will understand why I did what I did. Obviously you get fired for that kind of thing and I did. I didn't want to come here right away as I'm sure you heard something different and you don't owe me anything, so I felt like causing a situation or even having you think of a potential of that happening with me showing up here wouldn't help me or anybody else. So that deterred me from coming here right away. I don't like if anybody gets afraid of me or I cause any discomfort to anybody I like and or work with. I'm also old enough to know that no business wants to be associated with any unfavorable situation, so I let some time pass for things to cool down. Now that is in the past, but I still have to set my reputation right.

Anyway, I wanted to give you my side of the story and I also wanted to tell you that I still do great work and I'm also open for jobs. I run my own business with my brother now and it's going pretty good, but I really valued your work and would love to work for you again. So, we wouldn't brag about securing you as a customer, so there would most likely be no resulting situation on that end. And you know what? If you say you know what, we'll call you and you won't, that's cool too.

I'm not here, because I need money. I am here, because I like you and I liked to work for you and as a man with his own business I need to protect my character and my reputation. I'm telling you the actual truth. What you make of it is up to you. I spoke my peace now and here's my business card. I'm there if you need me. Thanks for your time. Goodbye and have a great day. It felt good getting this off my chest.

That's what I would do. Fuck having that little prick result in dent in your reputation. You have a business and a name to protect as well, not jsut that guy with the asshole son. And trust me on that, a brat like that will mkae a name for himself rather quickly, so you might be surprised at the answers you may get to such a talk.
 
Congratulations on choking that dbag out. Also, I had to reread the cancer scare part again because, upon first glancing over it, I thought you said you had a cancer scare because of your clitoris.
 
seamus1979 said:
So I lost a pretty good job six months ago and to be honest I'm in a much happier place in life.
Here is my story, sorry it's long and boring. I'm a self employed electrician and a father, in July of 2011 I lost my daughter to medical negligence. I threw myself back into work, I know now that I had a nervous breakdown and developed a pretty bad addiction to pain killers. I developed pretty severe ulcerative colitis because of the stress. I'm only now starting to get over it.
I worked for a company earning pretty awesome money, it demanded pretty much total dedication, as in 80 hour weeks wasn't uncommon. I was a stranger to my son and partner. I thought the money made up for not seeing my son some days.
Things started to unravel for me when the boss of the company made his son an apprentice. An absolute spoilt little bastard who thought he was it because his dad was a millionaire.
Our first run in was when decided to try and make fun of me because I got a cancer scare of me because of my colitis and I needed a colonoscopy.
The second and final run in was when he made fun of my daughter dying. I choked him out. Needless to say I lost my job. To top it off I have around six firms that I usually get work from. The boss rang them all so none of them will employ me again. The funniest part was the guy tried to send "heavies" to beat me up.

I found myself unemployed for the first time in my life. I ended up working with my brother who is also an electrician. We have set up our own little company. I've taken a few extra courses, I now have the time to train which I didn't with my previous work load. I now spend alot more time with my son and partner. At the moment the business is just getting off its feet so there are days where I have no work. The most revealing thing for me is I earn about half what I used to at the moment but all the bills still get paid and my son eats well. I just waste less.
So has anyone else taken a step back/ sideways in there career and enjoyed the result?
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I can't believe someone would do that. What a slimy motherfucker.

Glad you're happy now.
 
Ryan Wagner said:
Congratulations on choking that dbag out. Also, I had to reread the cancer scare part again because, upon first glancing over it, I thought you said you had a cancer scare because of your clitoris.
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Only if you touch it in the right way
 
What happened to the "heavies"? Good to hear you are at a better place now. Good job not taking crap from that little asshole and choking him out! Sorry to hear about your daughter.
 
Gotti McCarran said:
You sound like a very tough person. Sad to hear that about your daughter. I wish you the best of luck as well and I think it's been a good choice for you to screw half the money and get a life back in return. I seriously think more people should consider just doing their own thing. Sometimes it's not so bad at all.

And if I were you, I would personally visit with the guys that used to employ you through that guy with the stupid son and tell them, look, I'm not here to beg and if you feel like you want to be loyal to a guy that's worked well for your business, then that's cool. Nothing negative will come out of this visit, don't worry. If you can count on xyz in getting your business done, then by all means continue to get it done like that. I never had an issue with the man myself. This is not about him, it's about me or more specifically my own reputation. I just wanted to let you know that personally got paid well for the work I did for xyz, work which he got from you.

I still came here today to tell you what really happened, like how I really got fired. My daughter died at the time and the new apprentice of my old employer is also his son. Well, his son made fun of my resulting medical condition and that was bad enough and I really didn't like it, but I kept it together. Then he finally made fun of my daughter's death, so I choked him out. That's the story. I'm a man, so I stick up for myself. I also stick up for my family and he crossed a line there. I think any man will understand why I did what I did. Obviously you get fired for that kind of thing and I did. I didn't want to come here right away as I'm sure you heard something different and you don't owe me anything, so I felt like causing a situation or even having you think of a potential of that happening with me showing up here wouldn't help me or anybody else. So that deterred me from coming here right away. I don't like if anybody gets afraid of me or I cause any discomfort to anybody I like and or work with. I'm also old enough to know that no business wants to be associated with any unfavorable situation, so I let some time pass for things to cool down. Now that is in the past, but I still have to set my reputation right.

Anyway, I wanted to give you my side of the story and I also wanted to tell you that I still do great work and I'm also open for jobs. I run my own business with my brother now and it's going pretty good, but I really valued your work and would love to work for you again. So, we wouldn't brag about securing you as a customer, so there would most likely be no resulting situation on that end. And you know what? If you say you know what, we'll call you and you won't, that's cool too.

I'm not here, because I need money. I am here, because I like you and I liked to work for you and as a man with his own business I need to protect my character and my reputation. I'm telling you the actual truth. What you make of it is up to you. I spoke my peace now and here's my business card. I'm there if you need me. Thanks for your time. Goodbye and have a great day. It felt good getting this off my chest.

That's what I would do. Fuck having that little prick result in dent in your reputation. You have a business and a name to protect as well, not jsut that guy with the asshole son. And trust me on that, a brat like that will mkae a name for himself rather quickly, so you might be surprised at the answers you may get to such a talk.
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Thank you for taking the time out to write so much for me. I did contact those companies but they have there own little boys club. They all guarantee each other multi million pound contracts. To be honest I don't think I would ever want to work for those bunch of counts again anyway
 
Entropy S said:
What happened to the "heavies"? Good to hear you are at a better place now. Good job not taking crap from that little asshole and choking him out! Sorry to hear about your daughter.
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I'm not tough at all. But I got word from a pal who was still on the firm that I was gonna be getting a visit.
This group is from an area fifty miles away. They travelled all the way down and it was very much a case of coming to the wrong fucking neighbourhood
 
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You should have told someone about what the guy said to you. Even if he was the boss's son, something would be done. Violence is not the answer.
 
Gotti McCarran said:
You sound like a very tough person. Sad to hear that about your daughter. I wish you the best of luck as well and I think it's been a good choice for you to screw half the money and get a life back in return. I seriously think more people should consider just doing their own thing. Sometimes it's not so bad at all.

And if I were you, I would personally visit with the guys that used to employ you through that guy with the stupid son and tell them, look, I'm not here to beg and if you feel like you want to be loyal to a guy that's worked well for your business, then that's cool. Nothing negative will come out of this visit, don't worry. If you can count on xyz in getting your business done, then by all means continue to get it done like that. I never had an issue with the man myself. This is not about him, it's about me or more specifically my own reputation. I just wanted to let you know that personally got paid well for the work I did for xyz, work which he got from you.

I still came here today to tell you what really happened, like how I really got fired. My daughter died at the time and the new apprentice of my old employer is also his son. Well, his son made fun of my resulting medical condition and that was bad enough and I really didn't like it, but I kept it together. Then he finally made fun of my daughter's death, so I choked him out. That's the story. I'm a man, so I stick up for myself. I also stick up for my family and he crossed a line there. I think any man will understand why I did what I did. Obviously you get fired for that kind of thing and I did. I didn't want to come here right away as I'm sure you heard something different and you don't owe me anything, so I felt like causing a situation or even having you think of a potential of that happening with me showing up here wouldn't help me or anybody else. So that deterred me from coming here right away. I don't like if anybody gets afraid of me or I cause any discomfort to anybody I like and or work with. I'm also old enough to know that no business wants to be associated with any unfavorable situation, so I let some time pass for things to cool down. Now that is in the past, but I still have to set my reputation right.

Anyway, I wanted to give you my side of the story and I also wanted to tell you that I still do great work and I'm also open for jobs. I run my own business with my brother now and it's going pretty good, but I really valued your work and would love to work for you again. So, we wouldn't brag about securing you as a customer, so there would most likely be no resulting situation on that end. And you know what? If you say you know what, we'll call you and you won't, that's cool too.

I'm not here, because I need money. I am here, because I like you and I liked to work for you and as a man with his own business I need to protect my character and my reputation. I'm telling you the actual truth. What you make of it is up to you. I spoke my peace now and here's my business card. I'm there if you need me. Thanks for your time. Goodbye and have a great day. It felt good getting this off my chest.

That's what I would do. Fuck having that little prick result in dent in your reputation. You have a business and a name to protect as well, not jsut that guy with the asshole son. And trust me on that, a brat like that will mkae a name for himself rather quickly, so you might be surprised at the answers you may get to such a talk.
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Thank you for taking the time out to write so much for me. I did contact those companies but they have there own little boys club. They all guarantee each other multi million pound contracts. To be honest I don't think I would ever want to work for those bunch of counts again anyway
 
First off: wow. Making fun of your dead daughter? Good thing for that guy that he lives in country where hand guns aren't (commonly) available. I'm, assuming you are in the UK with your reference to 'pounds'.



seamus1979 said:
So has anyone else taken a step back/ sideways in there career and enjoyed the result?
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Yup and I'll let you know the result in 12-18 months.
 
Sorry but anyone making fun of someone's deceased child deserves the beating of their life. I'm glad how things have turned out for you.
 
anyone who pokes fun at someone's death is an absolute piece of shit.

i am glad to hear that things have turned around for you and your family.

good luck, ts.
 
What the fuck....what a fucked up world we livc in, making fun of your daughter's death, he deserved to get beat to near death. Glad you choked him out. What the fuck.

You're a good person, keep your head up, which you did, and now you're in a better place because of it. Keep going strong my man.
 
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