Relationships If your relationship has to end, which is better?

[Satur9]

Guess number 1 out of these specific options. Though it’s best to just leave before the constant fighting phase. Especially one you know isn’t going to get better.

Prefer 3. Try to talk, see it going nowhere, and just go. Fighting at the end never personally gave me any closure, and being cheated on is easier to deal with than her trying to destroy you financially. IMO

 

[method115]

Option #2 without question. I don't care about closure. I had a bad break up with an ex and till this day I look at her life and I'm absolutely baffled by the choices she made. Even people who are friends with her ask her wtf she was thinking leaving me and ending up where she is now. She has to lie and tell people I beat her. Which I confirmed with one of her friends that I ended up banging. Another dude we have as mutual friends confronted her when she tried to make that claim in front of him to the point she finally admitted I didn't beat her. He told me about this incident.

I don't need closure I need my money and my property. I gave up on trying to understand the choices people make a long time ago.

 

[Spounman]

Option 1 is better because we ended up hooking up throughout the next year following the breakup and it was better than when we lived together in a relationship

 

[Bacco]

#2 the cool thing to say
#1 the real life betterr option, to start new single life in positive way

 

[cooks1]

1. Have a period of living miserably, constant fighting, then a nasty breakup where she tries to put you in the poor house.

OR

2. Have a great relationship right up till the end where you're blindsided when she dumps you. But she's civil and kind throughout the breakup (dividing money, property, fairly).


I think at first glance almost anyone would say they prefer option 2. But I'm not so sure that's the better option for one single reason--closure.

Think about how you'd feel after scenario 1. You might feel liberated. And you're not going to miss that chick because fuck her, she turned out to be a bitch and you're better off without her. You'll have zero trouble moving on and living happily.

But after scenario 2, the fact that she treated you fairly and kindly even through the breakup just shows what a good person she is, and the fact that you're losing her is way more painful than losing whatever money/property you lose from scenario 1. Plus you'll have trouble moving on. You might be heartbroken for years. Instead of your girl turning into a bitch, she's still a fantastic person who just doesn't love you anymore. That seems like it would sting more.

Well......Only fucking idiots with terrible decision making skills (of which spouse selection skills are a vital subset) would find themselves in situation 1. So I would much prefer situation 2. Because idiots with poor decision making skills will have a lot more than just marital problems, and they will be idiots forever. Whereas at least the dude in situation 2 will be able to build another great relationship after a while. The dudes in situation 1.........they will have their locksmiths on speed dial until the end of time..........surely you don't think it's JUST THE WOMAN who is the fuckstick in that scenario LOL.

 

[chardog]

Whatever version has the least amount of talking

 

[Jack Reacheround]

Option 2.

I’m going to get over it either way, and end up feeling liberated in the end. I would rather not go through all the aggravation of fighting all the time, making my life like some shitty song by a shitty band like 3 Days Grace.

Seriously, the suck dicks. And all their songs are about how “my girlfriend does this or that and I don’t like it.”

 

[Mr.Maelstrom]

3. Break up with her the same day you quit the job the two of you both work at, lol.

I still think about it now and then, and can't help but to smile

 

[Tone C]

Option 3.

She disappears and when the police find her decayed corpse you have to seem surprised.

 

[Fury]

Not really anything that I actively think about but I'd say option 2.

I'm not into causing misery or being miserable. I'm also perfectly capable of accepting things and moving on. I don't see an issue there

 

[TheTickG]

1. Have a period of living miserably, constant fighting, then a nasty breakup where she tries to put you in the poor house.

OR

2. Have a great relationship right up till the end where you're blindsided when she dumps you. But she's civil and kind throughout the breakup (dividing money, property, fairly).


I think at first glance almost anyone would say they prefer option 2. But I'm not so sure that's the better option for one single reason--closure.

Think about how you'd feel after scenario 1. You might feel liberated. And you're not going to miss that chick because fuck her, she turned out to be a bitch and you're better off without her. You'll have zero trouble moving on and living happily.

But after scenario 2, the fact that she treated you fairly and kindly even through the breakup just shows what a good person she is, and the fact that you're losing her is way more painful than losing whatever money/property you lose from scenario 1. Plus you'll have trouble moving on. You might be heartbroken for years. Instead of your girl turning into a bitch, she's still a fantastic person who just doesn't love you anymore. That seems like it would sting more.

Option 2
I doubt I'd be blindsided. Even so, I handle large changes well.

 

[AGGAMEMNON66]

I think you think too much.

Bitches need to be read their rights, especially the one about the "Right to Remain SILENT".

Go on….

 

[Kardashians]

best way for them to end is to die, if you don't like them by that point. the worst way is for them to die, when you still love them.

then again i dont need to worry about being put into the poor house. i live in hoarders paradise and nobody messes with that x

 

[JackWhite]

Option 1 ends in nasty words and whatnot

Option 2 ends in murder suicide