Relationships If your relationship has to end, which is better?

[Fedorgasm]

1. Have a period of living miserably, constant fighting, then a nasty breakup where she tries to put you in the poor house.

OR

2. Have a great relationship right up till the end where you're blindsided when she dumps you. But she's civil and kind throughout the breakup (dividing money, property, fairly).


I think at first glance almost anyone would say they prefer option 2. But I'm not so sure that's the better option for one single reason--closure.

Think about how you'd feel after scenario 1. You might feel liberated. And you're not going to miss that chick because fuck her, she turned out to be a bitch and you're better off without her. You'll have zero trouble moving on and living happily.

But after scenario 2, the fact that she treated you fairly and kindly even through the breakup just shows what a good person she is, and the fact that you're losing her is way more painful than losing whatever money/property you lose from scenario 1. Plus you'll have trouble moving on. You might be heartbroken for years. Instead of your girl turning into a bitch, she's still a fantastic person who just doesn't love you anymore. That seems like it would sting more.

 

[Kung Fu Kowboy]

 

[TheNinja]

Option 1 is better.

 

[Fedorgasm]

Option 1 is better.

Exactly. The lesson here is that you should always be nasty when dumping someone.

And you should be thankful for those who are nasty to you.

If you really hate the person then be nice. They might never recover.

 

[Pittie Petey]

Option 1 is way better, in option 2 you were definitely getting cheated on and are too stupid in love to realize it and its gonna be a long period of serious heartbreak as you recover from losing her

In option 1, you want the bitch gone and are ready to celebrate when she leaves, makes the adjustment so much easier and you dont even care that you were getting cheated on cause he did you a favor


I recently-ish went through option 1 and if I ever come across the dude she was cheating with, I'm buying that sonofabitch a beer

 

[Long Dark Blues]

Option 1 seems like you know what's what and everything is out and in the open.

Option 2 definitely seems like you're getting cucked and are oblivious until the point she is ready to move in with the new guy.

 

[My name is]

ive had number 2 it wasn't all that bad I seen my dad go through number 1 it had to be miserable for him

 

[nonoob]

Option 1 seems like you know what's what and everything is out and in the open.

Option 2 definitely seems like you're getting cucked and are oblivious until the point she is ready to move in with the new guy.

LDB, Axel had his answer for either condition.

 

[Fla graplr]

Trick question

The best way is to not have to split money and property because you weren't stupid enough to get married.

 

[Fedorgasm]

Trick question

The best way is to not have to split money and property because you weren't stupid enough to get married.

You don't have to be married. Lots of couples move in together and acquire stuff together.

 

[Fla graplr]

You don't have to be married. Lots of couples move in together and acquire stuff together.

Thats fair


I get the dog. She can have the roomba and mountain bikes

 

[El Chimpo]

Option 1 ends in nasty words and whatnot

Option 2 ends in murder suicide

 

[Yoricks Wisdom]

1. Have a period of living miserably, constant fighting, then a nasty breakup where she tries to put you in the poor house.

OR

2. Have a great relationship right up till the end where you're blindsided when she dumps you. But she's civil and kind throughout the breakup (dividing money, property, fairly).


I think at first glance almost anyone would say they prefer option 2. But I'm not so sure that's the better option for one single reason--closure.

Think about how you'd feel after scenario 1. You might feel liberated. And you're not going to miss that chick because fuck her, she turned out to be a bitch and you're better off without her. You'll have zero trouble moving on and living happily.

But after scenario 2, the fact that she treated you fairly and kindly even through the breakup just shows what a good person she is, and the fact that you're losing her is way more painful than losing whatever money/property you lose from scenario 1. Plus you'll have trouble moving on. You might be heartbroken for years. Instead of your girl turning into a bitch, she's still a fantastic person who just doesn't love you anymore. That seems like it would sting more.

I think you think too much.

Bitches need to be read their rights, especially the one about the "Right to Remain SILENT".

 

[Sweater of AV]

The fuck? Scenario 1 can fuck right off and fuck itself into a living death.

Scenario 2 would be unfortunate, but that's the way she goes. Sometimes she goes, sometimes she doesn't.

Thankfully, my wife is an angel on earth so I don't have to think about these things.

 

[Fedorgasm]

Thats fair


I get the dog. She can have the roomba and mountain bikes

In the first scenario she'll probably destroy your collection of vintage records too

 

[Fedorgasm]

The fuck? Scenario 1 can fuck right off and fuck itself into a living death.

Scenario 2 would be unfortunate, but that's the way she goes. Sometimes she goes, sometimes she doesn't.

Thankfully, my wife is an angel on earth so I don't have to think about these things.

Maybe you could do me a solid and pm me her number.

I promise not to try and steal her. I'll just be a backup in case you die... Mysteriously.

 

[JoeBobbaLou2]

I’ve been through both. Both are terrible but I’d rather have 1

 

[gatchaman]

I think option 2 is better.

Option 1 wouldn't happen in the first place if you were a better judge of character. Nasty people should be screened out on the first date or at least before feelings of love develop.

Option 2 means that, even though things are over now, a decent person once cared about you. If you are heartbroken for years, so much the better; she was really decent. When the heartbreak is over you can resume fishing, confident that you are fishing in the pool of decent people. Option 2 is easier on you if you have a history of being the one who did the blindsiding as well as being the one who was blindsided.

 

[Sweater of AV]

Maybe you could do me a solid and pm me her number.

I promise not to try and steal her. I'll just be a backup in case you die... Mysteriously.

 

[Phlog]

Option 2.

I don't need to have my emotional hand held and be let down gently by a horrible time. If it's over it's over and I'll be sad but deal with it. It was still the best part of my life regardless.

Option 1 would be awful for both partners AND THE CHILDREN! It's not all about you, being a husband and a father is about putting your wife and kids first.