How do you feel about large age gaps in relationships?

[TeTe]

If I found myself single tomorrow at 46, I'd only date women in their early to mid 30s. They're in their sexual prime and have hit the wall and typically stop playing games. Plus ideally she's established in her career and makes good money.

But if dudes in their 40s want to deal with that 20 something bullshit .. more power to them.

 

[TeTe]

I personally wouldn’t date a divorced man. Damaged goods. Used up goods. Wasn’t good enough for one woman, can’t imagine he’d be good enough for my standard either.

Yes, but would you date a married man?

 

[nonoob]

Imagine if I start making thread with just quranic passages and hadiths like these. There are tons of them.

Oh c'mon man, that might not be good but as soon as @JoeyJoeJoeJr answers my DM and explains what "quranic passages and hadiths" are, my response may be different.

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I hear lube is really important while dating older women, sherbro...

Lube is extremely important. Does nothing for the age gap but it's mandatory for knocking cobwebs off granny-gaps.

 

[JadeOwl]

Actually the differences is exactly 20 years in both cases, do you even math bro?

I'll play along, and pretend you need me to clarify that the difference I meant is qualitative, not quantitative.

 

[Kardashians]

Yes, but would you date a married man?

Nah. I don’t fancy somebody who’s disloyal.

 

[Law Talkin’ Guy]

I think it depends on the age of the woman. If she’s over 25 she can be with whoever she wants, no age limit. If she’s 21-24 I’d say 40 is the cutoff for the man. 18-20 I’d say 29 is the cutoff. Anything under 18 the cut off is the man being 2 years older.

These are my arbitrary standards. I haven’t put any meaningful thought into them and am not prepared to defend my position to any critical analysis.

 

[William Huggins]

I've personally witnessed Isa having sexual relations with @JoeyJoeJoeJr's significant other. Couldn't guarantee if it was Joe's wife or his sister. Maybe both. But it looked fun.

His first cousin, it's normal for people like that......

 

[BangBang]

I don't mind a gilf to be frank. As long as she has big ole titties and looks preferably Italian/French or South American

 

[FléauDeDieu]

Seriously, once I'm rich from writing I'm going to bang as many 18-25 years old as I can.
Well, ideally, I'd like to do it alongside a long term partner as well. I'd feel emptiness banging all those girls on my own, but having a long term partner who's into it would also be fun. We could dom them together.

 

[Don Quixote]

I’ve never seen an age gap like this. Most be a regional thing. I’ve rarely seen younger men go for older women with that age difference, but never young women.

 

[DaysOfThunder]

Works for some but mostly doesn't work for others.

 

[CutStryker]

I personally don’t care about age gaps. I think most won’t work out in this environment of social media and materialism.

 

[Contempt]

If I found myself single tomorrow at 46, I'd only date women in their early to mid 30s. They're in their sexual prime and have hit the wall and typically stop playing games. Plus ideally she's established in her career and makes good money.

But if dudes in their 40s want to deal with that 20 something bullshit .. more power to them.

Yeah but they are fun. It's infectious how excited they are to be doing things for the first time.

Sure, you may have gone out to wineries or nice restaurants or trips away etc hundreds of times and it is pretty meh, but to do it with someone who has never done it before, is super excited and happy to be there? It just makes it fun again.

But of course, to each their own.

 

[liner]

If I found myself single tomorrow at 46, I'd only date women in their early to mid 30s. They're in their sexual prime and have hit the wall and typically stop playing games. Plus ideally she's established in her career and makes good money.

But if dudes in their 40s want to deal with that 20 something bullshit .. more power to them.

There is much to be said for the enthusiasm of youth. Someone else said it well. They are fun and wide eyed about everything. And at least the real young one I dated was extremely fun and willing in bed. You dont date many different women to find someone who makes good money. I mean, what??? Don't you make good money? I dont care at all what the women I date make.

 

[TeTe]

There is much to be said for the enthusiasm of youth. Someone else said it well. They are fun and wide eyed about everything. And at least the real young one I dated was extremely fun and willing in bed. You dont date many different women to find someone who makes good money. I mean, what??? Don't you make good money? I dont care at all what the women I date make.

I don't want to feel like I'm dating someone that could pass as my daughter. Talking about seeing someone see things for the first time is what I hear people say about their children.

The point I was trying to make about dating someone established is that I don't want to have to support them. Sure, just fucking around and casually dating someone is one thing.... But I'm not looking to get serious with a 20 something. If that's all you're aiming to do is sleep around then sure, I can get on board with that.

But pay their way because they're drowning in student loan and credit card debt all while working a retail job? No thanks. That's not someone id get into a serious relationship with. Not to mention I don't drink so I'm not trying to get serious with someone who still clubbing or hanging out at bars every weekend.

Maybe I feel this way because my wife makes good money, as do I, and it's nice not having to have someone rely on me to get by.

 

[Fury]

I don't want to feel like I'm dating someone that could pass as my daughter. Talking about seeing someone see things for the first time is what I hear people say about their children.

The point I was trying to make about dating someone established is that I don't want to have to support them. Sure, just fucking around and casually dating someone is one thing.... But I'm not looking to get serious with a 20 something. If that's all you're aiming to do is sleep around then sure, I can get on board with that.

But pay their way because they're drowning in student loan and credit card debt all while working a retail job? No thanks. That's not someone id get into a serious relationship with. Not to mention I don't drink so I'm not trying to get serious with someone who still clubbing or hanging out at bars every weekend.

Maybe I feel this way because my wife makes good money, as do I, and it's nice not having to have someone rely on me to get by.

I'm 42, married a 30 year old when I was 41.

It's a good balance age it seems. She knows who she is and the things she wants but is still young enough to not have a bunch of baggage. Well, that and she's cool, we have a lot of common interests too.

That said, I was never aiming for a specific age, she just happened to be the right one.

I don't think it's the right age for the "I want to raise a wife/first times" crowd. The only things she's seen for the first time with me are things I'm seeing for the first time, like on international travel.

 

[KeepingItReal]

I'll play along, and pretend you need me to clarify that the difference I meant is qualitative, not quantitative.

I haven't noticed 26 year old women possessing any particular qualities 18 year old women don't possess.