How do you deal with people hitting on your gf?

[Judo Thai Boxer]

I'm from the same city that Geordie Shore's filmed (a British version of Jersey shore) and in short you get a lot of dickheads on a night out.

So when I'm on a night out lots of guys try and hit on my gf. Normally I try and stay cool, I mean it's not like I want to be a total psycho and tell guys to fuck off when they talk to her. But I draw the line at guys touching her.

There's been times where I was standing outside and she was with her friends while I was on the phone and as she walked past a guy with his group of friends kept trying to grope her. I calmly said 'don't that's my gf' but he kept on doing it so I got a bit aggro, my gf had no idea what was happening at the time as she had her back turned.

Anyway, I almost got in an altercation with them but to be honest it happens a lot. There's been times where a guy walked up to her with a handful of notes and said he'd pay her it to come back with him. Stuff like that's just fucked up.

It tends to be a lot of middle eastern guys mostly since she's Persian but there's a lot of the roided up Geordie shore wannabe's too.

So how would you guys handle this? There's been a few times where guys were persistent after I'd told them and I've got into a couple of fights on occasion when they just wouldn't fuck off and started squaring up to me.

But it's very annoying and often times now I don't drink much at all because I know there's a good chance I'll end up fighting unless I'm out with at least 2 or 3 of my friends.

It just seems that it doesn't matter if my gf says she's not interested or I tell them to fuck off, they still persist. Any pearls of wisdom, Mayberry?

EDIT: it seems a lot of guys on here have had trouble with gf's cheating on them, just to clarify it's not like that.

I've been seeing her for two years and for a story about what sort of shit I mean, check post 174.

 

[Bear Man]

If your girlfriend isn't putting a stop to it herself...

She's enjoying it. Sounds like she's your problem, not other guys.

 

[LEGS MAHONEY]

you should handle it maturely especially if the guy didnt know she was with someone. But if they are strait out trying to grope her or continue to bug her then the only option is to dive across the table and bite this mans face like a rabid chimpanzee.

 

[Taskforce3Tango]

Does your GF dress like a prostitute by any chance? I'm not trying to be a smartass this is a serious question.

My second question: Where are you hanging out?

 

[Judo Thai Boxer]

If your girlfriend isn't putting a stop to it herself...

She's enjoying it. Sounds like she's your problem, not other guys.

I've already said in the OP that she tells them she's seeing me. They still usually go back though, I don't want to be racist but it's usually the middle eastern guys. It seems they don't like a white person seeing someone who's Persian as well.

 

[Ro Dubya Bush**]

Stop going to clubs with your gf

 

[Taskforce3Tango]

I've already said in the OP that she tells them she's seeing me. They still usually go back though, I don't want to be racist but it's usually the middle eastern guys. It seems they don't like a white person seeing someone who's Persian as well.

Well yeah. Dude when I lived in Germany you would be attacked, probably stabbed and by multiple people, if you were seen talking to a Turkish girl.

 

[LEWIS540]

From the Toon eh? I'm from Durham......almost neighbours.

Don't go to the Quayside/ Bigg Market with your G, is the only way to stop it. If the tosser gets too persistant 1) leave, 2) get the bouncers to have a word, 3) introduce him to Jack Johnson and Tom O'Leary.

 

[Taskforce3Tango]

Stop going to clubs with your gf

Yeah or at least places where dude act like that.

 

[Judo Thai Boxer]

Does your GF dress like a prostitute by any chance? I'm not trying to be a smartass this is a serious question.

My second question: Where are you hanging out?

Nah she actually covers up quite a lot, a lot more than most where I'm from.

A lot of student nights and supposedly 'classy' bars but it's quite rough in the North east so it isn't THAT classy.

 

[Bear Man]

Yeah or at least places where dude act like that.

Yeah, it really sounds about this simple. Why would either of you (especially her) even want to go to places where this is known by the two of you to happen? I guess I'm not grasping the entire concept of this.

 

[Viva]

If your girlfriend isn't putting a stop to it herself...

She's enjoying it. Sounds like she's your problem, not other guys.

I don't get this, just seems like logic dictated by assumption.

She can't control how immature 'men' act, whether she enjoys it or not (assumption) isn't the point, the point is that this couple is being harassed solely due to the fact that JTB's girl is attractive.

Sounds to me like you two need a change in atmosphere, maybe hit up a different scene in a different area? I've seen my share of grubby bar horndogs but none quite as offensive and persistant as the ones you mention. My apologies man, just try and stay cool when it happens but if they cross the line you have to stand up for your girl. I don't necessarily mean jump into a fist fight but let the guy know she is with you, and not to be trifled with. Chances are he'll spout off with a smart ass comment trying to rile you up... ignore it and move on. Not worth your time.

 

[Judo Thai Boxer]

Stop going to clubs with your gf

I don't a lot of the time but she likes me to go out with her sometimes. If I had it my way I'd rarely go out.

 

[Bear Man]

Also, pics of said girlfriend would definitely help.

 

[Viva]

I don't really think the bar scenes are a great place for a couple to venture regularly anyway.

Just my two pennies.

 

[llperez22]

im normally one on this site to get ridiculed for my comments regarding stickig up for yourself and getting in fights with guys who disrespect you. But when ti comes to girls, i have always felt like it is up to the girl to turn guys down. If i walked in o my girl getting banged by some dude, i would not hold it against him at all assuming i didnt personally know him. I would just assume she was not the one for me and move on. Her loss in my mind and i think thats the healthiest way to think as a confident male because you have to love yourself enough that you dont get mad at other guys when it s obvious the chick is the one fucking around on you.

 

[Viva]

Also, pics of said girlfriend would definitely help.

Ironic, given the subject matter.

 

[Judo Thai Boxer]

From the Toon eh? I'm from Durham......almost neighbours.

Don't go to the Quayside/ Bigg Market with your G, is the only way to stop it. If the tosser gets too persistant 1) leave, 2) get the bouncers to have a word, 3) introduce him to Jack Johnson and Tom O'Leary.

Ahhh nice.

Yeah I rarely go there, it's usually Perdu etc I go to and Floritas etc.

 

[Viva]

im normally one on this site to get ridiculed for my comments regarding stickig up for yourself and getting in fights with guys who disrespect you. But when ti comes to girls, i have always felt like it is up to the girl to turn guys down. If i walked in o my girl getting banged by some dude, i would not hold it against him at all assuming i didnt personally know him. I would just assume she was not the one for me and move on. Her loss in my mind and i think thats the healthiest way to think as a confident male because you have to love yourself enough that you dont get mad at other guys when it s obvious the chick is the one fucking around on you.

This is also a good point, perhaps not in this exact scenario but the principles hold true.

 

[Z4**]

Just tell them you "trane UFC" and they will run away.