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Dealing with mental intimidation

Steveston

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When people say things like, "you cant take me" or "you would cry fighting me" or whatever you can fill in the blank to use against you to take away your self belief in a potential fight. What's the best way of handling this?
 
It's always the people who talk a big game that can't fight worth a shit. Why even entertain that?
Truth, have this one guy twice my size and age berate me and push his dominance over me simply for the fact hes the "alpha."
 
When people say things like, "you cant take me" or "you would cry fighting me" or whatever you can fill in the blank to use against you to take away your self belief in a potential fight. What's the best way of handling this?
You tell them "wanna now? Wanna now?"

And if they try to get close, you just don't let that happen

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Truth, have this one guy twice my size and age berate me and push his dominance over me simply for the fact hes the "alpha."
It's funny how simpletons view dominance. Very low IQ. I guess if you are taking two people who are untrained then shear size would give a serious advantage. But this isn't the lion kingdom. You can't trust that some guy who weights 60 lbs less than you can't lay you out with a left hook.
 
Crazy deters 99% of humans. A blade will take care of the rest.
 
When people say things like, "you cant take me" or "you would cry fighting me" or whatever you can fill in the blank to use against you to take away your self belief in a potential fight. What's the best way of handling this?

Tell em youre right buddy I'm not much of a fighter and I don't wanna fight you while trying not to roll your eyes or do anything else that might escalate things as you don't want to be the guy who shoots some poor retard who decided it would be wise to put themselves in a position where a complete stranger might have to make a snap decision about if they live or die ?
 
Is this someone who you work with or is otherwise difficult to avoid? Context? How did this escalate?

I had some encounters like that when I was younger before I started training wrestling, bjj, and boxing. After that, my confidence increased substantially and I put on a lot of weight and strength.

I had an older coworker make a comment about "if I were to kick your ass.." to me and it actually didn't really bother me. He's old, big, and fat with no fighting experience other than tussling with prisoners when he used to be a guard. I feel confident I could take him even though I'm healing from an injury. We have a good coworker relationship anyway now.

I avoid fights unless absolutely necessary and I carry pepper spray in case of something like that. Why risk an injury or legal trouble? Better to be the bigger person and walk away unless that doesn't work and they keeps starting stuff. Even then, fighting is the last option unless they are going wild and need to be stopped. I would just call the cops though unless someone is getting hurt before they can arrive.
 
Work on improving the verbal communication and vocabulary. Verbal communication in a public setting is not everyone's bread n butter so try to improve it would be my advice.
 
Is this someone who you work with or is otherwise difficult to avoid? Context? How did this escalate?

I had some encounters like that when I was younger before I started training wrestling, bjj, and boxing. After that, my confidence increased substantially and I put on a lot of weight and strength.

I had an older coworker make a comment about "if I were to kick your ass.." to me and it actually didn't really bother me. He's old, big, and fat with no fighting experience other than tussling with prisoners when he used to be a guard. I feel confident I could take him even though I'm healing from an injury. We have a good coworker relationship anyway now.

I avoid fights unless absolutely necessary and I carry pepper spray in case of something like that. Why risk an injury or legal trouble? Better to be the bigger person and walk away unless that doesn't work and they keeps starting stuff. Even then, fighting is the last option unless they are going wild and need to be stopped. I would just call the cops though unless someone is getting hurt before they can arrive.
Someone i bump into all the time in places.
 
Develop your verbal skills so no one will mess with you and they will be stuck off the realness.



 
Is this someone who you work with or is otherwise difficult to avoid? Context? How did this escalate?

I had some encounters like that when I was younger before I started training wrestling, bjj, and boxing. After that, my confidence increased substantially and I put on a lot of weight and strength.

I had an older coworker make a comment about "if I were to kick your ass.." to me and it actually didn't really bother me. He's old, big, and fat with no fighting experience other than tussling with prisoners when he used to be a guard. I feel confident I could take him even though I'm healing from an injury. We have a good coworker relationship anyway now.

I avoid fights unless absolutely necessary and I carry pepper spray in case of something like that. Why risk an injury or legal trouble? Better to be the bigger person and walk away unless that doesn't work and they keeps starting stuff. Even then, fighting is the last option unless they are going wild and need to be stopped. I would just call the cops though unless someone is getting hurt before they can arrive.

This is the correct attitude, I avoid fights as much as possible. I've got 10 years of boxing training under my belt now, if I want to fight there's plenty of guys down my gym who would be happy to accommodate me that's for sure.

I could have gotten in one a few years ago, a fuckwit in the pub car park said I looked like a "fucken wanker" in a very aggressive way. I thanked him and jumped in the car, what's the point?
 
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