I get where u r coming from but everyone is at a different point in their journeys and sex is some drug like shit. If one guy is fine with letting his friends screw his ex, that doesn't mean another guy will be ready and it will cause serious issues with him...major bad karma.
A lot of times where I would be fucking a girl, just having a good time and then kicked her out of the room after I blew my load, I find out later that she was in love with me and it caused tremendous hurt to her. Sex is some seriously powerful shit and very complex.....if a girl is just putting out like cray cray, she is not in a good place and men shouldn't be profiting off of a person in pain. I've also met many good guys that meet a great girl down the line but she had one too many weenie in her and no guy wants to make a ho a house wife.
Sex causes guilt, shame and regret for the women and jealousy, rage, insecurity with men.....it's like playing Russian Roulette; even if you dont get hit with the bullet, you are leaving a loaded chamber for the next guy/girl. There is a reason no major religion says "f whoever you want when you want and f the consequences". We would be way better off as a society if stopped treating sex like a video game and treated it more like a sacred bond.
Gonna have to disagree with some of this.
There is no right or wrong way to see sex. You can see it as a purely enjoyable physical pursuit, or as a sacred bond meant only fro procreation, or anywhere in between.
Sex does not cause guilt, or shame or resentment or any of the things you mentioned. The chemical reaction between lying, misleading, and sex can cause many of those things. Ambiguity as to any larger significance of the sex (relationship, love, etc) or differing opinions between the participants as to the significance of the sex can certainly lead to guilt jealousy, resentment, or emotional pain.
When you caused so much pain to the girl you fucked then kicked out, do you really think it was
the sex that caused the hurt? Not likely. I bet she enjoyed the sex. No Sir-it was either your cruelty, or perhaps more likely emotional naivete, that caused the pain. You either lacked the emotional awareness that the event meant more to her than to you, or you knew but didn't care. Or perhaps you knew and cared- but you surmised that having a clarification session on your shared objectives would have resulted in you not getting laid. And you wanted to get laid so you didn't bother taking her emotional temperature. If a person is observant and aware and interested in sex, they will usually be able to find a partner that is like minded in their approach and perspective. The harder part is not engaging or moving on if there is not a fit.
A person (women in particular) can certainly make a choice to have 'revenge sex' and then regret it later. But many also feel that is an excellent way to achieve some closure and turn the page. It is up to each person to understand themselves enough to make emotionally safe decisions. Women like sex as much as men and want sex as much as men. We all value sex differently though. So the key is to do your best to ensure that both parties are OK with the situation.
We are definitely in agreement about karma though. When you better yourself at the unreasonable expense of others-that's bad ju-ju. But if you understand the people in your orbit, and are clear in your intentions and objectives, and willing to walk away when there is no mutual benefit, that is an easy thing to avoid.
