This is why I don't tell people outside of the gym that I train or compete. I guess I'm lucky 99% of my friends are fighters and combat sport practitioners so things are good.
As I mentioned in another thread, I'm all for shutting things down, but it ends up being a waste of time and energy. What did I just prove? What I already knew? That I would mess up un-coordinated, semi to non-athletic people in a variety of ways? I knew that from the get go.
Last time I was at a party, the local bum poser guy from work picked a fight with me, guy out of nowhere latched my arm tight and grinned saying shit like he's a fighter, and although its difficult to say what it was in writing, he did pick a fight. Been saying for months how he's a fighter, how he wrestles (turns out me meant WWE). So we're already in the clinch, and its my bread and butter.
I get the double collar throw possibly one of the lightest knees I've thrown and he dropped.
Before that there was a guy who said he "boxed". Really what he meant was he watched YT videos and shadow boxed twice a year. Anyways he says to me "wanna fight?" in a jokingly manner, but his tone and expression meant "for real", and he did it in front of the others so they were watching. Guess he tried to climb the social ladder.... didn't work well for him.
So I'm down, okay. Guy tries to box with me, I leg kick him and he falls flat on his ass. That's what you get when you don't have a stance. Guy gets pissed and says no kicking. To which I say "you asked me to fight, I'm doing that, you didn't say wanna box?" He gets the idea, and still wants to go at it. Alright.. I'm being polite and actually let him up. He tries to kick me out of retaliation I guess, so I catch + dump, sit into high mount and GnP elbow for a bit until its clear (I didn't actually blast him with the elbows, just fast but light so he knows whats up)
But it comes back to my original point, I wasted time and energy which could have been used elsewhere to prove a stupid point I already knew.
I guess the problem being around fighters almost everyday it skews with my perception of the average guy. I think the average guy can take hits just as hard, but turns out not. Man even going real light, sub-30%, and they take it bad. I've literally went flow sparring intensity and not even with a clenched fist.
Its similar to when I was told 1/3rd of people here are obese, and of course I don't buy it because everyone at the gym is 10-15% bodyfat. But once I spent some down time away from the gym, it was eye opening how "sheltered" I was
Couldn't take down untrained and got countered, what a can
But yeah, where the hell are you working that chumps are picking fights with you over nothing.
Didn't know that Patrick Swayne posted on Sherdog
It really does help big time. You'll get into shape, feel you're really part of the sport, because really deep down if you don't compete it doesn't feel real since the sport's really based on competing.
Also, the confidence boost is huge. Maybe you won't win the fight, but knowing you can take hits from much stronger and athletic fighters and still continue press forward makes you 100% tougher.
As for self-defense aside from weapons, a reason to avoid stupid confrontations is because these days people are fucking nuts. Vindictive as well. Yeah you could mess him up today, but nutjob is gonna try to make it their mission in life to rind out where you are and keep coming back to even the score.
Just look at some of the road rage shit, dude gets cut off, gets enraged, and follows the guy to his home to even things out there.