Your SO and your phone...

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  1. SowingSeason And then they went on to say...

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    I was having a discussion with my friend from back home and he was going on about how he and his girlfriend go through each other's phone and FB on a regular basis.

    I thought this was strange. I do know the code to my GF's phone but I NEVER go on there unless she is asking me to read a text for her while she is driving or I am sending a pic she took to myself. The same goes for her.

    What do you guys think? Is this normal?
     
  2. Michaelangelo Okay USA Platinum Member

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    It seems really common in younger couples.
     
  3. Matt4786 Gold Belt

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    If I don't trust my SO enough to not snoop through her stuff, or visa versa, that's a deal breaker for me. This sounds like a bunch of hogwash.
     
  4. Nonsense Silver Belt

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    Well, my husband does not have the password for my word blackberry and never will. He does not have a password on his phone but I don't go through it.

    We are two separate people in a partnership. Couples who have joint email addresses make me barf.
     
  5. frenz Plutonium Belt

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    sounds like bullshit to me
     
  6. DrBdan Something clever

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    I've heard about people doing that so I guess it's "normal" but I don't think it's needed or particularly healthy for a relationship. To me it seems like a sign that they don't trust their partner or vice-versa. Or maybe just that they're too nosy. You and your partner are allowed to have some space in your relationship.
     
  7. Anung Un Rama Idol of Millions Platinum Member

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    it reeks of insecurity.
     
  8. Nonsense Silver Belt

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    Like Rach doesn't go through yours every day.
     
  9. Matt4786 Gold Belt

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    Also, just in purely pragmatic terms....let's say there's a bad breakup. There's a good chance your facebook or whatever is gonna get fucked up.
     
  10. blokeybloke Prem Fred BMF Belt Holder

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    Personal space and a bit of courteous privacy is a much needed vent.

    I've no interest in going through my Mrs' phone. The sheer amount of shopping sale alerts of a weekend morning pinging from it scare the shit out of me enough, thanks.
     
  11. Elmonstro1 Quarantined

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    Sounds like trust issues
     
  12. themainman Like nobody has ever seen before!

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    Women bruise easily, just my 2 cents
     
  13. Tycho Brah You drink water, I drink anarchy Platinum Member

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    I think the younger generation is more likely to indulge in this kind of technological transparency. I don't really blame them for it either.

    My girlfriend and I have password protected phones. Neither of us knows the other's password, but there's an underlying assumption that all we'd have to do to find out is ask. Fortunately I feel no need to police her communications.
     
  14. Josh Guest

    I don't keep my phone password protected, I'm not worried about my gal snooping through it, and I'm sure she has no interest in snooping.
     
  15. crlkllr Black Belt

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    I have my phone to listen to Spotify, and for my girlfriend to pester me. She's more than welcome to look through it at any time if she wants.

    She uses hers a lot, but majority of her friends annoy me enough in person, last thing I want is to read what they text.
     
  16. SowingSeason And then they went on to say...

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    I keep a password on my phone for my friends and family when I leave it lying around and cops.
     
  17. lakersfan45 That's sardo! No mr, accent on the do!

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    I have had a couple friends in long term serious relationships get caught cheating by their gfs going through their phone or email/computer. So while its insecure I dont blame anyone for doing it, better to be insecure than ignorant and oblivious to ur partner cheating.

    With that said I dont do it and neither does my gf. We r both the type of people where we will ask eachother to check a txt or email for eachother so we know each others passwords and the like but given voluntarily(like if shes on comp and i am in other room I say woman check my email and make me dinner) .But I wouldn't care at all if she did. Im not hiding anything so as long as she wasnt crazy or obsessive over it I wouldn't care.
     
  18. Matt4786 Gold Belt

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    I only have a PW on my phone because my internship made me do it. I'm not interesting enough to be hiding shit.
     
  19. EOW Titanium Belt

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    If the missus wants to go through my phone she is more than welcome to, I don't have anything that I don't want her to see on it. I don't snoop through her phone as I'm not paranoid about our relationship.
     
  20. oFUNGUSo Red Belt

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    i don't have any interest in whats on my wife's phone.

    and shes has no interest in looking at looking at all the porn on mine.

    when i was a teenager i might have been jealous or insecure enough to snoop, but when i was in highschool, people werent carrying around smartphones much
     

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