Your attention is as important as sex!

[Ogata]

A friendly reminder not to Sherdoggers but to any interlopers that find Sherdog due to strong search engine which bumps sherdog on top of the web pages.

So to all you guest reading this, do not give your attention away to women. Your attention= sex!

The more sex a woman gives away, the cheaper she becomes. Same with men and their attention. The more attention you give to a woman, the cheaper you become and are labeled as a weak loser and a push over. While a man who is selective ( asshole behavior) with the gals he interacts with tends to be looked at as valuable. It makes women say ``omg why does he talk to Carla but not to me!!!``

When you are selective and exclusive with who you entertain and give attention to, you are creating your own reality within a reality that gives birth to the ability to change your destiny. To be able to transcend your own lot in life and rise above your given role in society and evolve past your own limitation in your reputation. Use this power to your advantage and know that you matter in this world!

 

[Ponchik]

If I don't give her attention, she'll just go and get it from someone else eventually.

How the fuck is she supposed to know that I like and care about her for real, and am not just being polite, ffs.

 

[Versez]

A friendly reminder not to Sherdoggers but to any interlopers that find Sherdog due to strong search engine which bumps sherdog on top of the web pages.

So to all you guest reading this, do not give your attention away to women. Your attention= sex!

The more sex a woman gives away, the cheaper she becomes. Same with men and their attention. The more attention you give to a woman, the cheaper you become and are labeled as a weak loser and a push over. While a man who is selective ( asshole behavior) with the gals he interacts with tends to be looked at as valuable. It makes women say ``omg why does he talk to Carla but not to me!!!``

When you are selective and exclusive with who you entertain and give attention to, you are creating your own reality within a reality that gives birth to the ability to change your destiny. To be able to transcend your own lot in life and rise above your given role in society and evolve past your own limitation in your reputation. Use this power to your advantage and know that you matter in this world!

I've failed a lot at this. Paid the price in the past.

 

[Versez]

If I don't give her attention, she'll just go and get it from someone else eventually.

How the fuck is she supposed to know that I like her, ffs

Exactly what may happen, it can go both way, she can crave your attention more OR just go get some attention from 10 simps on social medias or at a festival, no big deal, there is no good answers to this.

 

[mixmastermo]

Exactly what may happen, it can go both way, she can crave your attention more OR just go get some attention from 10 simps on social medias or at a festival, no big deal, there is no good answers to this.

This is correct.

 

[Alphaboy]

Actually good post. I've never been a fan of "be an asshole" to attract women, but I agree about being selective about your attention and validation, it's like currency.

 

[Ogata]

If I don't give her attention, she'll just go and get it from someone else eventually.

How the fuck is she supposed to know that I like and care about her, ffs

Nonsense!

No matter what you look like, women are EXTREMELY aware of every guy in their surrounding. Even if you are disfigured, she is still aware and is yearning for you to talk to her so that she is validated.


You have to be social but no with her is the key to make her know that you indeed like to socialize and yet she is being excluded creates the curiosity of ``why does he not talk to me?``

I've failed a lot at this. Paid the price in the past.

We all been there and its a learning experience and sometimes it has to happen a few times. But I learned in yoga that, if you give one or two people attention and exclude the rest. You create a currency and value in your attention.

Exactly what may happen, it can go both way, she can crave your attention more OR just go get some attention from 10 simps on social medias or at a festival, no big deal, there is no good answers to this.

There is an answer brother!

Selective attention is the key. If you are just the quite guy that never talks to anyone, you are forgotten and no simps are simps. I have gigs as a romance writer and if you use a specific language to your conversation that oozes with romantic and erotic tone then it tends to create value.

Now if you are selective with your attention, you become a commodity worth engaging and if you are selective in your engagement, you become a fable legend. In that case, you have flipped the script. I have seen a guy who is super short and ethnic ( two major disadvantage) pull this off and has women chasing after him to the point of him having a harem of women wherever he went. This man, this legend has appeared to have passed away or has disappeared and I want to honor him and him saving me from a life of loneliness.

 

[Ogata]

This is correct.

Please read post 7 and ask me any question and I will address any question about the man who became my savior!

Actually good post. I've never been a fan of "be an asshole" to attract women, but I agree about being selective about your attention and validation, it's like currency.

True but polite society likes to call anyone and everyone an asshole if it offends their delicate sensitivity.

Also I remember you being a preacher and you mentioned you get attention because you are positioned in a place of power and in that power, others want a taste and you have to be selective of who is worthy and qualified for that taste and so I know you can appreciate this post since it coincides with your reality.

 

[Sano]

Acting in a certain way, even if pretending not to care, is mentally exhausting. All this calculated BS doesn't work in the end, you can't predict peoples behaviors like that. Dating is much more about compatibility than anything else.

Yes, obviously if you've had dating experience you know that being too clingy can push some people away, but over-correcting and going in the opposite direction can have the same effect and both are based on you wanting to appease someone else. Just value yourself and stick to your principles, but be a nice person and show interest if you have any. If someone doesn't feel the same way or make you do all the work, then move on. No need to waste time worrying about how to manipulate someone into liking you.

I wish I didn't spend years trying to get every girl I was interested in to like me and putting my own value as a man on that person. Getting older you start to realise that some people simply wont be into you for whatever reason, and there's nothing you can do to change that. You can however change your mindset.

 

[mixmastermo]

If I don't give her attention, she'll just go and get it from someone else eventually.

How the fuck is she supposed to know that I like and care about her for real, and am not just being polite, ffs.

Exactly what may happen, it can go both way, she can crave your attention more OR just go get some attention from 10 simps on social medias or at a festival, no big deal, there is no good answers to this.

Actually good post. I've never been a fan of "be an asshole" to attract women, but I agree about being selective about your attention and validation, it's like currency.

Please read post 7 and ask me any question and I will address any question about the man who became my savior!



True but polite society likes to call anyone and everyone an asshole if it offends their delicate sensitivity.

Also I remember you being a preacher and you mentioned you get attention because you are positioned in a place of power and in that power, others want a taste and you have to be selective of who is worthy and qualified for that taste and so I know you can appreciate this post since it coincides with your reality.

I'll share some experiences I have had with you guys

When I was in a serious relationship, I worked at a place in NYC in a small office with a group of attractive young women. They all used to sit with me at lunch. The most attractive of the group (I'll call her C) was rather aggressive with her flirting with me at times, to the point where she'd quite literally come to my desk, start a chat, and put her tits in my face. I'm talking boobs resting on my cheek in my face. She was in a serious relationship too, living with a guy and everything, so I was quite confused by this behavior. We used to walk to the train station together but she took a different train so we'd eventually go our seperate ways.

Anyway the reason I am sharing this is that there was a brief window where I definitely could have pursued her- the flirtation and the attention she gave me was super high, but being that I was in a relationship I didn't do anything and she eventually stopped paying attention to me. It even got to the point where she acted like I was the weird one if I tried to strike up a convo with her.

As guys, we have to recognize when that window of opportunity is open and seize it, otherwise it could be gone for good. Now I am single, working at another job and there was this young lady who works in another building randomly out of the blue gave me a bunch of attention- which was weird because I barely see her, therefore barely know her. Since it came out of the blue I wasn't prepared for that to happen. On another occasion when I tried to strike up a convo she actively shunned me, like I was the weird one.

The game isn't as simple as "ignoring" or "negging" a woman or being selective with attention. You also have to strike when the iron is hot.

 

[Versez]

I'll share some experiences I have had with you guys

When I was in a serious relationship, I worked at a place in NYC in a small office with a group of attractive young women. They all used to sit with me at lunch. The most attractive of the group (I'll call her C) was rather aggressive with her flirting with me at times, to the point where she'd quite literally come to my desk, start a chat, and put her tits in my face. I'm talking boobs resting on my cheek in my face. She was in a serious relationship too, living with a guy and everything, so I was quite confused by this behavior. We used to walk to the train station together but she took a different train so we'd eventually go our seperate ways.

Anyway the reason I am sharing this is that there was a brief window where I definitely could have pursued her- the flirtation and the attention she gave me was super high, but being that I was in a relationship I didn't do anything and she eventually stopped paying attention to me. It even got to the point where she acted like I was the weird one if I tried to strike up a convo with her.

As guys, we have to recognize when that window of opportunity is open and seize it, otherwise it could be gone for good. Now I am single, working at another job and there was this young lady who works in another building randomly out of the blue gave me a bunch of attention- which was weird because I barely see her, therefore barely know her. Since it came out of the blue I wasn't prepared for that to happen. On another occasion when I tried to strike up a convo she actively shunned me, like I was the weird one.

The game isn't as simple as "ignoring" or "negging" a woman or being selective with attention. You also have to strike when the iron is hot.

Exactly, i used that window that particular women gave me when it was hot, for several month, now that window closed, had a good time and move on to a new chapter, gotta use it when its there, anything can happen, women are very emotional and got with their 'vibe' now the vibe is gone, gotta go.

 

[FactNotFiction]

Just be a high value man. Stop this simping about negging or restricting attention. Have high standards for yourself and girls will come. And if they dont come to you then just work on yourself more until they pursue you.

Stop putting pussy on a pedestal.

As a man be decently groomed, hygienic, dress good, keep your home clean and organized. Have high standards and moral values.

I don’t need to «perform» or «seduce» women and neither should you.

Do you think viking warriors of the past did that?

 

[Alphaboy]

In my experience - this isn't based on any theory or anything like that, attention can be powerful. Don't act too simpish, needy, or anything. I'm generally a good conversationalist, very attentive to people in general (men, women, etc.) I'll remember random details people tell me.

There are mainly women in my office. I've had several times they'd tell me "you're so easy to talk to." An intern saying "we should hang out," another inviting me to go out and grab lunch with them during break, texting to chit chat. etc. This is all from being attentive and sociable. They all like attention. Maybe not from a guy they find creepy/undesirable but in general yes.

One woman told me she imagined I'm good in bed. When I inquired why she thought that, she said "you just seem so attentive." Apparently they correlate the two, which I did not consider.

If you abruptly take that attention away, it'd be like snatching a rug or tablecloth, and it will be noticeable to said party.

Again, not saying this is the right way to do things or the wrong way, just what I've personally observed.

 

[gspieler]

+1 to those who posted that, there’s a middle ground between giving yourself away, and being too stuck up.

 

[AristotleAmadopolis]

its probably a lot more nuanced

 

[I Am Legion]

There are some great points in here. I will tell you all that one of the resons I have done so well with women is because I am naturally an independent person, never needy or clingy. I dont do it on purpose but I give women the attention they crave, when I want to. They feel it, see it, love it. But naturally, because of who I am, I also will be off in my own head and thoughts, or doing my own thing. That causes them to want the attention they know I am capable of giving even more. SOmetimes they will say things like "You never listen to me" "You ignore me" "Why do you turn your back on me when we lay in bed"....But all these things do is make them want me more.

 

[ferrisjso]

This is true both ways don't think it's a gender thing. People desire things they don't have and don't appreciate the things they do. If an attractive woman was really nice to you she'd probably lose points in your mind. That's just the way it works.

It's not healthy at all we should desire people who treat us better but for whatever reason we don't.

 

[Alphaboy]

You have to be social but no with her is the key to make her know that you indeed like to socialize and yet she is being excluded creates the curiosity of ``why does he not talk to me?``

Again, good advice. If you're some socially awkward geek sitting in the corner, nobody will care that you aren't talking to them - you aren't talking to anyone. If you're big man on campus, garnering attention and don't notice her, it will burn her up and in many cases seek it!

I'll share some experiences I have had with you guys

When I was in a serious relationship, I worked at a place in NYC in a small office with a group of attractive young women. They all used to sit with me at lunch. The most attractive of the group (I'll call her C) was rather aggressive with her flirting with me at times, to the point where she'd quite literally come to my desk, start a chat, and put her tits in my face. I'm talking boobs resting on my cheek in my face. She was in a serious relationship too, living with a guy and everything, so I was quite confused by this behavior. We used to walk to the train station together but she took a different train so we'd eventually go our seperate ways.

Anyway the reason I am sharing this is that there was a brief window where I definitely could have pursued her- the flirtation and the attention she gave me was super high, but being that I was in a relationship I didn't do anything and she eventually stopped paying attention to me. It even got to the point where she acted like I was the weird one if I tried to strike up a convo with her.

As guys, we have to recognize when that window of opportunity is open and seize it, otherwise it could be gone for good. Now I am single, working at another job and there was this young lady who works in another building randomly out of the blue gave me a bunch of attention- which was weird because I barely see her, therefore barely know her. Since it came out of the blue I wasn't prepared for that to happen. On another occasion when I tried to strike up a convo she actively shunned me, like I was the weird one.

The game isn't as simple as "ignoring" or "negging" a woman or being selective with attention. You also have to strike when the iron is hot.

Yup, sounds about right! I agree with everything you said, except not all women will necessarily cheat. She could have just liked you on some "work hubby" type thing and enjoyed hanging/conversing with you. Maybe if she had a break up you'd be first in line to tap that.

If an attractive woman was really nice to you she'd probably lose points in your mind.

Idk about that bro. Lol

 

[JoeyJoeJoeJr]

I just walk around and girls throw themselves at my feet.

 

[FactNotFiction]

I just walk around and girls throw themselves at my feet.

As it should be